Umkhwa weMendelssohn wafa, u-honeymoon waphela, abathandi abancinci abancinci baba yintsapho enye. Baye bahlala bephupha malunga nale nto, kodwa inyaniso ngenxa yesizathu esithile ayilungisanga oko kulindeleke. Ngokukhawuleza emva kokubhaliswa komtshato, ukuziphatha kwabo bobabini bomtshato baqala ukutshintsha, abangaqhelekanga ngaphambi kwesiqingatha sesibini somkhwa kunye nokuthambekela. Ukuba i-metamorphoses eyenzeka nabasetyhini emva komtshato, bathetha kakhulu kunye ne-grin, ngoko utshintsho kumadoda lukhethwa ukuba lukhutshwe. Kwaye indoda leyo, ishintsha. Kwaye akusoloko kulunge.
Musa ukukhawuleza okanye ukugxeka zonke izono ezifa. Ingxaki efanayo ivela kubasetyhini abaninzi. Ngenxa yoko, unokuzama ukufumana iipatheni eziqhelekileyo, wenze izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kwaye ufumane indlela yokuphuma kule meko. Masihlaziye okokuba utshintsho luvame ukuvela namadoda emva komtshato.
Ukulindela kunye neengcamango ezingalunganga
Ukuba ngumfazi osemthethweni, umfazi ulindele ukuba umyeni wakhe uya kuthobela iingcamango zakhe malunga nokulungelelanisa, ukuyeka ngokukhawuleza imikhwa engonakalisayo, uyeke ukutya ukutya okunobungozi nokuyeka ukuhlangana nabahlobo kunye nokuhamba ngokudoba okanye u-hockey kunye nabo, uya kuqala ukwenza imali enomgangatho wokuqinisekisa ubomi obukhululekile kwaye uzalise zonke izicelo kunye ngeengxowa zomfazi. Indoda, ngesizathu esithile, ayiphumeli ukuyeka ukugqibelela. Eyona nto ingcono, akayi kulahlekelwa ukukwazi ukugubungela umbhede kunye nokuhlamba izitya, ngezinye izihlandlo ukulungele isidlo sesibini, ngezihlandlo ezenza izipho ezincinci kwaye uzilungiselele izinto ezimangalisayo kwisiqingatha sakhe sesibini. Ukuqaphela ukuba intanda yakhe ibe ngumfazi osemthethweni, ungathinteli uthando lwakhe kunye nokukhathalela. Kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo uhlala ephosa kwi-intanethi engenazantsi, okanye "abagcini belifa", ngokukhawuleza kunye nokubhala amanqaku kwaye ngaphandle kwesizathu. Indoda ilindele ukutya okudliwayo kunye okuhlukeneyo, ukucoceka nokuhlelwa kwindlu, uthando, uthando, ukunyaniseka nokunyamekela. Impendulo esebenzayo kwinkqubo yakhe ayibonakali. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, umfazi uqala ukukrokra umyeni wakhe wokungathembeki, ukubheka ukungaphumeleli. U-Apritchina ulala kwenye.
Unyaka wokuqala wobomi obudibeneyo ubonisa ukuba amadoda aqala ukuhlawula ingqalelo encinane kumfazi wabo. AmaRoma ayanyamalala ebuhlotsheni, umfazi akafumani ngqalelo enkulu kuye ngaphambi komtshato. Okwangoku, kuba abantu bendawo yendalo. Wayekhathele, wachitha wonke amandla kwintsebenziswano kunye nokuwunqoba intanda. Kalokunje ufuna ukuvuyela ukonwaba ngesimo seesidlo esimnandi kunye neendlela ezahlukeneyo, umyalelo endlwini, iingubo ezicocekileyo kunye neentsimbi, uthando kunye nokunakekelwa komlingane osemthethweni. Nawe ekuthandaneni nabakhethiweyo bakhe okanye izipho zakhe kunye neziphakamiso?
Isikhokelo semveliso
Kukho iindlela ezimbini kuphela ezivela kule meko: Okokuqala: umfazi uthatha utshintsho kunye nomyeni wakhe kwaye ufunda ukuhlala nabo. Musa ukumbona, ukhethe iisokisi ezingcolileyo azungeze kuyo yonke indawo, ujonge kwimenyu eyahlukileyo. Inketho yesibini: ukuba umfazi akayithandani ubudlelwane obutsha, unako ukugcina umyeni wakhe efanelekileyo (ngokufanelekileyo kweli gama). Ibhinqa linamandla okwenza umntu ayenqobe ngokuphindaphindiweyo. Ngenxa yoko, akukho mfuneko yokwenza nantoni na engaphezulu. Mamela, uye kwi-cinema, kwi-cafe, kwiikonsathi zabenzi bakho ozithandayo, udibana nabahlobo uze ubahambise ekhaya. Amadoda ngokwemvelo ngabazingeli nabanini. Ukuba ubona ukuba umfazi uyamhlupha, ufumana umsebenzi ngaphandle kwentsapho, uya kufuna ukuyizuza kwakhona. Kodwa kulo mzekelo, lo mfazi akayi kuba nako lokuphumla. Ndiza kufuneka ndilibale ngokubonakala kweso sibini se-forensic kwi-curlers kunye nemaski, kwisigqoko sokugqoka esasihlambulukanga. Qinisekisa ukuba ne-manicure, make-up, iirstyle, ukubonakala kakuhle. Kubalulekile ukuvumela umntu ukuba aqonde ukuba uya kuqhubeka ukhangeleka kakuhle. Umzingeli womntu uya kuqonda ukuba amanye amalungu enesini esomeleleyo angabhekisela kumfazi wakhe. Uya kwenza konke ukugcina kuye. Ngokuqinisekileyo indoda iya kubonisa iimpawu zokuqwalasela umfazi wayo.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho enye ingozi - umntu ngokwemvelo akayena umzingeli. Yintoni enokuyenza, kukho njalo. Kulo mzekelo, kunokwenzeka ukuba kunokuba umntu anqobe umlingane osemthethweni, umntu angakwazi ukuhamba. Kwaye akunjalo loo nto kumnye umfazi.
Enye ingxaki ibhinqa elindileyo emva komtshato, lenziwe ngendlela elandelayo: "uhlala ethule." Ngaphambi komtshato, abathandana babelana nawo onke amava abo, ngexesha leentlanganiso baxoxana malunga nendlela idlula ngayo imini, nto ebalulekileyo okanye inomdla ngabo. Ngoku uza ekhaya evela emsebenzini aze abuze ukuba ashiywe yodwa. Ulala phantsi kwesofa, abukele iTV, kwaye umzamo wakhe womfazi wokufumanisa into ebangel 'umdla kuye kwenzeka namhlanje, ayihlawuli nto. Ukuba iyakhathaza, uyacaphuka. Yintoni enokuyenza kule meko? Iingcali zengqondo zithi amadoda anxinzeleleke kakhulu kubafazi. Ngoko ke, ngenxa yazo ininzi yabo, ukuhlala ixesha elithile ngokuthula kuyimfuneko ebalulekileyo, kwaye akusiyo into emfutshane. Kubalulekile ukunika umyeni ithuba lokuphumla, kwaye uninzi ngeli xesha, ulahlekelwe kwi shishini elithandayo okanye udibana nomhlobo. Ngexesha elithile ixesha lokuncedisa linye lisebenzisekayo bobabini bomtshato. Kuya kunceda ukusabalalisa, ukukhulula komnye nomnye, kwaye ngoko ngamandla amatsha ukuqala ukwakha nokomeleza isidleke seentsapho.
Usapho lwentsapho lweentsuku
Indoda iyatshintsha, kuba indima yakhe ebomini yakho ishintshile. Ngoku uyakhathazeka malunga nemiba enjengokuphila kakuhle, umsebenzi, ukukhulisa inhlalakahle yentsapho. Yaye ukuba intsapho iceba ukuba nomntwana? Emva koko indoda iya kuba yedwa yondla kunye nesondlo. Kwaye iindleko zinciphile, i-atolko iyanda. Indoda ilindele ukuxhaswa komzimba kumfazi wayo, kwaye kuphela i-prinej ingabonisa ubuthathaka kunye nokukhathala kwayo kuphela kuphela, ingaba yinto engavumelekanga kwaye idibeneyo ...
Ukwakha ubudlelwane phakathi kwabantu akupheli emva komtshato. Bafikelela kwinqanaba elitsha lomgangatho. Ngaphambi komtshato, abantu abatsha, ukuba bengaboni ndawonye, babe neenjongo zabo, isondo sabo sentlalo, indawo yabo yobomi. Ekuqaleni kobomi obudibeneyo, kubalulekile ukwakha ubudlelwane bobudlelwane ukwenzela ukuba ungaphula amalungelo kunye nenkululeko yesigqithatha sakho sesibini, kodwa ukuzalisekisa umdla kunye nokuthandana komnye nomnye; Ungaxinzezeli umlingane wakho ngeminqweno yakho nangokwemfuno, kodwa unokukwazi ukuphumla ngexesha elilodwa. Oku kuya kunceda ukuqonda ukuba kubaluleke kangakanani isiqingatha sesibini kuwe, ukuba kuhle kangakanani ukuba kunye kunye nokuba kuhle kangakanani ngezinye izihlandlo ukuthetha kunye. Ngaba uya kuqonda kakuhle emva komtshato, kuxhomekeke kuwe kuphela. Ukususela ngeli xesha umsebenzi wakho awukujongani, kodwa kwelinye icala. Akunakwenzeka ukubiza zonke iinkxalabo kunye neengxaki kuphela komnye wabatshatileyo. Ubomi bentsapho kuhlala kukho indawo yeeholide ezimbini, kodwa oko kuza kuba kunye nokuba kuya kuba kukho konke kuxhomekeke kubo bobabini.