Indlela yokuphumelela indoda ayibonakali?

Ukukholisa umntu onomdla kuwe kwaye uzuze ukuthanda kwakhe akude into efanayo. Kwimeko yokuqala, ngokuqinisekileyo, yonke into iboniswe kwifom elula, kodwa umbuzo wokuba ungayinqoba njani indoda ayibonakali, kuba ubuninzi bezesondo ezithandwayo ngumsebenzi ongenakukhuseleka.

Sithatha ubuhle obungaphakathi kunye nokunyamezela

Ngaphambi kokuba unqobe umntu, kungekhona ngokubonakala, kubalulekile ukuba uqonde ngokucacileyo ukuba ubuhle bemvelo (umfanekiso ocacileyo kunye neendlela ezifanelekileyo) akukho konke. Akunakwenzeka ukuphumelela isikhundla somntu ngaphandle kwekharityhulam yakhe yangaphakathi, ubuntu obuqaqambileyo, imbeko, ukunyamekela nokunyaniseka. Yiyo le mpawu ekufuneka ibekwe ngaphezu kweyona ndlela ibonakala ngayo. Siyabonga, unokufumana lula indlela kumntu. Amadoda atyathwa ngabantu abanesibindi, abanokuzithemba, abafazi abanomnqweno onokumngeni umngeni, omele uyiswe. Ukuba umfazi uthatha isigqibo sokunqoba umntu, kufuneka amlethe le nyaniso kuye.

Ukujonga iimfuno ezifanayo

Enye ingongoma ebalulekileyo ongayinqoba ngayo indoda ibonwa ngokuba yizinto eziqhelekileyo okanye izinto zokuzilibazisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akusiyo yonke into eyimfuneko ukuyazi ngentliziyo ukwakheka kweqela lakhe lebhola lebhola lebhola lebhola yebhola yebhola yebhola yebhasikidi kwaye ukufihla ukucaphukisa kwakhe ngokumemeza kwakhe, ukubukela yonke imifino ye-NBA naye. Umzekelo, ungabona kwi-intanethi iziphumo zemidlalo ebalulekileyo kwaye, njengokungathi ngethuba, bonisa umntu wakho ukuqaphela kwaye unqwenela ukubona umboniso wezemidlalo kunye. Ngamanye amagama, kufuneka uqhagamshelane nendoda malunga nento enomdla kakhulu kuyo, kodwa nakuphi na umzekelo, ungalibali ukuphinda uphendule kunye nezibhengezo zakhe.

Ukufunda ukuLawula

Ukuphumelela kungekhona ngokubonakala kodwa ngokukwazi ukuphulaphula akukhethi ukukhetha ukulahlekelwa. Ngendlela, eli buchule lisebenza nangona kungakhathaliseki ngesini. Njengoko uyazi, abahlobo abalungileyo bacingelwa ukuba bangabantu abanobukeka obuhle, kodwa abo baziyo ukugcina imfihlelo banako ukunikela iingcebiso ngexesha elincinane kwaye banike inkxaso ngenkxaso. Kwaye ekungabikho kobuhlobo, obuchaphazela kuphela umzimba, kodwa nakwinkalo yokomoya, into encinane inokwenzeka. Amadoda ayinquli umphefumlo xa intombi yakhe ihluke kwabanye kwaye inesithandwa sakhe. Kwimeko yethu, olu khetho lunokusebenza njengento yokuzonwabisa engaqhelekanga, umzekelo, ukudlala igitare, ugibela ibhasikidi. Akunandaba nokuba yintoni, into ephambili kukuba kukukholisa kunye nomphumo obalaseleyo.

Umsebenzi wokunyamekela nokukhathalela umsebenzi

Ukuze ufumane umntu oyifunayo, udinga ukubonakaliswa kwebhanti yobumnene, ukunakekela nokuthanda. Ngamanye amaxesha umntu kufuneka azinikele ukuze azive ebaluleke kakhulu kunye nodumo. Izinto ezimbi ezinjengokugqithisa, ukunyaniseka, ukunyanzeliswa kunye nokuthengisa kunganciphisa umviwa kwisigxina. Kwakhona oku kuyimfuneko ukubonakalisa ukuzithemba kakhulu. Ngendlela, amadoda ayayithanda xa ehlongozwa ngokuncoma. Ngenxa yokuphelisa, unobtrusively ugxininisa ukuvakala kwakhe, ingqondo, impumelelo.

Iingcali zamakhosikazi

Unokuwunqoba umntu ongabonakaliyo, kodwa ngumntu wesintu wendoda. Ingundoqo yayo kukucela umntu ukuba ancede okanye ukucela icebiso. Nantsi kuyinqweneleka ukubuza umbuzo malunga nomgangatho apho umntu ekwazi kakuhle kwaye enomdla kakhulu ukuphulaphula aze amkele impendulo yakhe efanelekileyo. Ngendlela, kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ezinye zezesondo eziqinileyo zibuhlungu xa intombi ihlakaniphile kunabo. Yingakho ingqiqo yakho imele iboniswe kwaye iboniswe ngononophelo. Unokuwina umgca ngokudlala ngemithetho yakhe, ukuxelela iinkolelo zakhe. Kubalulekile ukuqonda indoda njengoko kunjalo, yindlela nje kuphela umntu onokuzifezekisa isimo sakhe sengqondo, njengomntu onentsimi engaphakathi, kwaye kungekhona nje kwintambo enhle.