Iingcamango malunga nomfazi ophuphayo ngamadoda ngezinye iinkalo zihluke kakhulu kwezo zinto abafazi abazibandakanya kuzo. Ngoko ke siza kuqwalasela nawe kweli nqaku likhangele amadoda, kwaye yintoni ephikisa. Ziziphi iingcamango malunga nale nto?
IMPENDULO 1. Amadoda ayesaba ngabantu abanezilumko-kunzima ukulawula
Yinyaniso . Enyanisweni, amadoda amaninzi afana nabafazi abanengqiqo, abanentembelo engqondweni yabo, abahlala bezolile kunye nokuthembeka. Nangona kunjalo, ubulili obuqinileyo abububelelana nabasetyhini, abahlala "banobuqili" kwaye bahlela ukuba bafumane isiqingatha soviwo kwi-erudition. Akukho mntu uya kuthanda oku. Uze uzibonele endaweni yakhe. Ukuba wayeya kugxotha ulwazi lwakhe, ngelo xesha wabonisa indlela owazi ngayo xa uthelekisa naye.
Inkolelo-mbini 2. Ibhinqa elifanelekileyo kufuneka libe nomboniso wendlela
Yinyaniso . Ukuba neenyawo "ezivela ezindlebeni" akuqinisekanga ukuba indoda iya kubiza lo mfazi. Ubuninzi bamadoda afana nesiginci segitare (isinxi esincinci kunye neenyawo ezibanzi). Olu hlobo lomfanekiso abakhethayo ngokukhethekileyo - loo mfazi unako ukunyamezela aze abelethe indlalifa enempilo.
KwiBhunga . Akukhathazeki ukuba awuyi kubamba imodeli yeempawu, ufanele uzibukele. Akuyimfuneko ukuhamba ngekhaya ngeengubo zokugqoka kunye nesambatho sokugqoka. Bonisa yonke imbonakalo yakho ekhangayo, nangona ulungiselela isidlo sakusihlwa.
IMPENDULO 3. Ibhinqa elifanelekileyo likhuliswe kwimithetho eqinile
Yinyaniso . Kakade, ukukhuliswa kakuhle kunye nemilinganiselo efanelekileyo kuthathwa njengento efanelekileyo, kodwa iyakhutshwa ngabanda. Kwaye njengokuba yi-nira-paradoxical, "impawu" efanelekileyo, ukungabikho kobugqwetha kunye nokunyaniseka "kwentlanzi" yamadoda kungaxhalabisa ngexesha.
KwiBhunga . Ukuze kuvuselele umdla kumntu, umfazi maxa wambi enze ngamanyathelo azenzekelayo, aphule imithetho evumelekileyo, kwaye abe neengcamango zakhe kwaye angesabi ukulivakalisa. Yenza ixesha elithile kwintsapho yakho. Oku kuya kubanika i-twist encane. Umlingani wakho akayi kubuhlungu kwaye akayi kuba nomnqweno wokubheka omnye umntu.
NGENDLELA 4. Ibhinqa elifanelekileyo kufuneka libe nomsebenzi ophezulu
Yinyaniso . Okokuqala, nayiphi na indoda ifuna ukubona umqeshi kunye naye onomdla wokuthabatha, onokuthi ungathethi nje kuphela ukuba yiyiphi i-akhawunti "ye-communal". Yingakho umfazi osebenzayo unokukhethwa kumntu wanamhlanje. Kodwa akudingeki ukuba abe yintombikazi kwaye ibe nomsebenzi ophezulu.
KwiBhunga . Naluphi na umsebenzi wakho, zama ukuhlakulela ngokwengqondo nangokomoya ukuze indoda yakho ihlale inomdla kuwe. Umfazi osisithakazelisayo kunye nomfazi ongeyinto engenamsebenzi kunoma ubani, nokuba ngaba ngumpheki ekhitshini, kwaye indlu ihlambulukile kwaye ihlaziyekile.
INGXELO 5. Ibhinqa elifanelekileyo kunye nehashe kwi-gallop liya kumisa
Yinyaniso . Lowo owaziwa ngokuba ngumfazi "oqinileyo", njengomthetho, ubonisa amandla akhe ngaphakathi kwindlu, ezama ukuphazamisa zonke iinkalo zobomi bomyeni wakhe: ekukhethweni kwekhanda kwiindawo ezikufutshane. Kodwa umfanekiso kwintliziyo yendoda ayihambelani nendawo efanelekileyo. Akukho mntu uya kuqhubeka ehlaselwa kwintsimi yakhe.
KwiBhunga . Yiba ngumfazi kwaye ungesabi ukubonakala ubuthathaka. Ndikholelwe, ngoko indoda ayiyi kuba nenye into kodwa ibe nesibindi.
Musa ukumangalela iqabane lakho, yenza ubuhlobo obusondeleyo, kwaye ngoko uya kuthandwa, kwaye ngoko ke, kulungile kumntu wakho.