Kuye kwaziwa ixesha elide ukuba iingcinga eziziingqondi zifika engqondweni emva kweqiniso. Umzekelo, wonke umntu ubonakala eyazi umzekeliso othi "Ubuhlobo buhlobo, kunye nenkonzo yinkonzo," kodwa phantse elowo kuthi kufuneka sijamelane nesilingo sokwenza omnye umntu asebenze njengomqeshwa omtsha. Okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, uye kusebenza kwinkampani apho omnye wabahlobo okanye izalamane sele esebenza. Njalo xa sicinga ngcamango le ngcamango, kunokuba siyeke ngokukhawuleza ...
KWI-PLAN OF ILLUSIONS
Masicinge, kutheni ingcamango yentsebenziswano nabantu abaqhelekileyo ingena engqondweni? Mhlawumbi kuba ulolu hlobo lubonakala lulawulwa kwaye luqikelelwa. Emva kokuba ngumntu womntu, amandla akhe ayaziwa kwaye sinelisekile, kuthetha ukuba kuya kuba lula ukusebenza naye. Hayi, ihlala ihluke kakhulu.
* Ukuba asizange sisebenze ecaleni kunye nomhlobo wethu, ngoko siyazi malunga nobuchule bakhe bokudala kunye nezakhono zobungcali, kungekhona bonke. Emva kwakho konke, iimbono zethu ngaye zenziwa ngokubanzi kwiintetho kunye nalo mntu. Kodwa abantu abahlala bekwazi ukuzinikela ukuhlolwa kweenjongo. Omnye uyazidumisa, ezama ukukhulisa ukuzithemba kwaye (okanye) "ubunzulu bakhe" emehlweni abo. Kwaye umntu uphantsi kwamakhono abo, kuba bafumana ubunzima obuphantsi. Ewe, kwaye thina ngokwethu, siwile phantsi kobuhle bomntu obumnandi, maxa wambi sino-oh, njengenzuzo.
* Zonke ezo mpawu "oye wazibona" kwinkqubo yokunxibelelana (uxanduva, ukunyamezela, ukusebenza kakuhle, njl njl.), Ekubonweni kokuqala, akungathandabuzeki. Kodwa, okokuqala, umntu ofanayo kumsebenzi nangaphandle komsebenzi unokuziphatha ngokungafaniyo, ngakumbi umntu. Okwesibini, ngokumalunga nawe umhlobo unokubonakalisa ngokuqinisekileyo kungekhona ngenxa yokuba uyindoda enjalo yegolide, kodwa ngenxa yokuba uthanda yena. Okanye unayo imibandela yokuthandana, kodwa incinane ... Ngamafutshane, nabantu abaqhelekileyo nabangaqhelekanga, phantse sonke siziphatha ngokungafaniyo. Ubuhlobo obunyanzelekile.
Ngoko ke ukuziphatha: mhlawumbi ukuba abaphathi bakho okanye oogxa bakho abayi kubelana ngeembono zakho ngobuntu bomhlobo ngokumazi naye. Oko kukuthi, usengozini yokuchitha ubuhlobo bakho obusemthethweni kunye negunya lakho. Emva kwakho konke, nayiphi na ingqwalasela eyenziwa ngumqeshwa omtsha ocaphekileyo uza kuthathwa ngokuzenzekelayo njengephutha lakho. Ulethe into ethile, uphendula. Lo ngumgaqo ongabonakaliyo, kodwa abaninzi abantu bacinga ngokungazi.
KWAMANDLA NEEMALI
Ukongezelela kokungahambelani kwimibono yazo onke amaqela abandakanyekayo kwimeko, kukho enye ingxaki ekhoyo ekulindeni abo banqwenela ukuba "nceda ujonge umntu wasekuhlaleni".
* Ngokuzisa umhlobo kwinkampani okanye kwinkampani yakho, silahlekelwa inkululeko yethu, ngaphandle kokuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, uhlobo lunikeze i-100% pofigism. Akukuphela nje ukuba okokuqala, ngaphezu koxanduva lwakho lwezakhono, kufuneka usebenze njengesikhokelo-ukuzisa umntu omtsha kubo bonke abantu abafanelekileyo kunye neendawo, kufuneka wenze izigqibo ngemizuzu yonke: kunye nobani oza kusela ikhofi okanye ukutya, njengokuba Ungathetha. Emva kwakho konke, ukuba umhlobo ungumhlobo wekhaya lakho, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba iimfihlo zakho zeentsapho "zingagungqi" kwisevisi, kunye neofisi-ekhaya.
* Ukuba omnye wakho osebenza naye ngexesha elifikile ngumqeshwa omtsha uye wasebenzisa indawo yakho ekhethekileyo, ukugqabhuka "komona" kunokwenzeka, umzabalazo wokubambisa kwakho phakathi kwabahlobo ababini - "aborigine" kunye "nokufumana".
* Lungiselela ukuba kuya kufuneka ukhuphe "amakhasi e-biography" kunye neempawu ezimfutshane kwabanye njengecala elinye, kunye nelinye. Kwaye, ukuba awukhethi igama ngalinye ngokukhawuleza, banokuthi - "bathabhe" kwiindawo ezininzi ezingafanelekanga.
Akunakutsholwa ukuba zonke izihlandlo ezikhawulezayo ezingenakukwazi ukunqotshwa. Unako, ngokuqinisekileyo, njengento yonke ebomini bethu. Nangona kunjalo, izinto ezinokuthi zonakalise ubukho kwimeko yentsebenziswano kunye nabahlobo okanye izalamane, zivela kaninzi kunezinye iimeko.
ABASEBENZI BENKCAZO ABAKHOLEKILEYO ...
Kodwa, mhlawumbi, ukulahleka okunzima kunakho konke okunokulinda kulo mzila kukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo. Kungenzeka ngeendlela ezininzi.
* Kwezinye iimeko, ubudlelwane obunobungane buphuka kancane kwaye bungaqondi. Ukungena kwiimeko apho unxibelelwano olungenzekiyo ngokukhawuleza, kodwa luphelelwe ngumda othile - iimfuno zenkampani (ezingenakuhambelana nezobuntu), ukuziphatha ngokusemthethweni, njl. - Abafundi ababini ngaphambili babenabango abancinci kunye nezikhalazo omnye komnye kumhlobo. Emva koko enye yezinye ayizange ixhase kumbhobho ovela kumagunya, ngoko omnye wathi malunga neengxaki zeentsapho zomnye ngesigqibo samazwi angaphezu kwesiqingatha esingabafuna. Kwakhona. Kwaya ... Ngokukhawuleza ubuhlobo buqala ukupholisa kwaye ukusuka kwintsapho yangaphambili yothando olungenanto. Ngobuhlobo kubalulekile ukuba ushiye.
* Ingqungquthela yesibili yokuphulukana kukubonakaliswa okungalindelekanga kweempawu ezingaziwa zomntu owaziwayo ngaphambili. Ngokukhawuleza omnye wabahlobo ngokukhawuleza unqobelela umnqweno wokunyamekela abaphathi bakhe, ukunyuka kwinqanaba lomsebenzi, ukufumana imali engaphezulu, njl. Kwaye uqala ukwenza ngokunyaniseka kokuthandana kokomoya nomhlobo wezolo. Kucacile ukuba wonke umntu kufuneka azinyamekele yena ngokwakhe. Kodwa yinto enye ukuba ufanele ukhuphisane nabantu abangasondeli kakhulu, abanabo kunye phantsi kweemeko ezifanayo. Kwaye nenye into, xa ufanele ukhuphisane nomhlobo osondeleyo, umzala wesibini okanye umhlobo, owenza nabo bakachikiki ndawonye kwi sandbox ...
* Ingozi yesithathu yimeko xa abahlobo bezinyathelo ezahlukeneyo zesiteyithi, ebizwa ngokuthi "inkonzo" -kuqala okanye ngaphezulu kwexesha. Iingqikithi, into elula kakhulu: emsebenzini ugosa kunye nomntu ongezantsi, ekhaya - abahlobo. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kusinda loo ngqungquthela inzima. Ulwalamano nomntu owayekade ungumhlobo nalo luchaphazeleka ngumona, ukunyuka entliziyweni entliziyweni yokuthula, kunye nomsindo. Omnye unomsindo ukuba umvuzo wesibini uphezulu kwaye umsebenzi uhlambulukile, okwesibini uyacaphuka ukuba okokuqala kuyifunayo ngokubhekiselele kuye kwamanye amalungelo angenangqondo kunye nesimo sengqondo esithe xaxa.
Ngelizwi, ukumema umhlobo wakhe umhlobo kubalingane bakhe, enye okanye enye iya kubangela ilahleko. Kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo ezi lahleko zilungele ngokupheleleyo. Ngoko ke, kukufanelekile ukuyeka isilingo esinjalo. Kungcono kumnike imali ngemboleko okanye ngcebiso, apho unokukhangela umsebenzi omtsha! Ngoko ubuhlobo buhlobo, kwaye inkonzo enkonzo ayiyi kuba ngumqobo.