Ekuqaleni, umntu unokuthanda into enjalo yothando oluqinileyo, kodwa ekugqibeleni kuya kufika ixesha apho kusemfuneko ukuba kucacise ukuba umntu akakwazi ukubala ngokulandelana. Kwaye ndifuna ukwenza oku ngenyameko nangokuchanekileyo, ukuze ungakhubeki umntu ngokungazenzisiyo kwaye ungamzwanga ubuhlungu obukhulu.
Ungamvumela njani umntu ukuba awuyidingi? Impendulo ecacileyo: uthembeke kwaye uthethe ngokuthe ngqo ngomntu ngesimo sakhe sengqondo kuye. Inyaniso akulula ukwenza njengoko kubonakala ngaphandle. Kufuneka uxoxe ubuso nobuso, qalisa ngezinto ezilungileyo ozithandayo kuye kwaye umlethele ngcamango yokuba awucwangcanga kwikamva elifutshane kunye nomntu ozakuthetha ngokuthe ngqo. Kunokwenzeka ukuba ukuqonda indoda kuya kuba nzima. Mhlawumbi uya kuqiniseka ngakumbi ukuba uye wadibana nesimo sakhe kwaye amandla akhe avuselelwe "aya kuphephelela inqaba".
Ukuvumela umntu ukuba aqonde ukuba ukungakhathaleli akudingeki nje ngamazwi, kodwa ngeengcebiso ezingenanto. Ukungaphumeleli kwintlanganiso, ukungalindelekanga kwintetho, ukungakhathaleli kwintetho yesicoco, ukuguqula abanye abantu kufuneka kuqiniseke ukuziphatha kwakho. Ukuba unquma ukungaziniki isizathu esongezelelweyo soqhagamshelwano, qhubeka unomphela kude kube sekupheleni.
Zama ukuhleka ngamahlaya, kungekhona ukudlala ngothando, mhlawumbi ungamomotheka kwaye ungayigxina intloko yakho. Musa ukubeka ithemba kumntu ngenxa yenceba. Ngoko wenze konke kunzima ngakumbi.
Zama ukummisela kwintombi yakho eyedwa, mhlawumbi indoda iya kutshintsha ingqalelo "into enobungane". Bancede ukuba bafumane umgangatho oqhelekileyo, ulungelelanise ngendlela enobubele kwaye uhambe wedwa.
Buza omnye wabahlobo bakho ngesimo esiqinileyo ukuthetha naye njengomntu.
Ukuba izizathu eziqhubekayo azincedi, kwaye uloyiko, phantsi kokutshutshiswa rhoqo, kufuneka usebenze ngokunyanisekileyo kwaye ube nobuqili. Cinga ngento efanelekileyo kwimpawu yakho, ubuso obusweni, intetho inokuthi ihlaziye, inokubangela ukucasuka okanye ukunyaniseka. Faka intetho kwingxoxo engafanelekanga, ukuphazamisa, umbize ngehora lesithathu ekuseni, uziphathe ngokugqithiseleyo phambi koomama okanye abantu abachaphazelayo, bavele phambi kwakhe kwifomu engathandekiyo.
Zama ukungagqoki iingubo ezingenangqiqo kwithuba elithile, musa ukwenza i-styles ze-styles. Mncede alahlekelwe ngumdla kuwe. Mhlawumbi ufanele wenze sengathi unemikhwa enyanyekayo. Buza, ekugqibeleni, ukuboleka imali kuye. Masibalekele kuwe!
Uvakalelwa kukuba le nkwenkwe iqala ukupholisa, zama ukuyilandela encinci. I-psyche yomntu yenzelwe ukwenzela ukuba abantu bavame ukugijima emva kwabo bafuna ukufunwa, kwaye ngokukhawuleza xa befumana umphumo oyifunayo, inzala yabo iyaphela.
Ngaphantsi cinga indlela yokuvumela loo mntu ukuba akayidingi, kwaye enze okungakumbi. Musa ukuhlala "kwidolophana kagogo," bonisa ubulumko bakho. Ekugqibeleni, izigidi zeempepha zibhalwa malunga nendlela yokuphumelela ngayo uvelwano nothando, kwaye kulula kakhulu ukutshabalalisa le ntliziyo ephosakeleyo.
Okokugqibela, cinga, okanye mhlawumbi entliziyweni yakho awufuni ukuyeka umntu oqhotyoshelweyo. Zibuze ukuba uya kuxolela ukuba ngokukhawuleza ushiya ubomi bakho. Ekugqibeleni, akuwona wonke umntu eMhlabeni odibana naye ebomini bakhe uthando olungenanto.