Kuthiwani ukuba umyeni wakho ushushu?

Kukho amadoda ebomini bethu abangabonakali nayiphi na imvakalelo. Ezi zibizwa ngokuba zibandayo. Amadoda afana namasosha ayazi indlela yokubonisa iimvakalelo zabo neemvakalelo ngokuchanekileyo. Zibanda njengeqhwa. Awazi ukuba unyibilike intliziyo yabo ukuze bafike ebomini. Bakhombisa ubanda babo ngendlela elandelayo: abazange bathethe ngeemvakalelo zabo, abanalo nabubele okanye amagama kubo.

Amadoda anjalo akasoze avuma ukuba athande, kwaye ukuba uthetha kanye, abayi kuphinda baphinde baphinde. Emva kokufumana iindaba ezivuyayo zinobuso bamatye okanye iimvakalelo ezifanayo njengesiqhelo. Abazange benze izinto ezithandanayo. Bafumana impendulo efanayo kwizinto ezilungileyo obaxelela zona. Kwanokuhamba ngeemvakalelo ezifanayo, njengokungathi zinqabile. Ewe, nayiphi na ibhinqa inokuchaza umntu oshushu. Akayidingi nayiphi na incwadi ukuze aqonde into engalunganga ngayo. Abantu abanjalo abanalo uvakalelo.

Kwenzeka ukuba ibhinqa libuhlungu kakhulu, ukuba lihamba ngaphaya kwemida, ngoko ucinga ukuba umyeni wakhe uyabanda. Masizame ukuqonda ukuba kutheni amadoda ebanda kakhulu.

Isizathu sokuqala salokhu kubantwana abasweleyo. Njengomntwana, mhlawumbi abazange bafumane uthando, ukunakekelwa kunye nomsindo omele ukuba nawo. Mhlawumbi abazali abazange bavumelane nezenzo zabo, banqatshelwe, abazange baxhomeke. Le miqondiso ingakhokelela ekubeni kubanda. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abafazi kufuneka bawancede baphume kule "cocoon", banyibilikise intliziyo yabo. Ekubeni abazange bamkele uthando ebuntwaneni, abayazi indlela yokubonisa ngayo.

Isizathu sesibini izikhalazo zabo zangaphambili. Mhlawumbi kwixesha elidlulileyo, umntu owamcaphukisa, wabatshengisa waza wonakalisa intliziyo yabo ephosakeleyo. Ngoko ke, banqume ukuba bangaphinda babonise loo mvakalelo leyo, ngokuboni kwabo, bayichitha.

Abafazi bafanele bacinge ngendlela ababonisa ngayo uthando lwabo ngokubanzi? Mhlawumbi ababonisi iimvakalelo zabo, kodwa ngandlela-thile izenzo zabo ezizama ukuzenza ngenxa yokungabi nalutho. Abantu abanjalo bahlala begcina izithembiso zabo.

Kwenzeka ukuba amadoda awamthandi umfazi wabo kwaye abonakali nayiphi na imvakalelo. Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, wanquma ukumlwela, ngoko ke kufuneka azi ukuba yintoni efanelekileyo yokuyenza ngamadoda atshisayo. Ungalokothi ufune ukuphendula kwabo ngenye yemali okanye amagama. Musa ukuphikisana nabo. Ungaze ulahlwe ebusweni babo obushushu, kunokukhubekisa kwaye kuholele ekuphumeni kobudlelwane. Bayazi indlela obathandayo ngayo nendlela obonisa ngayo iimvakalelo zakho, kodwa abanakukubonisa iimvakalelo zabo.

Ukuba ngelinye ilanga bavuma kuwe ngothando okanye babonise imvakalelo ethile, ungalokothi ubatshele ukuba "ekugqibeleni usitshilo", njengoko oku kungabangela ubuhlungu kwaye banokuvala. Kungcono nje ukumanga uze uthi into enhle. Ukuxhasa nje.

Ukuba ababonisi nayiphi na imvakalelo, bayenzele ntoni into eningathanda ukuba bayenzele yona. Bawuthande, banike izipho, banakekele. Yenza konke okusemandleni ukuze bazi ukuba uyabathanda njengaye. Mhlawumbi ngelinye ilanga "baya kuvuka" kwaye ndiyabonga ngazo zonke iinzame zenu.