Uqala ukuthanda abanye abafana - kungekhona nje abafana abavela kwiklasi efanayo, kodwa ngabafundi abadala, amadoda angamaqiniso. Kwaye ngoku ubonakala uhle, uhlakaniphile, unomusa, kodwa awunayo intombi. Kwaye i intombi, ezibonakala zingcono kunani, zibaleke ngeenkwenkwezi ukuze zihlangabezane neekhwenkwe zabo, zilahla zodwa kunye ne-melodrama yintliziyo e-TV okanye ingoma evuselela umphefumlo kwi-headphones. Ucinga ukuba: "Ndineminyaka engama-18 kwaye ndisenalo mfana, ndimele ndenze ntoni nale nto?"
Okokuqala, musa ukukopela. Ngama-18, amaninzi amantombazana adlala ama-hormone, ngenxa yokuba uyagxininisa yonke into. Naluphi na intlungu engabonakaliyo inokubonakala ngathi yintlekele enkulu, nawuphi na umboniso wendoda enhle onokuyithatha ukuze ubonakalise uthando lwakhe olufihlakeleyo, kunye naluphi na amazwi angabalulekanga kubazali ngokuphazamisa ubomi bakho obuzimeleyo, kwaye uqala ukuxinezeleka: "Ndineminyaka engama-18 kwaye andinalo isoka ... mhlawumbi into engalunganga kum . " Yaye ukuba uhlala ungonwabi, kubonakaliswa emehlweni akho, indlela yokuthetha, izenzo. Amantombazana afana namantombazana alula, onokuthetha naye ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngubani ngokubuya angayi kulayisha iingxaki zabo. Kwabantombazana abonwabileyo, abafana bahudula.
Okwesibini, ungafaki ukufunyanwa ngumfana. Ibinzana elithi "Ngubani okhangelayo-oya kuwufumana" ufanelekile xa ukhangele okwesibini, umzekelo, iteksi yesibini, kodwa kungekhona xa kuziwa kuvelwano olupheleleyo lokwenene (uthando?) Xa uqala ukutshisa ngomlilo oqhumayo phambi kwenkampani abafana abancinci, kwaye wazala bonke abantu ukuba babone ukuba ufanelekile yini, abafana banokwesaba kwaye babalekele kuwe njengemivundla evela kwingonyama yeengonyama. Kulungile ukuphuhlisa ihlabathi lakho elingaphakathi, ufunde iincwadi, usebenzise i-yoga, uthathe inxaxheba kwimisebenzi yentshukumo, ngelizwi, uhlakulele, kwaye ngenxa yoko uya kufumana, ngaphezu kokuzonwabisa kwakho, imeko yintombazana yakho oyintandazana, kwaye kungekhona umntwana okhuselekileyo, uya kuba noqhagamshelwano olubanzi, kukho indoda enomdla kuwe, kunye neenjongo ezifanayo.
Musa ukuba ne-narcissistic. Ngokuqinisekileyo, unesikhwama sonke sempawu ezintle ezitsaliswe kuwe nakwezinye, kunye nabazali bakho notitshala. Kodwa yishiye loo mntu ukuba ufumane ezi mpawu zakho, kwaye ungaziqhayisa ngazo ngentlanganiso yokuqala. Umfana onokucinga nje ukuba akafanelanga ukuba ngumfazi onobuqili onjengewe, okanye uya kugqiba ukuba awukho ukhaliphe nakwakho konke, kwaye ke, oqhelekileyo, kwaye mhlawumbi akayi kuphinda aphinde aphinde avele.
I-Herd instinct. "Wonke umntu unayo, kodwa andinayo." Uneminyaka engama-7 ubudala yimeko encomekileyo yepensele yesikolo, ngo-10 - i-doll yangempela yaseBarbie, ngo-14-ikhompyutheni, kunye ncinane kamva: "Ndineminyaka engama-18 kwaye andinayo i-boyfriend okwamanje-yintlekele ..." Uyiqonda into endiyithethayo.
Musa ukukhawuleza izinto. Xoxa ngeengubo ezimhlophe kunye nesithuthi esenziwe ngeentyatyambo, ezininzi njengoko uthanda, kodwa kunye neentombi, kungekhona kunye nesithandwa. Kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano, amagama anjalo aya kuthusa umntu (ewe, kubonakala ukuba isiqingatha esinamandla sabantu sisigxina nje), uya kucinga ukuba bafuna ukumkhathaza, bamphoqele ukuba atshade, aze aqhawule, kwaye iminyaka emininzi amkhuphe ngaphandle, , alimony. Yiyo indlela oya kuyenza ngayo into yokuba uyisihlambuluko emehlweni akhe, uvele uphuphe ngelizwi.
Ukuba sele unomgqatswa kwisimo esiphezulu senkwenkwe yakho, kufuneka ufunde ngaye ngokubanzi. Ngethamsanqa, ngoku kukho amaninzi amanethiwekhi asekuhlaleni, ngokwemali yolwazi malunga nomntu othile onokufaniswa kuphela nedata yeCIA. Uyakwazi ukubona iimfuno zakhe, izinto ezithandwayo, nantoni na! Kwaye kwithuba lokuqala, ngokukhawuleza kuvela ukuba uninzi kakhulu!
Ikhonkco. Ngesondo. Akukho naphantsi kweemeko azama ukufumana umntu ngokulala naye! Uza kuzuza uzuko lweentombazana ezinengqondo, ukubeka ngokuthobeka, nokuhlazisa iqhayiya lakho. Kwaye nangona, ukuba uThixo akavumelekanga, usenokwenza oku, kwaye nangona ukuba "uncedo olufanayo" lwenzeka kancinane, ungakhohlwa ukuba awuyintombazana kuye, ekubeni engakuhloneli, kwaye akanandaba, kodwa uyanelisa Ngaphezu koko, lo mhlobo wakho unokuqala ukudibana nomnye intombazana, kwaye uya kuhlala entolongeni ephukile ngentliziyo ephukile kunye nento ephazamisekileyo.
Kungcono ukuba yedwa kunomntu. Okanye nomntu ongenakukufumana. Ngeveki, mhlawumbi ababini banokuzenza ngathi unomdla kuluntu lomntu. Kwaye ke? Mhlawumbi umntu ulungile, kodwa akukho zintlanzi. Konke okufanayo, ukwahlukana ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva, kuphela ngeli xesha awukwazi ukucaphukisa umntu olungileyo nantoni na. Kwaye sele sitsho ukuba uyisilumko, kwaye nangona awuyi kukhubekisa izimpukane, kungekhona kwesohlwayo esibi.
Uthando luvuswa ngengozi xa ungalindelanga. Kwaye kwenzeka. Kwaye kwenzeka nakwam. Kubonakala ukuba sele uxolelanisile, ukuba kukho enye, kwaye akukho xesha lokuthandana, kunye nento yonke ebhizinisini, kwaye kwakhona, kwaye udibana nendawo kwindawo esitolo, kwisebe lezintsholongwane kunye neebhondi, uthando lwakho lobomi. Kwaye kwiinyanga ezintathu utshata.
Uyazi, xa uneminyaka eyi-18, akuyi kucinga nje imibala yobomi ngaphezu kweyodwa, kodwa uzitshise. Kwimeko nayiphi na into, eli lixesha xa ufumana amava okuphila, funda kwiimpazamo, amava kunye nokuhla, ukuthanda, ukudabuka, ukuhleka, ukuzikhangela. Le yimihla ehamba phambili kwimpilo yakho yonke, xa, ngokubanzi, unyanzelekile kunoma ubani, ngaphandle kwabazali, xa uhlala wena, xa unokwenza izinto eziphambeneyo, uzilungise iphepha eliphambili. Phila ngeli xesha ngokulula kwaye ngokukhawuleza, ungakhathazeki ngezinto ezincinci, kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, qaphela ukuba kukho into yokukhumbula.