Ngesizathu esithile, kwakukho ingcamango eqinileyo yokuba abafana bayaphonsa amantombazana rhoqo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuphosa loo mntu ngokwakhe kunzima kakhulu. Amadoda akayeki nayiphi na into yokuhlukana, kunye nabasetyhini banyamezela ukugqibela. Yingakho ivakalelwa kukuba abafazi bahlala belahliwe. Ukuba iimvakalelo zakho zibanda, kodwa awukwazi ukushiya iqabane lakho, kufuneka uphulaphule la macebiso alandelayo.
Bonke abantu kunye nobudlelwane bahluke. Omnye ufunga imihla ngemihla, abanye bahlala bezolile kwaye bezolile, kwimbini yesibini, umququzeleli uhamba kuphela. Iresiphi yendalo yonke yokuphosa umntu ayikho. Ewe, ukuba akunjalo xa ekutshintshile okanye ekutshitshise, ngoko ke abafazi abanalo isicwangciso, bahamba ngokukrakra.
Kodwa ukuba ungabelana njani nomntu, ukuba akukho sizathu, indoda yakho inothando kwaye ithembekile. Ngaba kulungele ukuseka isizathu sokushiya iqabane lakho okanye unokushiya ngaphandle kwengcaciso? Musa ukucaphukisa le nkwenkwe ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Ukuqala oko kuyimfuneko ukuba ichazwe, ukuba ufuna ukuhlukanisa i-bezvariantov. Zizikhethele wena, kodwa ngaba uzive uhlala wedwa, musa ukukhathazeka, unokuzibuza ukuba uza kuhlala phi. Intombazana kufuneka iqiniseke ukuba ukuhlukana kukuphela kwendlela kunye nokugqibela. Kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba ufuna ukuhlala wedwa. Ukuba kukho ukungathandabuzeki, kungcono ukulinda ixesha elithile. Emva kokuba uyinike, akunakwenzeka ukubuyisela ubuhlobo obuhle. Uya ku soloko ekhankanya ukuba unganyaniseki. Kungcono ukulinda kude kube ngumzuzu ongeke ukhathele ngayo yonke into ukuba ungayi kunyamezela.
Kwabaninzi, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha indawo efanelekileyo yokwahlukana. Ukuba awuzange uhlale ndawonye, zama ukukhetha indawo engathathi hlangothi engayi kuhambelana nemibono yakho eyabelwe. Kungcono ukhethe indawo eninzi yokulungiselela, xa umfana wakho engakwazi ukuzigcina ephephile. Kwabo bahlala kunye, hayi, akukho zikhetho. Kuya kufuneka sishiye indlu, sitsho ukuba umfana uqokelele izinto zakhe. Kunzima kakhulu ukuhlukana nomntu ukuba uhlala kunye. Ngethuba lokuqokelela izinto, uyayeka ukufunga. Ukuba ushiya ikhaya nonke, ukuze ungafungi, kungenzeka ukuba eyakho ayinakuqokelela izinto.
Ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka unikezele ukuzithemba kwinto othethayo. Ukuba sele sele ugqibe ekubeni le yinyathelo elifanelekileyo, musa ukubuyela emuva, umfana kufuneka abone ukuba unobungozi kwaye ubuyisele ubuhlobo, akanakuze. Zama ukugqoka i-sexy or seductive, kuphela kuqinisa intlungu leyo.
Impazamo eyona nto ibalulekileyo ibinzana elihle kwi-movie: "Masenze abahlobo". Akukho bahlobo! Kuye kuya kuba sisihlandlo sokudibana kunye ne-swami kwaye unako ukuziphazamisa. Ukongezelela, amadoda anengqiqo ebonakalayo yokuzibaluleka, angakubuyisela, uze uwalahle. Ngoko musa kuba ngabahlobo nabangaphambili.
Musa ukwesaba ukuba ungabalulekanga, ungaphazanyiswa neengxoxo ezingadingekile. Thetha ngokuthe ngqo kwimeko, akukho zikhumbuzo kunye neenkcazo. Ungamthobeli, ndixelele into enhle, kodwa akayena mntu wakho. Ungasebenzisi izilingo ezithile, umzekelo, "uhlala ungikhohlisa," "uphuma kunye nabahlobo ngeveki." Thetha kuphela amabinzana aqhelekileyo: "Uthando luye lwadlula ndawo." Ukuba uthethe ityala elithile, ngoko umfana uya kuba nako ukuphendula ngokukhawuleza kwaye uthembisa ukuzalisekisa zonke iimfuno zakho. Ewe, kwaye unokukholelwa ukuba kuya kuphucula kwaye kutshintshe, kwaye ngaphambi kokuba ukuxolelana kusondele.
Kwimeko apho eqala ukukukholisa, cinga nje ngawe. Zama ukuphulaphula amagama akhe, kodwa khumbula kuphela into engafanelekanga. Cinga ngethuba elingakanani elilahlekileyo kulobu budlelwane obuhlulekile, kwaye ngoku ufanele uchithe ixesha kwiikhalazo zakhe kunye ncokola nantoni na. Ewe, kwakukho iinkumbulo ezimnandi, kodwa akufanelekile ukuziphilisa.
Ukuphepha ukuxhamla kwixesha elizayo kunye ne-ex yakho kungenakwenzeka. Iintanethi zentlalo, abahlobo kunye, izalamane, wonke umntu uya kufana nobudlelwane be-ovashih. Kungenzeka ukuba owangaphambili uya kuqala ukubiza nokucacisa ubuhlobo, angaya ekhaya lakho. Musa ukuyithatha entliziyweni. Ewe, ndiyaxolisa kumfana. Kodwa akukho nto uyenzayo kumntu, inwabe yakho yindawo yokuqala. Zama ukuphepha ukudibanisa nekwenkwenkwe yakho.
Naluphi na ukuphuka luvavanyo olunzima kumabini omabini. U-Nestoit wandisa amava kwaye wamgxeka ngazo zonke izinto ezimbi azenzileyo. Kholwa, uya kuzikhumbula yena ngokwakhe, yedwa kunye naye. Yiba nobulumko kwaye ube nesisa, awuyikuphosa kuphela, uyabetha kwakhona. Emva kokushiya, kunokuba nomva wokungabi nalutho kunye nokuphelelwa lithemba, ngamanye amaxesha uya kuba ulungele ukumbiza. Ukuphazamiseka, biza iintombi zakho. Yiya kwiklabhu okanye kwi-salonkrasoty. Ngokubanzi, zama ukuhlala ubomi obupheleleyo, kwaye ungalili emlanjeni. Kwiintsuku ezimbalwa, uvakalelo lokuphelelwa lithemba luya kuqala, kwaye uya kuba nokuhlala ixesha elide. Unganikeli ukungapheli okwethutyana.
Emva kokuqhekeka, ungabonakali ngesibindi kwaye usombulule, kukubi ukuxelela umntu oqhelekileyo owamshiya. Ndixelele ukuba kwenzekile, wenze isigqibo kunye. Kubalulekile ukulondoloza ubuso nakweyiphi na imeko. Musa ukuvula ngokucacileyo kwisipredishithi, udumo lunzima kakhulu ukubuyisela.
Masibhale. Kubalulekile ukushiya kakuhle, ngaphandle kokuhlambalaza. Yiba nengqiqo, kodwa ungatshintshi.