Kususwe ingcamango yabalingani. Imaski kunye nenyaniso yomntu isuswe ayibonakali kwijoni elixhobileyo. Isigaba sesithathu ngumzabalazo wamandla. Ukuba awuhambisani kakuhle nommandla, unokuhlala kwimeko engummelwane. Kule meko, kungekhona olo thando, kodwa nakwabakho omaziyo kumkhwenkwe wakho awuyi kufumana.
Emva kokuwunqoba umntu, kufuneka uhlale ufana nawe, uzama ukumnqoba, kungekhona oqhelekileyo. Ngoko ndicebisa iingcali zengqondo xa ziza kuncedwa uncedo. Inkalo yesondo yoqhagamshelwano phakathi kwendoda nentombazana yenye yezona zihloko ezinzima kakhulu ukuziqonda. Akukho nenye indawo yobomi bomntu kukho inamba eninzi yamanzi phantsi kwamanzi kunye namatye njengokwesini. Ulwalamano lwabantu ngaphandle kwesondo aluhambelani. Igama elithi "ngaphandle kwesondo", oku kuthetha ukuba "ngaphandle kwesondo" beza kuthi sivela kwisiNgesi kwaye sasebenza ngokusisigxina kwiingxoxo kumajelo amaninzi, kwiindawo ze-Intanethi, kuquka iidayari zentliziyo.
Ukuzilahla okanye ukungaboni ngesini, ebomini bethu, i-vesh ayinqabile, kodwa inokulimaza ngokufanayo, kubini amadoda nabasetyhini. Kwabesetyhini, ngenxa yokuguqulwa kwegazi kwiphilvis, iingxaki zengqondo kunye nokuhlala zivela kwimicimbi yengqondo engaphendulwanga. Kwamadoda, utshintsho kwi-prostate gland, ukunyuka kweempahla kwiinqanawa, okukhokelela ekunciphiseni kwamanzi, kunokwenzeka. Ukuziyeka kukukhokelela ekudakaleni, ukuphazamiseka nokuphazamiseka kwemiba. Njengoko uFrud wathi, "zonke iintlungu nokuhlupheka ziphantsi kwezinye iindawo zobomi."
Izizathu zokuzilahla ngokwesondo zingasetwa, ukukhathala, uxinzelelo, ukugula, umgama. Kodwa ngezinye iindawo zonke ezi zinyamalalala kwaye kwakhona ndifuna ukunwabalala kwinqanaba - ukulala ngesondo. Bathi amabhinqa alula kakhulu kulo mbandela, ekubeni umsebenzi osebenzayo, ngokuyinxalenye yamadoda. Yaye uyayazi njani ukuba umfana akazange abe nentombi ixesha elide? Ewe, okokuqala, oku kubonakala kwindlela yokuziphatha. Okwesibini, abafana emva kokuyeka ukuzibandakanya kwezobudlelwane ngokwesondo kunye nobudlelwane ngokubanzi, njengokuba kukho umnqweno omkhulu, kodwa awusebenzi ngexesha elifanayo.
Isizathu silula kakhulu - njengabadlali abaye bayeka ukuqeqeshwa ixesha elithile, abayi kukwazi ukubetha irekhodi labo. Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, amadoda asemngciphekweni kwaye adinga uncedo ekubuyiseni amandla abo angaphambili. Baya kuncedwa kuphela intombazana eqonda, ethanda, kodwa kufuneka uyikhumbule. Ukuba kwiimeko ezinjalo akunakwenzeka ukukhawuleza. Inkwenkwe idinga ukuthuthuzelwa ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Kuya kulungele ukuba nesidlo sothando kunye namakhandlela, kunye nengxoxo esondeleyo. Njenganamhlanje, i-caresses ye-tactile iyadingeka, ngaphezu kwexesha eliqhelekileyo. Nangona akukho nto yenzeke kwindoda, musa ukuthukuthela. Zizenzele, uzilungiselele iintlobo zezinyembezi kunye nokuhlambalaza, izihlazo kunye nokwenza konke okwenzekayo ingxaki. Okwangoku, akukho nto yenzekile. Namhlanje ayizange isebenze, kuthetha ukuba kuya kuba ngomso okanye ngomso emva komso. Into ephambili akuyi kuyenza ingxaki kule nto. Kodwa ngaba uxolo nonwabo lufanelekile?
Ukuba i-psyche iyalungelelaniswa, ngoko ku funeka kubaluleke kakhulu ukucinga ngempilo yomzimba. Kwibinzana elithi "kwaye ixesha elide umfana engenayo intombazana" akazange ahlale esazi. Emva koko, ukuziyeka okanye ukungabikho ngesondo, ngokugqithiseleyo, ngokuqhelekileyo kukhokelela ekusebenzisaneni ngokwesondo rhoqo, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha nobunzima obubi. Ngoko ukhethe okulungileyo kakhulu!