Ngaba ufanele uhambe kunye nekhwenkwe phantsi kwephahla elilodwa? Kwaye kuya kuthinta njani ubuhlobo bakho obusondeleyo? Akunjalo nje kuphela? Lo mbuzo uxhalabisa abaninzi besifazane banamhlanje. Emva koko, icebo eliqhelekileyo: umtshato - ubomi obudibeneyo sele sele buqwalaselwa phantse malunga nemininzi yethu. Kuthiwani ukuba "asihambisani nabalinganiswa"? Yingakho abantu abaninzi bathanda ukuhamba phambili. Yintoni elandelayo? Indlela yokuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo ukwenzela ukuba ungayi kuguqula ubomi? Uya kumangaliswa, kodwa kukho imithetho emihlanu kuphela yokuhlala kunye. Kulula. Ukunyaniseka.
1. Ukuba ungazi u-patronymic, thabatha ixesha lakho. Umzekelo omhle: ukuzama ukuhlalisana kwaqala ngokutsha. Abahlobo bawazisa emadlelweni, emthendelekweni we-jazz, kwaye bafika ngokukhawuleza. Kwiveki kamva, wavuma uthando lwakhe, kwaye emva kwenyanga wanyuka kuye. Ubusuku bokuqala kwindawo yokuhlala ehlala phambili njengale: imizuzu emithandathu yokutya kunye nomabonwakude, emva kweeyure ezintathu zesini esesabekayo. Yonke into yayimnandi kakhulu. Kodwa emva kweenyanga ezine wabaleka, wabeka ingcola yakhe kwisinye isikhwama semidlalo. Yintoni abayichithayo? Kudala ukuluhlu. Iimpawu eziliwaka kunye nenye ezintle zizinto ezenzeka rhoqo imihla kunye neyure.
Wayengazi indlela yokunyamezela. Kwaye naye, naye. Wacaphukiswa - kwaye wayenjalo. Ukuba wayenokubonisa ukuba wayezinikezele kuye, njengeLabrador, wayenokumxolela umkhwa wokutshitshisa umhlane wakhe ngemfoloko yokutya. Kwaye ukuba wayenengqondo kunye nomnqweno wokukwazi ukuba igama likayise lingubani, mhlawumbi akayi kukhangela kakhulu ekubeni akayi kuvala indlu yangasese. Akukho. Ngokubanzi, ibali eliqhelekileyo lokuba ubomi bubulawa njani yonke into. Ngoko nceda uqaphele oku. Zama ukuphinda ucacise ngakumbi "ohlala naye" omtsha. Funda kabanzi malunga nayo, kusengaphambili, cinga ngezinto oza kukulungele ukumxolela. Ukuncintisana kuyimfuneko. Ngaphandle kwabo, ukuhlala kunye akukho ndawo. Qhubela kumgaqo olandelayo.
2. Gcina umgama - isibambiso semvakalelo emitsha. Ehlabathini kukho kuphela ukungabikho komnye omnye kumgaqo wegolide. Umzekelo: UDima wayehlala kunye nentombi yakhe u-Olya iminyaka emibini yonke, kwaye banelisekile kangangokuthi abanakukhangela ngaphandle kwezinyembezi zokuvakalelwa. U-Dima usenomsebenzi otyhafaza imihla yakhe, kwaye usamshiya ngamanqaku omthandayo, ngamanye amaxesha adlala kakhulu, kwiindawo ezingalindelekanga. Yaye yonke into imangalisayo, ukuba ngamanye amaxesha ndifuna nje ukubuza: unokwenza njani into?
Ngokuqhelekileyo, akusaziwa ukuba kuya kugqiba njani. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, abantu banondliwa nje "rhoqo", njengetayi elimnandi kakhulu. Umgama kubudlelwane kubalulekile. Ukushiya isikhala seengcamango, iiminqweno ezifihlakeleyo, ukunyaniseka. Xa zonke izinto zilungelelanisekile, imihla ngemihla - iya kutshatyalaliswa kungekudala okanye kamva. Ingakumbi xa abantu abaselula behlala kunye. Nangona, uThixo makangavumeli omnye wethu ukuba awele kwicandelo lezo zinto ngaphandle ...
3. Ukumelana nokuzimela kwakho. Kutheni? Ngenxa yokuba unabantu ababini bahluke ngokupheleleyo. Ungalokothi ulibale oku! Umzekelo omhle: uDean noKolya benza konke kunye. Njalo naphi na. Kwaye ngokukhawuleza ngenye imini "entle" ebudlelwaneni babo njengengxuma. Kwavela ukuba ngamnye wabo wayemane enyamezele, ethobela omnye. Kodwa uthando lwaphumelela, kwaye bafumana isisombululo esifanayo. Ngoku badibana ngokutya. Ukufika ekhaya, i-Dean ixhomekeke kwiipulo, kwaye uKolya, ngamazwi akhe, udla "into egoyiweyo." "Ebusuku, ndiyidla ngokukhawuleza kwaye kukho into elula, kwaye idla ngokukhawuleza kwaye ikhetha amanqatha kunye neentlanzi," kusho uDina. "Siyidla yedwa, yidrovenyithi yodwa esinayo, ewe, eqhelekileyo." Ingxaki yaxazululwa. Wonke umntu wahlala kuyo kungekukho ukulimaza ubudlelwane. Ngokunyanisekileyo nangendlela endala.
4. Musa ukuya ngenxa yokugcina iveli yakho. Kufana nje neenhlamba njengoko uzama ukukhulelwa, ukuze ungalahlekelwa ngumthandayo. Umzekelo ocacileyo: U-Yura ucinga ukuba indlu yokuhlala (ngokuqinisekileyo, ngefenitshala ethe xaxa) uyomnceda ukuba agcine inkosikazi ecaleni kwayo. Kodwa kwakukho ukutshabalalisa - baxabana ngenxa yombala wephepha lodonga, apho umnqweno wabo wokuzibandakanya wawusuka kancane waza wafa. Ubomi obudibeneyo kuphela buye kwandisa ukhala kwethu, "wancenga uYura waza wuleza ukukhawuleza ukuba enze i-blinds entsha.
Ukuba awuqinisekanga ngombono weemvakalelo zakho, okanye nje ungakulungeli ukuziphatha ubomi ndawonye - musa ukungafihla. Izindlu ezipheleleyo - oh, aziyi kugcina i-romance yakho! Yaye inokunyusa iingxaki. Kwaye!
5. Nika izithandwa zakho izitshixo (ukusuka kwinqwelo). Ngamanye amaxesha akudingekile ukuba "bahlangane ngokupheleleyo". Unokutshintshisana izihluthulelo ezivela kwiindawo zokuhlala ukuze ube nokufikelela kwenye naliphi na ixesha. Kodwa musa ukuhlala kunye. Umzekelo ocacileyo: UChristina noMitya bafumene ukuba umntu unokuphila, njengoko besithi, apha napha kwaye batshintshe izihluthulelo kwiindawo zabo zokuhlala. "Ngoku iingubo zam isambatho zihlonywe ngamagqabi, kodwa ngelo xesha ndilondolozile indawo apho unokuphefumula khona," uDmitri uyavuya. "Ngamanye amazwi, iingubo zakhe zokugqoka kunye ne-ski cap cap ziye zafudukela kum!"
Inene ngokwenene ingaba yindlela yokuphuma ukuba awukaqinisekanga ngenjongo yokugqibela kunye. Uhlobo "lwexesha lokutshintsha." Kwaye kukho - ixesha kunye neemvakalelo ziya kubonisa.