Ukuba umntu wakho unomdla kwaye unengqiqo, kwaye kunjalo, kunjalo, kufuneka kubekho intombazana eya kuyiqonda ngaphandle kwakho. Ngenye, kungekhona usuku oluhle, unokufumana ukuba unomlingani. Wena ngokwakho awuboni ukuba inkwenkwe yakho iza kuqalisa njani iintlanganiso kunye nomnye osebenza naye, umhlobo okanye omaziyo. Kodwa ukuba sele usuqwalasele oko, ngoko ngoku umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukugcina ubudlelwane okanye intsapho.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uqaphele ukuba ingozi okanye ingekho. Ukuba umlingani sele sele ethanda umyeni wakho, iindlela zokulwa naye ziyakhula, okanye umvumele ukuba ahambe kuwo onke macala amane. Inyaniso yokuba utshintsho lusele luselula, amadoda akwazi ukufihla ubungqina ngokufanelekileyo. Ukongezelela, kubalulekile ukujonga indlela indoda eziphatha ngayo emva kokuba ufumene inyaniso.
Ukuba uyazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba iqabane lakho okanye umyeni wakho akazange akhohlise kuwe, kodwa amantombazana adlala ngothando naye, ahlalise. Kwakungekho mbi ukufumana abahlobo okanye intombi kwiinkampu 'zeentshaba,' kodwa elo thuba, ngelanga, akunjalo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, okuchaseneyo kwenzeka, ukuxela kukuxelela ukuba uhlobo oluthile lwe-vertigo luye lwafudukela kwimisebenzi esebenzayo. Ukuba uyintombazana eyisiqhelo, ngokokuqala uhlale uxolo kwaye ungakhathazeki.
Kuqala kwintombazana ukuba benza iimpazamo ezinokuchaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane babo kunye nomfana. Abafana abanqabile ukuba baqonde iingcebiso zabasetyhini, ngoko kuya kwenzeka ukuba akaqapheli ngothando. Ukuba uyathandabuza ukuba intombazana idlala naye, unokumangaliswa konke emva koko ukuba umthobele. Ngoko cwaka, njengentshaba intshaba.
Impazamo yesibili yinkcazo yobudlelwane kunye nehlazo. Ewe, zicinge wena, ungathini kumfana wakho oselula ongenakwenza nantoni na? Akuyimfuneko ukutsho ukuba wanikela iimfuneko zokudlala ngothando okanye ubonise ukulungelelanisa. Kukho abanye abantu abanzima ukumelana nayo, mhlawumbi ivela kuwe.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, impazamo enkulu kule nqanaba yinto yokugxeka kunye nomlingani wakhe. Ndikholelwe, eli lilungelo nawuphi na umfazi ukudlala ngothando nomntu. Ungabonakali obuthathaka kwenye intombi. Unokuphela kuphela.
Musa ukuwa kunye nezinye izinto ezigqithiseleyo - ukukhala ngokufihla indlu enye emkhombeni. Kukho umngcipheko ophezulu wokuvalela kuwe kwaye ucindezeleke. Unyulo oluchanekileyo luya kubakho ukulungelelanisa kumntu othandayo. Ufunde kakhulu ngeemini zothando, i-lace lingerie, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile ndiyilibale ukuba ungasebenzisa amathiphu ngokwenza. Yenza ubomi bakho bobulili buguquke kwaye rhoqo, ukwenzela ukuba loo nto ibaleke ngabantu bonke, kubandakanywa nokuchasana. Yiba mnandi kwaye unomdla, unomdla kunye noqoqosho.
Ukongezelela, kunokuba kube lula ukwenza umona. Nangona uya kulwela ingqalelo yakho, akuyi kuba yimfuneko. Ugqoke njengeholide, kungekhona kakhulu. Ukuba ungummiselo okanye awusebenzi, ungathenga i-aristocrate ekhohlisa kwaye udibane nomhlobo ohlala ehle kwaye ehlambulukile. Ndikholelwe, kulungile.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu kukuba intombazana iya kuthathwa ngumhlobo. Kufanelekile ukuba sicinge ngolu hlobo ukuba intombi ibe yithatha into engayifuniyo, kodwa ithanda ukudlala ngothando kunye nayo yonke isivumelwano. Kwaye, indoda yakho, ngelishwa, iholwa. Kuya kufuneka udlale ngokunyanisekileyo. Ubahlobo, ngoko uyazi malunga nokusilela. Musa ukuthetha kakubi. Yithi nje, umzekelo, "U-Svetka unengqiqo, ukuba kwakungengenxa yeenwele zakhe emilenzeni", njl njl. Musa ukulwa ngokuvulekileyo-uze ne sizathu esihle sokuthetha malunga nokusilela kwayo.
Akukho khetho olubi uza kufumana umfana wakhe intombazana, khumbula, obani ukusuka kumntu owayekade ephosakeleyo, kwaye uzama ukutshintsha ingqalelo kulo mfana. Mhlawumbi uya kufumana isithandwa sakhe rhoqo kwaye ayeke ukuxhoma ngaphandle kwamanye amazwe. Ukongezelela, umntu wakho uya kulahlekelwa ngumdla, ukuba umhlobo uya kukhwela ngexesha lakhe elide.
Kuthekani ukuba ungumhlobo okanye umhlobo nje? Ndiza kufuneka ndizame ukwenza intombi kunye nentombazana. Kungenxa yokuba abantu balahlekelwa ngumdla, abancinci banokulala nomntu onobungane nomfazi wakho. Ukongezelela, unokubamba ngokukhuselekileyo indoda yakho. Ngokomzekelo, hamba kunye nombhikisho ukuya kwintlanganiso, kodwa ungaxeleli into oyitshilo kumfana wakho. Yithi, malunga nayo yonke into kwaye uyimkhangele ngokumangalisayo. Indoda eemeko ezinjalo iloyiko, ngokukhawuleza wayekrokrelwa ngothando.
Ukongezelela, kulula ukuba ngumhlobo kunye ne-sosopornitsa - uya kukwazi ubuthathaka kunye nokusilela kwayo. Yaye makabe ebudeni bobudlelwane bakho obuhle. Mxelele ngokunyanisekileyo, andiyena omnye wala mabhinqa olawula umntu, ingakumbi kuba sihle naye. Ngaba ungandixelela ukuba iingubo zakho zindleko kunye nendlela uhlala wedwa. Njengomthetho, emva kweengxoxo ezinjalo, umoya wokulwa ulala ngokukhawuleza. Ukongezelela, le nto ayifaki ukuba loo ndoda ixhomekeke kwizilingo zale mvavanyo kwaye ngexesha elifanayo lixelele ukuba ayikuthandi.
Qiniseka ukuba ucinge ngaphambi kokuba uthathe isenzo kwaye uthathe icebiso. Sekunjalo, kukho umngcipheko kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ukuchitha yonke into. Ukuba uyintombazana enentloni, kwaye indoda yakho ithobile kwaye iyathobela, musa ukuchitha ixesha, i-zatiotrogram. Ngelo xesha, ukuxolelana okuthabathayo kuya kudlulayo, ngelixesha apho abo babini bayakulibala ngazo zonke iimpawu zabanye abafazi.
Kodwa ukuba i-manatiran yakho, kwaye uyathula kwaye uyathobekile, akukho nto ongakhetha kuyo. Yenza abahlobo kunye nompikiswano, phantse awusebenzi, kwaye intombi ephethe intamo enkulu iya kutsala ingqalelo. Zizikhethele ukuba kuyafaneleka ukulwa nomntu onjalo, okungeke kwenzeke ukugcina, kungekhona nje into yokulungisa. Nokuba ubekezelela isimo sengqondo esinjalo, okanye uhambe ngokupheleleyo kwaye ungenakuqhathaniswa, kufuneka uzihloniphe.
Ewe, zonke iingcebiso zilungile kuphela nje ngokuba kukho into ekulwela. Ukuba le yimeko yodwa, yikhuphe umdlali. Ukuba le nto iqala ukuphinda iphinda ibe ngaphezu kweyodwa, umlahla loo mntu.