Umfazi - ubumnyama
Amadoda anengcamango, kunye nabasetyhini banengqondo. Yonke into abazama ukuyifaka kwi-chain engqinelanayo, siyayiqonda kwinqanaba leemvakalelo neemvakalelo. Yingakho kungabikho ukungaqondi. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba umfana wazama ukuthatha indawo ngaphantsi kwemithetho ethile kunye nemithetho yamakhosikazi "Andizi ukuba kutheni, kodwa ndivakalelwa", akayifumani. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo amadoda azama ukuqonda ukuba kutheni umfazi ephendula ngale ndlela, aze azame ukulungelelanisa nokuziphatha kwakhe. Kodwa thina, madoda amahle, maxesha onke aziphatha ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Kuxhomekeke kwimivo, isimo sethu sengqondo kunye nexesha lonyaka. Ngelo xesha, sinokusabela ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Kwaye kude kubekho amantombazana acinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuchazela indlela abaziphatha ngayo kubafana. Ngoko ke, ngokuqhelekileyo umntu akayiqondi intokazi, kodwa uzama ukuqhuba ukuziphatha okufanelekileyo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo. Kwaye xa engakumbi kunye nentombazana ecaleni kwakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo le nkwenkwe "ingena kwibhloko". Kwaye intombazana ithi uye wafunda ukuyiqonda. Nangona, eqinisweni, wafunda nje ukukhusela ama-scandals ngokusebenzisa ityala kunye nephutha.
Iimvakalelo
Iintlonelo zowesifazana aziyi kuqonda. Ngoko ke, awukwazi nokuba nethemba lokuba uya kukhwaza kunye nawe, ngekhulu lexeshana ekuhloliseni i-Titanic. Ewe, abafana abangekho ngamatye, kwaye banamathele kwezinye izinto. Kodwa abayi kuze baqonde abafazi abakwazi ukukhala phezu kwayo yonke into encinane. Akudingeki ukuba umangaliswe kwaye unomsindo. Inyani kukuba amadoda ahlala efundiswe ngokwahlukileyo. Ukususela ebuntwaneni baxelelwa ukuba bangabi neinyembezi kwiintlanzi, babe namandla kwaye banesibindi. Ngokwemvelo, ngenxa yokukhuliswe, wonke umntu uyayeka ukuvakalelwa. Ukongeza, abantu abatsha abanalo umkhwa okhethekileyo wokuguqulela. Oko kukuthi, ukuba ubukele ifilimu, ulandela nje isihlwele, kwaye akafuni ukufumana izinto eziqhelekileyo phakathi kwakhe kunye ne-protagonist, abanye abantu kunye neendawo ezikuyo. Ngenxa yoko, ekhangele indlela umthandi wakhe atyathelwa ngayo ngokukrakra kwi-cinema, umntu akayi kumqonda. Unako ukuthuthuzela ukuba ama-hysteric ayime kwaye intombazana ayimemezeli ukuba ibanda kwaye ayizintliziyo, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuyiqonda. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubala ukuba umntu wakho uyayiqonda ngokwenene iinyembezi zakho kwaye ufuna ukukhala ngefilimu kunye neencwadi, mhlawumbi ulahlekile. Akunakwenzeka ukuba amadoda okwenene aqonde oku ngenxa yobume bawo. Kodwa bayakwazi ukudlala iimbumba, ukuze bangakhubeki.
Inkathalo yabasetyhini
Enye into abantu abangaziqondiyo (ukuba ngokwenene bangabantu, kwaye bengabathandi oonyana baka-mama kanina) kukunyamekela kwabasetyhini. Sisoloko sizama ukunyamekela wonke umntu. Ungakulibala ukulungisa isitya, ubophe iqhekeza, liphindwe ezilikhulu ukukhumbuza ukuba kufuneka ubeke kwi-toke efudumalayo, siya ku-gxininisa-ukutsala i-mittens njalo njalo. Abafana abayiqondi le nto. Bajonge kwaye banqanda kwiimigudu yabo yokugqibela ukuqala ihlazo. Inyaniso kukuba umntu uyazivumela ukuba anakekelwe kuphela ngabantu ababuthathaka. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngaba ngabantwana. Ngaphandle koko umfana uya kumxelela umntakwabo ukuba uya kugqoka ngokufudumele kwaye ukuba akaphulaphuli, akayi kuphinda, ngokuba ukholelwa ukuba wonke umntu kufuneka afunde kwiimpazamo zabo. Ngoko ke, ngokucacileyo akazi ukuba kutheni sishukunyiswa ngabantu abadala kwaye senziwa ngabantu. Ngendlela, indoda ayikwazi ukuyiqonda ngokucacileyo ukugcinwa, inokukhubekiswa, kuba, ngokutsho kwengqondo yakhe, ukuba umfazi uyayinyamekela indoda, ngoko uyambona ebuthathaka kwaye engazimeli. Kwaye kuphazamiseka kwesidima somntu. Ngoko ke, abafazi baya kuba nabancinci ukubonisa ukugcinwa kwamadoda (nangona siyabona ukuba akuyi kuba yinto engafanelekanga), kuba loo mntu akayi kuqonda le nto kwaye uya kukhubeka nje.
Abesifazane
Le yabantu imfihlakalo engenakunqunyulwa yinto engazange iyenze ukuyinyamezela nayo. Abafana abazange baqonde iingcebiso. U-Kakuzhe uthe ngentla, baqonda, kwaye iingcebiso zabesifazane azinakubizwa ngokuba zingengqiqo. Ukongezelela, kubafana kukho konke akucaci isizathu sokuba ibhinqa ithethe, ukuba ungayithetha ngqo. Kwaye ke awukwazi ukuchaza nangayiphi na indlela esifuna ukuba indoda ifande ukuqonda yonke into ibe yinto emnandi ngaphandle kwemigaqo. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba usebenzisa i-logical logic, isicatshulwa sisalathisi. Ngoko yintoni intsingiselo yokuthabatha, ukuba unako ukuthetha yonke into ngokucacileyo? Ukuba umntu ufuna into, uthetha ngawo. Ukuba ucinga ukuba kuyimfuneko ukuhlala ethule, uyathula. Indoda ayisoze yazama ukuyichukumisa ibhinqa kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo ngoncedo lwezilwanyana. Abafana bahlala benengqiqo kunamantombazana, ngoko babona akukho ncamango yokuchitha ixesha kunye nokuqulunqa iindlela zokudlulisela umnqweno wabo kwisiqingatha sabo ngaphandle kokubaxelela ngetekisi ngqo. Ngoko ke, ukuba ucinga ukuba umntu uya kufunda ukuqonda iingcebiso - musa ukuthetha. Unesakhiwo esifanelekileyo sokucinga, ngoko ke ukuba akayi kwenza into ethile, iziphakamiso apha zingenakunceda ukunceda. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu baqiqa ngokucacileyo oko sifuna kubo, kodwa kunenhlanhla kunokuba nekhono. Iingcebiso zabasetyhini azizange zinikezwe.
Ukuqonda esingaziboniyo
Kodwa ngokwenene, akunjalo abantu abaqondi indlela yamkazhetsya ngayo. Ngokuqhelekileyo bayakwazi ukusiqonda, kodwa abaza kubelana ngokubambisana kwaye bahlengahlengele. Nangona kunjalo, ukuqonda abafazi, abafana baziphathe ngendlela abacinga ngayo ukuba bachanile kwaye abazi ukuba asikwazi ukuqonda ukuqonda kwabo. Ngokomzekelo, umhlobo ongenalucalulo (umzalwana) wahlala nawe ngosuku lokuzalwa. Uyazi ukuba awuthandi ukuba ngeli xesha kwaye uzimisele ukugcina inkampani, ukuze ungadabuki. Kodwa ngelo xesha uhleli cwaka. Ukuba nombhinqa into ethile kwisitayela: "Ngekhefu", lo mfana nje uhlala ecaleni. Kule meko, loo mfazi uqala ukuzivakalelwa aze acinge ukuba akayiqondi imvakalelo yakhe. Kwaye uyayiqonda yonke into. Uyaqonda ukuba akafuni ukuba yedwa - kwaye wahlala naye, nangona akudingekile, kodwa wahlala kuye. Usondele-kwaye oku kubonisa isimo sakhe sengqondo ngakumbi kunanoma yimaphi amagama kunye nesifiso, njengoko wangena kwiimeko zakhe, nangona yena ngokwakhe kwimeko enjalo akukho nto iphosakeleyo. Kwaye xa intombazana iqala ukucaphuka kwaye icaphuke, yilapho indoda ingacacanga ukuba kutheni. Emva koko, wenza okufanayo nokuba wayeya kuba bhetele, ukucela kunye nokucoca, kodwa akayi kubuya. Ngoko ke, ukuba silahla ukuvakalelwa kwethu, iziphakamiso kunye nokugcinwa, amadoda aqhubeka eqonda abafazi, nangona bengabalulekanga umbono wabo. Kodwa kuphela abafazi abafuni ukubona nokuqonda ukuba abafana bazama ukwenza izinto ukuze sivale. Ngoko ke, abafazi kufuneka baqonde ukuba amadoda azama ukusiqonda, ngeendlela ezininzi, kodwa asinalo ilungelo lokufuna kubo ukuba babelane ngoluvo olufanayo.