Phantse bonke abafazi bafuna ukuba ngumama. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngubani okhetha umsebenzi weentsapho. Ukujongana nomntwana omncinci, umnyamekele, ufundise kwaye ufundise - konke oku kungekudala okanye kamva kufaka amaninzi amabhinqa. Kodwa yedwa ukukhulisa umntwana kunzima, kwaye izazi zengqondo zihlala zodwa malunga nokuba ubaba uyimfuneko kakhulu ukuba umntwana afundiswe kakuhle. Kodwa umbuzo ngu: Ngaba abantwana bafuna imbono yombono? Abantu bacinga ntoni ngale nto?
Abantwana ngabantu abancinci. Ngabantu, abadala, kuphela kwixesha elidlulileyo. Abantwana bethu ukuqhubeka kwethu emhlabeni. Ngaba wonke umntu udinga ukuqhubeka? Kwabanye, abantwana "iintyatyambo zobomi," kunye nabanye, "izidalwa ezingabongiyo." Kwimeko nayiphi na into, abantwana, ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga abantu, badinga umbuzo ongafuneki impendulo engabonakaliyo.
Kwaye ngeli xesha, inani labantu abazithandayo ngokuzenzekelayo ulonwabo lomama kunye nobuntwaba lukhula emhlabeni jikelele - oku kuthiwa yi-childfree (engenabantwana). ERashiya, kwakhona, kukho indlela enjalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, olu khetho lwenziwa ngabantu abafundayo abanomvuzo ozinzile, obonakala ngathi, ufanelekile ukuqala nokufundisa abaphumelelayo kwishishini labo. Amadoda nabasetyhini abagqibayo ukuba bafuna abantwana, kwimbono yomthetho kude kubekho mngcipheko. Kodwa, ngokomzekelo, eBelarus sele sele beqwalasela umthetho oya kubangela ukuba abantu bangabikho ukuhlawula irhafu "ngokungabantwana".
Kutheni ziphilileyo kwimpilo kunye nezokuziphatha, izibini ezitshatileyo ezingenalo abantwana? Ngaba ngaba aba bantu abanakho utyalo? Ungafuni njani ukuba nezingane? Kwabaninzi kungenakuqondakala. Kodwa, ukuba ucinga ngako, wonke umntu unelungelo lokuphila njengoko afuna, engathobeli imithetho eyamkelekileyo.
Ngokutsho kweengqondo zeengqondo, le ndlela yokuziphatha ingachazwa ngengozi yengqondo ebuntwaneni. La bantu abazange bazive bemkelekile kwaye bathandeke babo ebuntwaneni okanye, ngakumbi nakakhulu, babeva ukuhlambalaza rhoqo kubazali babo kuba ngenxa yokuba abazali babo babenalo ubomi bomntu siqu, umsebenzi othile, into ethile.
Olunye udidi ngabantu abafuna ukugcina ubomi babo. ngaba ngaba bantu bayazibuza ukuba bafuna abantwana, kuba besuka kwimbono yabantu nabasetyhini, babanjwe ngeendlela ezininzi, abantwana basongela ukuzinza kwabo. Kucacile ukuba abafuni ukuthatha uxanduva lomnye umntu. Kulula ukuziphilisa ngokwakho kunokunyamekela njalo inzala yakho. Kwaye akukho mntu unelungelo lokugweba umntu ngokukhetha kwakhe.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukubukela abanye abantwana nabazali babo, becinga ngokungazibandakanyi, kutheni aba bantu badinga abantwana ngokubanzi, ukuba abayithandi? Kutheni ndenze isigqibo sokuba abazithandi abantwana babo? Ngenxa yokuba ndicinga ukuba uyamthanda umntwana, awuyi kuphakamisa ilizwi lakho kwisitalato, kwisithuthi, awuyi kuhlazisa umntwana ongaziwayo. Yaye indlela yokuphatha lo mntwana ekhaya, unokuqiqa nje.
Ubundlobongela kwintsapho luye luba yinto eqhelekileyo, ngelanga. Abantwana bahlwaywa ngenxa yeephene ezincinci, ngenxa yokusebenza okungenasiphelo kwimfundo, ukungathobeli, nantoni na ... Yaye xa abantwana bekhula, kuvela ukuba abavumelani nethemba lwabazali babo, iindlela kunye nemikhosi ekutyalomali kuyo, njalo njalo. Kungcono ukuba ungabi nabantwana, kunokuba ube nabantwana, uze uzihlambele ebomini babo bonke into yabo ...
Ngaba thina okanye lobo bomi bukhohlakele kangaka? Akukho mntu uthi, ukukhulisa abantwana kuwumsebenzi onzima, kokubili kokuziphatha kunye nezinto eziphathekayo. Ewe, ukuba wena, abadala, unomntwana, kutheni uzivumela ukuba uhlekise? Indoda encinane isetyenziswe kwesi simo sengqondo, akayazi into eyenzekayo eyahlukileyo, uyayithanda abazali bakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bayiphatha njani. Kwaye, ngakumbi kunabo bonke, bafumana imodeli yokuziphatha - baya kubaphatha abantwana babo ngendlela efanayo.
Kusemandleni ethu kunye neminqweno yethu ukuseka ubudlelwane obuhle nabantwana ukususela ebuntwaneni. Umntwana ilungu elilinganayo lentsapho kwaye kufuneka liphathwe ngokufanelekileyo. Akunakucingwa ukuba nguye ophantsi nje ngokuba ingunyana okanye intombi yakho. Ngelishwa, ukungabi naluthando kunye nokuqonda kwintsapho kuye kwaba yindawo evamile ...
Ngaba abantu baye balahlekelwa uthando? Kuthetha ukuthini ukuthanda? Ukuthanda kukuphatha ngokuhlonela umntu, ukuyiqonda kwaye uyayamkela ngayo yonke impazamo yayo.
- Isiza sakwaMama sinye yamandla amakhulu. Umama ulungele ukunikela ngobomi bakhe ngenxa yomntwana wakhe, ungabi nanye ixesha, umkhosi, ithetha.
- Umoya kaBawo uncinci kakhulu, kodwa amadoda angaphezu kweminyaka engama-40-45 ubudala "uyavuka" ngokukhawuleza kwaye bafumana amava, abavakalelwa kubafundi babo okanye abantwana abancinci.
Kutheni kuveliswa kwamanye amabhinqa namadoda, kwaye abanye abanalo inqaku ukuba yintoni? Ukuba awuyithandi abantwana bakho, ke abantwana baya kukuphatha ngokukodwa xa bekhula. Kubalulekile ukuba sikwazi ukwakha ingxoxo kunye nabantwana bakho, ukufezekisa ukuqonda. Abantu abadala abanamava athile obomi bangakhula abahlobo kubantwana babo. Ngoobani esisafuneka sibale, singathini na kubantwana bethu? Ngubani oya kusinceda ukuba uyayidinga? Ngaba ngaba abantwana baya kukunceda ukuba ungelamano?
Yenza abantwana ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga abantu - umbuzo onzima. Kodwa uphantse ufana nomfazi osebenzayo, ophumelelayo, ufumana umsebenzi wakhe kwaye wenza umsebenzi. Nangona kunjalo, nabani na, nokuba ngumntu ophumelele kakhulu - akubalulekanga, indoda okanye ibhinqa, ngamanye amaxesha kunokwanela ukukhumbuza abantwana njengeprojekthi yehlabathi elilodwa ... kwaye ungadideki ngoluhlobo oluthile lwe "matshini" okanye into enje. Emva kwakho konke, uMoya uya kulandela apho iQumrhu eliLawula khona, ngakumbi xa lifika kumntu ocinga nokuqonda.
Kuyavela ukuba ngokuqhelekileyo ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga kwindoda ebantwini iyadingeka, kodwa uyayikhumbula malunga nale nto kuphela xa i-whiskey ekhulile ikhulile, kwaye sele isasaza into ehlathini, kwaye ngokuhlwa kusiza intliziyo ... Nceda umntu wakho aqaphele ukuba ayikho nje injabulo yoba ngumama, kodwa kunye nobazali, kwaye uya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba ngaba ufuna abantwana.