1. Ukukhusela umntwana. Ebudlelwaneni beentsapho, ukhetha indima "yonyana okhulayo". Uyazifuna ngokukhawuleza "amathoyizi amakhulu", ahlala ehlwayeni "kwiifom zabantu abadala" okanye ngokuzidla ngokuziqhayisa kubahlobo bakhe (ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukunyanzela) ukunqoba ngaphambili kwothando. Njalo xa ibhinqa lifuna ukulinda isenzo okanye ukuziphatha okufana nomntu wakhe, uqala ukukrokra njengomntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuthula, ukucinga ngengqondo yam, ngathi "Ndiyakwenza nantoni na!" "," Ewe, ndiyona epholile! ", Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha - enyanisweni, uzama ukufakazela ubukhulu bayo. Emva koko unokuqalisa yonke into enzima. Ukukhohlakelelwa ngumntu onjalo kufana nesenzo sokungathobeli, yindlela yokubonisa umfazi ukuba akayi kumyala. Awukwazi ukulawula "inkani" enamaphesenti akhulu. Ukuzama ukutshintsha, uchitha nje umzamo omkhulu, uphazamise iingxaki zakho kwaye ungcolise ukuzithemba kwakho.
2. Abahlaziyileyo bakhawuleza. Lo ngumntu owatshatile kakhulu kusasa, engazange abe nexesha "lokuhamba". Kwintlanganiso kunye nomfazi wakhe wesikhathi esizayo, wayevuya gqitha ukuba intombazana enhle yavumelana naye kangangokuthi wagqiba ukutshata naye ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngokukhawuleza, ukuze angayi kuye. Kule minyaka, xa ekhula kwaye ekhula, waqina ngakumbi kwaye wayenethemba, wayefuna ukwenza into ayengazi ebusheni bakhe. Uqala ukunyamekela zonke iimantombazana ezithandekayo okanye ezingathandekiyo, ukuze azibonakalise ngokwakhe ukuba usemgangathweni, kunye nokufunda iimvakalelo ezintsha, nangona ubudala. Ngexesha elifanayo, unokunyaniseka ngokunyanisekileyo nomfazi oye wadibana naye waza wadala intsapho. Ufuna nje ukuziva oko kwakungekho. Ngomonde othile nomntu onjalo unokuphila ngokuzonwabisa.
3. Umthandi womdlalo ngomlilo. Indoda yolu hlobo iyaziwa ngokunyuka komnqweno wengozi. Ukhohlakele kuye luchazwe ngumnqweno wemfihlelo wokubanjwa kwimeko yecala. Uyakwazi ukwenza umtshato kunye nesihlobo okanye umhlobo osondeleyo womfazi wakhe, umzekelo, kunye nomfazi womhlobo ongcono. Ufumana uninzi kwivalelo yokuba wenza into enqatshelwe kwaye eyingozi. Indoda enjalo ayikwazi ukwesaba, akunakunceda ukuphikisana naye, ungalindelanga ukuba uzive uzisola. Ukuba unako ukunikela ngonxulumano obukhulu - unokwenza okuthile.
4. Intsika yenkululeko. Uyaqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba umntu ungunkulunkulu kunye nookumkani, kwaye ekuqaleni akafanelekanga kwaye akanakuxhomekeka kumfazi kwinto. Nangona umtshato oseburhulumenteni, ekuqondeni kwakhe, awunciphisi inkululeko yakhe nayiphi na indlela. Ngokuphambene noko, isitampu kwipasipoti bubungqina bokuba umfazi uyipropati yakhe, kwaye unako ukumphatha njengamthandayo. Akazami ukufihla ubuqhetseba bakhe, ngokugqithiseleyo, ngokubambeka ngamabomu. Bondla ingqiqo yakhe, uyabonisana nokuxhamla kwakhe njengobungqina bendoda. Utshutshiswa unembeza kunye nenhlonipho ngomfazi wakhe, kuba ekuqondeni kwakhe akenzi nto ephosakeleyo. Ukuhlala kunye nomntu onjalo kunokuncitshiswa kakhulu, kuxhomekeke kwimali okanye ngumfazi ongenokholo engqondweni. Nabani na ongeke anyamezele olo hlobo lonyango ngosuku olunye.
5. Ukubala. Ubomi bentsapho kunye nobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo balo mntu sele beyeke ukuba ngumzekelo wento ekhangayo. Ukunyameka kuye kwandula kumshiya, akahambisani nokuphuka nomfazi wakhe oyintanda, kodwa yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukugqiba isigqibo. Uyaqonda ukuba umfazi uya kwenza konke ukuphazamisa ubomi bakhe bonke kwikamva. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha indoda ixhomekeke kwimali kumfazi wayo, eqonda ukuba xa eqhawula umtshato uya kulahleka ngakumbi. Ngoko ke, kunenzuzo kakhulu ukuba aqhubeke ehlala kwintsapho, ehlakulela umqondo wokusebenza kuye. Kule meko, indoda ithola inkosikazi, ingabi nantoni na ityala, kuba ekuqondeni kwakhe umtshato sele kuphelile. Oku kubaluleka kumntu, nangona umfazi efunda malunga nokuxhamla kwicala.
6. Umzingeli kwiintliziyo. Ezi ntlobo zamadoda ziqhelekileyo. Le ndoda inokutsaliswa yinkqubo yobudlelwane bhinqa, ukunqoba kwakhe, kungekhona umphumo. Uya kwenza konke okusemandleni ukuze azinikezele phantsi kohlwayiso lwakhe lokuthakazelisa kunye nobunqunu. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba "imayini" itholakale, iwa phantsi ngokupheleleyo, akasayi kumthanda. Ingumqondiso ukuba lixesha lokuphuma ukuzingela kwakhona. Ukususela kumntu onjalo akufanelekanga ukulinda ukunyaniseka. Uyazi zonke iindlela zokulingwa, uyazi zonke iimfuno zabesetyhini. Ngenxa yoko, ibhinqa elilingwa nguye, likulungele ukuthandaza kuye kwaye limxolele zonke izono. Akayikrokreli ukuba kuphela kuvulela amathuba okuba atyelele ukunqoba kwintsapho ngaphambili.
7. Umshicileli. Ngomntu ohambisa iintolo kwenye, ufuna ukuphepha "umsebenzi othuliweyo." Kwiintlalontle zentsapho, le ndoda ayikubi kakhulu ukuyiqhekeza, kodwa ayilungele ukuyigcina. Kodwa ukuba umntu onjalo unquma ukuphula, uya kuziva ukuba unetyala elikhulu ngale nto. Ngako oko, unquma ukwenza ngaphezulu ukuguqula isigxina sakhe, enethemba lokuba uya kukwazi kwaye uya kugqiba ukuphula ulwalamano lwabo. Emva koko kuya kuba lula kuye, isigqibo siya kwenziwa ngokwayo. La madoda angabuthathaka, okungafanelekanga kuye ukuba enze izigqibo ezinoxanduva. Ukugcina umtshato kunye nabo akufuneki.
8. Ukuthinjelwa ngokwesondo. Umfazi wendoda enjalo wayesebenzisa i-sex conjugal njengendlela yokuxhaphaza indoda. Ngokukhawuleza xa umyeni wakhe eqala ukwenza into ethi "engalunganga", umane nje umgxotha ngesondo. Ekugqibeleni, akananto ayishiyayo ukuyenza kodwa ukufumana ukwaneliseka kweemfuno zakhe kwicala. Ukugwenxa kwakhe akukona uphawu loqhankqalazo, kungekhona inzame yokubonisa into ethile kumntu. Utshintsha kuphela kuba ufuna ukuqonda amandla akhe ngokwesondo, amnike indlela yokuphuma.