Wonke amabhinqa amaphupha okutshata. Umfazi ophupha kungekhona nje ngomtshato ngokwawo, kodwa nangenxa yokugqoka umtshakazi omhlophe. Amadoda, ngokuchasene noko, nokuba ngaba kukho abaviwa abafanelekayo kwendima yomfazi, musa ukukhawuleza ukuba uye kwiofisi yokubhalisa. Kodwa kutheni umntu eyika kakhulu iofisi yokubhalisa? Amadoda amaninzi akakwazi ukuvuma ukuba abesaba ukubhaliswa kweentlobano ezisemthethweni. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda akhuthaza uloyiko lwawo lwangaphambili olungaphumelelanga okanye ulwalamano olungathandabuzekiyo, izinto ezingakholelwayo, kwaye ngoko ke ukuphikisana ukuba umtshato womtshato ngumtshato ongcono.
Kulo mbuzo, umbuzo uvela: indoda inomfazi olungiselela, isusa, isusa, iingubo, ilala, ilala ngesondo, kunokuba ingafuneki nantoni na, kutheni kufuneka ithathe nayiphi na imbopheleleko kuye, ukuba kunjalo? Awudingi ukunyamekela, ukuqhubela kwiindawo zokutya, kwakhona, ukugcina ibhinqa linyanzelwanga, kwaye ngoko ke iindleko ezingaphantsi. Umfazi onamalungelo entaka, ngaphambi kokuba avule umlomo kumlingane, uya kuphinda aphinde acinge, kwaye umfazi unamalungelo athile, owamthembayo kwaye unokumemeza ngendoda yakhe, amenze enze into ethile. Enyanisweni, indawo ekhululekile? Ngokwemvelo. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza ubomi bomntu intombazana enomdla kakhulu iya kuvuka kwaye ukuba engatshatanga, unokufumana ithuba lokusebenzisa le meko aze azi kakuhle. Esi sisinye isizathu sokuba amadoda afune ukufumana isitampu seZAGS kwipasipoti yawo.
Abafazi babantu, njengomthetho, baphoqelelwa ukuba batsho bonke abantu ukuba bayonwabile emtshatweni womtshato kwaye banelisekile ngokobuhlobo obunjalo. Kodwa kaninzi oku akunjalo, kuba elowo umfazi ophupha malunga nobuhlobo kunye nomthandi wakhe usemthethweni.
Amadoda ayesaba ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yabo kwaye esi sizathu esibalulekileyo sokungafuni ukungena kumtshato osemthethweni. Amadoda amaninzi aqinisekile ukuba emva kokubhaliswa, ibhinqa liya kuphinda liphule amalungelo akhe, liza kubonisa rhoqo imisebenzi yakhe. Ukunyenga umntu kwi-ofisi yokubhalisa kunzima kakhulu ukuba sele sele esele aphumelele. Kodwa nangona umntu engatshatanga, ukuqala intsapho kunye naye kwakungeke kube lula. Kwingqungquthela yabangane bendoda enye indoda inomhlobo otshatileyo othanda ukukhalaza ngobomi bentsapho, ngaphandle kobukhwele obuvulekileyo kwimeko yobunzima bomhlobo.
Indoda eyikayika ukulahlekelwa inkululeko yakhe idla ngokuzixelela ukuba akazange ihambe. Ngenxa yoko, umtshato kuye kuya kuthandana nomfazi omnye. Kuloo ndoda kukho izilingo ezininzi, ngoko kunzima kuye ukugqiba isigqibo esinjalo kwaye uyazikhusela ngokunyanisekileyo ukufumana ubumnandi bomixilongo. Ukulungela ukutshata indoda kuya kuvela emva kokuba ehamba.
I-bachelor eqinisekisiwe kunzima ukukhohlisa kwi-ofisi ye-registry, njengoko isetyenziselwa ukuhlala yedwa, ngoko akafuni ukuba umfazi aphile naye. Nangona i-bachelor eqinisekisiwe yathandana, akayi kukhawuleza ukuba azalise ulwalamano lwakhe nentombazana, kuba uyaqonda ukuba umtshato uya kutshintsha ubomi bakhe, kwaye akakakulungeli ukutshintsha indlela yakhe yokuphila.
Amanye amadoda ayesaba uxanduva, ngoko akangxami ukutshata. Umntu usetyenziselwa ukulawula ubomi ngokuqonda kwakhe ukuba akalungele utshintsho. Kwaye kuya kuba njalo emva komtshato - baya kufuneka batshintshe imikhwa yabo baze balahle yonke into abaye bayisebenzisa kunye noko bangayenza ngaphambi komtshato, ukulungelelanisa kwisigqi esipheleleyo sobomi. Indoda iyaqonda ukuba ukuthetha ngokuzonwabisa kunye nabahlobo kuya kuba yinto edlulileyo. Kwixesha elidlulileyo, kuya kuba nolwazi olunomdla olutsha, ingakumbi ngesini esahlukileyo. Ukuba umntu uthanda ubomi bakhe obunobomi, ngoko ucinga ngokuguqula uya kuba noloyiko.
Amadoda athile awanakulungele ubomi bentsapho, kuba nje abanalo ixesha elaneleyo lweentsapho zabo ngenxa yomthwalo wabo emsebenzini. Ukuba umntu onentloko yakhe iya emsebenzini, ngoko akakwazi ukukhumbula ukuba kufuneka abize intanda yakhe, ukuba ngokuhlwa baceba ukuya kunye nokuvakashela okanye ukuya kwi-cinema.
Amadoda amaninzi ayesaba ngabasetyhini abavakalisa ngokucacileyo umnqweno wabo wokutshata. Amadoda ayethusa nakwabaseTyhini abaza kubonisa ukuba bafuna ukutshata.
Ukuba ibhinqa lifuna ukuba wakhethayo ukuba ayeke ukuyeka umtshato ixesha elithile, ngoko uyafuna umonde kwaye akatsho njalo ukuba udalwe omnye nomnye.