Enyanisweni, le meko impela kakhulu, ibubi kakhulu. Ewe, nayiphi na intombi iya kuba yinto engathandekiyo xa umntu eqaqa ngamanye amabhinqa. Nangona uthetha ngexesha lakhe elidlulileyo, akukho mntu ufuna ukuphulaphula amabali akhe. Isondo ubuncinane kwintombazana, ngokuqinisekileyo.
Ininzi intsha iyakholelwa ukuba inani labasetyhini ebomini babo bubungqina obuqinileyo benamandla, udumo, ukuthandwa kunye nezinye iimpawu umntu anokubonisa ngazo kumakhwenkwe. Abaqondi kwaye abazami ukuqonda indlela ababuhlungu ngayo intombazana xa ethetha izinto ezinjalo. Emva koko, thina, bafazi, soloko sifanele sizive sisodwa kwaye singenakwenzeka. Kwaye ukuba umntu oselula uthe loo nto, ngokukhawuleza kucinga ukuba uyakufanisa nabanye. Ukongezelela, akukuvuyisi ukuqonda ukuba loo mntu, mhlawumbi, uyaziqhayisa nje ngobomi bakho.
Ininzi yamadoda ayiyiqondi kakuhle ingxaki, kwaye abanye baqhoqhele kwaye bazenza ngathi bangenalo. Enyanisweni, kulula ukuzenza nje isisityebi uze uxelele umfazi ukuba akayifumani iphutha lakhe, kunokuba aphendule ngamazwi akhe. Amadoda angaphezulu kwezidalwa zeenkomo kunabesifazane. Kubo, kuninzi kuthetha ukuhlaziywa kunye nodumo lwamalungu obulili. Kule nto, abantu bavele bekhuphuke bephuma kolukhuni ukuze baqinisekise ukuba bahamba phambili. Inani labasetyhini ebomini bomntu liphantse libonakaliso eliphambili lobungqina bakhe. Bacinga ukuba yodwa indlela yokufumana intlonelo komnye nomnye. Nangona umntu onothando, ngokuqhelekileyo, uhlala ezama ukuxhasa intetho ye-bawdy ngabafazi. Kalula, uloyiko lokuba abanye baya kumfumana ebuthathaka kwaye ekhohlakeleyo, ngoko ude athi nento engacingiyo. Kuphela ngoku akaqondi ukuba bonke abafana bacinga ngendlela efanayo. Bamazama ukubonisana oko bodwa abangafuni ngokwenene. Le ngxaki yamadoda - kwimiba ethile ayenayo yonke inyanisekileyo ngomnye nomnye, ngenxa yokuba bayesaba kakhulu ukulahlekelwa ngumtshini. Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafana banokuthetha ngokunqoba okungabikho kunye kunye nomphefumlo ukuba baxoxe ngamantombazana abo, bathetha ngendlela abayintliziyo engenangqiqo nabangenakuqondakala ngayo. Ewe, andiyikuphikisana, abafazi benza iimpazamo, kodwa incoko enjalo, eqinisweni, iqhutyelwa kuba abafana bazama ukubonakalisa ukuba bangakanani bulumko kwaye bangcono kunathi. Amadoda rhoqo azama ukuzimela, ngenxa yeempazamo zethu, okanye izenzo, eziqwalasela iimpazamo. Ukuba umfazi unetyala lentetho ethile, ngoluvo lwakhe, kufuneka ahlawulwe ngeengxelo ezinjalo, ukwenzela ukuba abahlobo bangathandabuzeki amandla omlingiswa. Nangona loo mntu akayi kwenza oku, unokukwazi ukuguqula isigqibo sakhe sokuphindiselela into encinci, ngenxa yezemidlalo okanye kwintlanzi, isizathu esingafanelekanga.
Kuthiwani ngabafazi kweli meko? Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ukuze abafana bangathethi izinto ezimbi emva kwemva yabo? Wonke amabhinqa ufuna ukuxabiswa. Kungenxa yoko, iindaba malunga neengcinga ezinjalo zamadoda akhe, zihlala zibeka loo ntokazi kwi-stupor, kwaye ke, ikhokelela kubakhohlisi. Oku akumangalisi, kuba nangona intombazana yayiphosakele, ngokusobala wayengafanelanga ukuhlambalaza nokuhlamba amathambo emva kwakhe.
Enyanisweni, izinto ezinjalo azikwazi ukushiywa kungekho nto. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukuphendula kwaye wenze sengathi awukhathaleli. Kodwa, awukwazi ukunyamezela ukuziphatha okunjalo ixesha elide. Nabo bafazi bezolile kunye nabazilumko, ngandlela-thile abayimi kwaye baphikisana baphenduke kwi-apocalypse yesikolo sendawo.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba indoda yakho ithanda ukuziqhayisa ngabanye abafazi, qalisa ukuzikhethela, kodwa ngaba ufuna umntu onjalo? Emva koko, mhlawumbi ungumfazi womfazi. Kwaye ufuna ukuxelela bonke ubomi bakho kunye namantombazana ahlukeneyo ongawaziyo, kwaye awufuni ukwazi? Phendule lo mbuzo ngaphambi kokuba wenze ezinye izigqibo. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba umfana owaziyo kuphela ukwenza izinto ezinje ngamazwi, kodwa enyanisweni unyanisekile kwaye unothando, ngoko kuyafaneleka ukuba uzame ukutshintsha into ethile.
Ewe, ukuba uqale, unokuthetha ngezinto ezenzekile, uchaze indlela ongathandekiyo ngayo, nokuba uyabuhlungu njani, ukuva izinto ezinjalo kumntu ozithandayo kunye naye. Kodwa, ngelanga, kunokwenzeka ukuba oku akuyi kusebenza. Umfana uya kuxolisa aze afunde ubuxoki. Ngoko ke, ukuba imeko enjalo iphinda, kwaye kufuneka iphinde iphinde iphinde ibuyele, kubalulekile ukuziphatha ngokugqithiseleyo. Musa ukuyikhusela ingqondo yakhe, sichitha ixesha kunye neenyembezi kunye nokukholisa. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, zonke iimfuno kufuneka ziphakanyiswe, ukuveza yonke into ocinga ngayo kunye, mhlawumbi, nokuba ubeke, iziqulatho. Kufuneka uxelele umfana ofuna ukuba yedwa. Uziva unentembelo kwaye uthembele kuyo yonke into. Ngama-antics afanayo, unokukuyeka ukukholelwa ukuba le ndoda ingakunika iimvakalelo ezinjalo. Ngaphandle koko, awufuni kwaye awukwazi. Kungcono ukuba yedwa kunomntu ongenakuzithemba. Yaye ukuba ufunda kumntu malunga nama-antics anjalo, ngoko akukho mbuzo wokuthembela. Ukuthotywa komntu emva komva wakhe, yintoni emva kwelo themba. Beka umbuzo ngokugqithiseleyo: okanye ingatshintsha into ethile malunga nawe, okanye ukhetha ukusabalalisa. Ukuba umntu uyayithanda ngokwenene, uya kuphinda acinge ngemibono yakhe aze azame ukutshintsha, ukuze alahlekelwe ngumthandi wakhe. Ewe, ukuba umntu uyaziqhayisa ngamanye amabhinqa, ngenxa yokuba unjalo ngendalo kwaye akafuni ukuba ngumntu oyedwa, ngoko kutheni lo mntu efunekayo ebomini bakho? Kungcono ukuhlupheka namhlanje kunokuba uhlupheke iminyaka emininzi, ukususela kwisandla sesithathu ukuva malunga nawe ukuhleka kunye neendaba eziqhelekileyo nezingamangalisiyo. Khumbula ukuba indoda yangempela idumisa enye ibhinqa - eyedwa kunye nentanda, nguwe.