Kukho amaxesha apho ekugqibeleni uye wagqiba kwelokuba ubeke ingongoma, kodwa umthandi wakho wanquma ukuyibuyisela imeko kwaye uphendule le ngongoma ibe yi-comma enkulu kunye ne-ellipsis. Njengomthetho, umnqweno womntu wokwenza uxolo unokukwazi 'ukufunda' ngokulula malunga neefowuni zakhe ezikhutshwe ngokukhawuleza, imibuzo malunga nobomi bakhe, abantu abaqhelana nabo, alula, maxa wambi bafumana "iincwadi" okanye imilayezo emnatha. Zonke ezi zinto ngokuthe ngqo zibonisa ukuba umthandi ufuna ukulahla isiqalo sokuqala "ex" kwaye ubonise ukuba uyamkhathalela.
Njengomthetho, isizathu sokuba umsebenzi wakhe unokuba ngumnqweno wokubangela uxinzelelo lwengqondo, ungabi nokwenza ulwalamano olutsha okanye ufuna ngokwenene ukwenza. Ngoko ke, ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokugqibela, kubalulekile ukufumana ukuba zeziphi izizathu zibini zikhokelwa ngumthandi wakho wangaphambili.
Ukuxolelana nazo zonke ezilandelayo
Inyaniso yokuba umthandi ufuna ukuxolelana, okokuqala, uthi uyakwazi ukuqonda kwaye uzama ngazo zonke iindlela zokulungisa iimpazamo eziye zabangela ukuhlukana kwakho. Kule meko, into ephambili kukuba akabonanga nje inzala, kodwa wazama nokuba luncedo. Kuphela nje ukuba kulungele ukutyhila inyaniso, akusiyo isiseko somsebenzi wakhe wokungavumi. Ngamanye amagama, uyamcela uncedo, impendulo yakhe ayikho ithuba lokuxolelana. Ewe, ukuba uqaphela ukuba umthandi wakho wangaphambili utshintshile kwaye uzama ukuziphatha ngendlela enokwenzeka ukuze uyenze, ukhathalele kakhulu, ujongele, uyaqiniseka ukuba le ndoda yaqonda ukuba uyithande kangakanani kuye.
Ukuba uqinisekile ukuba umthandi ufuna ukuhlaziywa kobudlelwane, eqonda ukuba wayengafanelekanga, kufuneka wenze isigqibo. Cinga ukuba ulungele ukumxolela uze uphinde ungene entliziyweni yakho, uvuselele ubuhlobo bakho. Ukuba ewe, ungathathi ixesha elide. Thetha naye ngokungathí sina, ukuba kungekhona nje kuphela okuya kumnika umntu ithuba, kodwa kukukunceda uhlolisise ubunzulu beenjongo zakhe. Kwimeko apho indoda ifuna ukukubona kuphela kwizicwangciso zakhe ngekamva, iimvakalelo zakhe zinyanisekileyo. Ewe, ngokuthe ngqo akayi kubonisa oko akuvakalelwayo. Kufuneka ulandele iziphakamiso zakhe kunye nokugcina.
Ukubuyisela ixesha elide
Khumbula ukuba umntu makangaphinde afikelele kumntu ngamagama: "Ndingaba njani ngaphandle kwakho okubi!". Yiba nomthandi uhlangane-umhlangabeze ngesidima! Iinyembezi akumele ziboniswe kwintlanganiso, kwaye imbonakalo ifanele ihlangabezane nayo yonke imigangatho. Yithatha ubuhle kwiveki yonke, umangaliswe ngumthandi wangaphambili ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba awunakunqunyulwa kuyo nayiphi na imeko. Ngendlela, mvalela ukuvuma ngokukrakra kamva, kwaye nje ngomqondiso wobungane entlanganisweni, thintela lakhe ipeni. Bonisa loo mntu ukuba ufanele ufanele indawo yakho!
Ukuba umhlangano odibeneyo wokudibanisa owenziwe kwintsimi yakho (ekhaya lakho), cebisa ukuba umntu ahlale phantsi apho wayehlala ekhululekile. Ngoko unokwenza udibaniso phakathi kwimeko yangempela yezinto kunye neemvakalelo zakho. Bonisa umthandi wakho ukuba indawo yakhe isabakhululekile, zombini endlwini nangentliziyo.
Ithuba lesibini lokunika umthandi xa intliziyo yakho ikhululekile kwaye ebomini bakho akukho mntu uziva evakalelwa ngokwenene kuwe, ezama ukukuvuyisa. Kwakhona, kufuneka uqonde ukuba ufuna ukuba kubuyiselwe kwaye yintoni okulindeleyo kuyo. Emva koko, ukwenza uxolo nomntu yinto enye, kwaye ukuzibona ngokwakho kwixesha elizayo kunjalo. Akuyimfuneko ukubuyela kumntu osondeza ngezithembiso, kuba, ukuba kunjalo njalo, ngoko akuyiyo into yokuba oku kuya kuqhubeka. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba yangaphambili ayifanelekanga. Khumbula ukuba ukuzisola okubuhlungu akusoloko kusuka entliziyweni.
Indoda efuna ukuphinda ilwalamano ayiyi kuthetha ngohlobo lwakhe lwangoku kunye nezinye iincwadi. Uya kuzama ukujikeleza kwesi sihloko ngecala. Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, cinga ukuba ngaba umthandi wakho wangaphambili ukhokelwa yinyaniso yokuba, xa uyenze nawe, uya kuba "inkululeko yokukhetha." Ngoko, ngaphambi kokuba uqhubele "kwi-whirlpool nekhanda lakho," cinga ngamakhulu amaxesha, ulinganise zonke izinto ezixhamlayo kunye neengxaki, kwaye wenze kuphela isigqibo sokugqibela.