Ubomi obudibeneyo bhinqa kunye nendoda ethobela, njengomyalo, isigqiba esithile. Inyaniso kukuba yonke imbalwa embalwa isigaba esitsha senxibelelwano siqala phakathi kwendoda nomfazi, kwaye ngasinye isigaba sizisa ngokuvuyisa kunye neengxaki.
Iindidi ezili-10 zobudlelwane
1 isigaba sobudlelwane - ukuhlanganisana (kwiminyaka emibili yokuqala yomtshato) Ngelo xesha, kubonakala ngathi abatshabatshintshile ukuba i-honeymoon ayiyi kuze iphele. Kulokuqala kwindawo apha, njengomthetho, uthando lomzimba. Eli xesha lezengqondo zithi "intwasahlobo yeemvakalelo."
Nangona kunjalo, njengokuba ebomini, akukho ntwasahlobo ngaphandle kwesibhakabhaka. Ngama-statistic, i-3% yabasandul 'ukutshata sele isele iinyanga ezintandathu emva komtshato wawo, nangona iphinda iphinde ixabane. Kodwa iipesenti ezingama-50 zezibini sele sele ziqala ukwesaba ukuba ikusasa labo losapho luselula. Kwaye i-4 ekhulwini yezibini zichitha ubuncinane ubusuku obu-1, kwaye ama-3 ekhulwini abatshabhile sele benalo ixesha lokutshintsha iqabane lawo.
Isigaba sesibini sobudlelwane luxhala (ngokuqhelekileyo unyaka wesithathu okanye wesine womtshato). Nanku ukuthokoza kokuqala kwadlula kwaye inkqubo yesapho yafika. Kwaye ngoku kuphela, ezininzi izibini ziqaphela ukuba iqabane lawo alifani ngokufanayo njengoko bekunjalo kwiinyanga zokuqala zokuthandana. Ngokomzekelo, ama-87 ekhulwini kwabasetyhini bathi emva komnyaka wesibini wokuhlala ndawonye bayeka ukuthanda lwabo abakhethiweyo. Nangona oku kunjalo, ukunyanisela, nangona kunjalo, kunyaka wesine wobomi obudibeneyo, amanxeba amaninzi, ngelishwa, adibanisa. Ngalesi sikhathi umntwana wokuqala ukhulile, le ntombi iphinda iziva ikhululekile.
Isigaba sesithathu sobudlelwane - ukuvelisa (lo ngowesihlanu wesithandathu somlingane). Ababini abangenawo abantwana, njengomgaqo, cwangcisa ukuzalisa intsapho. Ngeli xesha, uthando aluyithandi kakhulu, kodwa lunentsingiselo ngakumbi. Nangona kunjalo, ekubeni umntu engakwazi "ukuthatha inxaxheba" ngokwenene ekukhuleleni umfazi, i-toon isoloko ingazihlukananga naye. Kwaye iiphumo-70 ekhulwini zeemama ezizayo zivalelwa ngokwabelana ngesondo ngokwazo.
Isigaba sesine sobudlelwane - esi siqendu samandla (kwindawo ethile kwinyanga yesibhozo ukuya kweyesibhozo somtshato). Ngokuqhelekileyo eli lixesha elinomdla kakhulu ebomini obatshatileyo. Ababini ngokuqhelekileyo banqoba ubunzima bokuqala kwengqondo, kwaye ngoku banamaphulo anokwenene. Ngokomzekelo, isi sibini sizithenga indlu kwaye sinikeze. Ngokuqhelekileyo isikhundla sobuchwepheshe somyeni sinamandla ngokwaneleyo, kwaye abaninzi abafazi emva kokuzalwa komntwana baphinde baqale umsebenzi wabo. Iindima ngaphakathi kwentsapho sele zisasazwa kwaye indawo nganye "iyazi".
Isigaba sesihlanu sobudlelwane ngumphefumlo (ukususela kwinyanga yesithoba ukuya kwinyanga yeshumi elinanye). Isiseko sobambiswano sele sisinamandla, njengokuba imeko yezemali kwintsapho. Ubunzima bokuqhawula umtshato behlisiwe, ngokukhawuleza xa abafazi bawela umda weminyaka engama-30. Esi sigaba sobudlelwane "ihlobo lomtshato". Abaninzi abatshatileyo babelane ngokuzibophezela phakathi kwabo, emva kwezi zihlandlo zinkqubo yeklasikidi: indoda ikhokela ngqo kwinkalo yobungcali, kunye nomfazi osekhaya. Ngamanye amaxesha kukho ukuxabana kuphela kwimicimbi yokukhulisa abantwana. Umqondiso wangaphandle weentsapho ezonwabileyo unokuqwalaselwa okulandelayo. Kwiminyaka elishumi yokuqala, emva komtshato ukuba abafazi babo bafumana ubunzima malunga no-8 kg, kunye namadoda - 8.5 kg.
Isigaba sesi-6 sobudlelwane-isigaba se-totals (ukususela ngomhla weshumi elinesibini elinesibini elinesine). Abasetyhini emva kokudabuka kwabo (emva kancinci, kunye namadoda) baqala ukulinganisa iziphumo zokuqala zabafazi. Njengomthetho, baphinde baqwalasele isicwangciso sobomi, kuba bayaqonda ukuba akukho xesha elide lokushiya ukwenza into ebaluleke kakhulu. Amanye amaqabane kule meko akholelwa ukuba aphelile, adidekile, ngamanye amaxesha alungele ukubuyela. Abanye abantu bayaqonda ukuba izinto eziphathekayo akuzona izinto ezibalulekileyo ebomini. Eli xesha lingachazwa ngokuthi "ekwindla yokuqala" yomtshato.
Isigaba sesi-7 sobudlelwane - iingxaki (ukususela kwishumi elinesihlanu ukuya kumashumi amabini anyaka). Uthando luye lwaba ngumkhwa, amaqabane athile aqala ukuhamba. Abasetyhini abafuni ukunyamezela ukunyanzeliswa kwengqalelo yomyeni wakhe, ukungathandeki komguli. Amanye amabhinqa ahlala egcwele ngeli xesha ngeli-17 kg. Kwaye abantu baninzi "bayeke" ukudibanisa. Kodwa, benqabe ukugatya umtshato, kwaye bakhetha inxantathu yothando, nabafazi, ngokuchaseneyo, bahlala bezama ukuphula. Kule nkqubo ininzi ihlukaniso, kwaye kuma-70 ekhulwini lamatyala, abafazi baqala.
Isigaba sesi-8 sobudlelwane sihlaziywa (ukususela kwimashumi amabini anesibini ukuya kumashumi mabini anesihlanu). Njengomthetho, amaqabane sele sele ahlolisise zonke iindlela ezinokubakho zobomi bexesha elide kwaye bahlala kunye. Ixesha liqala, "ekwindla yokuvuselela". Abantwana sele bekhulile kwaye badinga uncedo kubazali babo (ngaphandle, mhlawumbi, imali). Amanye amadoda avula "ukuphefumula kwesibili" emsebenzini. Kwaye abafazi nabo benza umsebenzi wabo wobugcisa ozimeleyo ngokuzonwabisa.
Isigaba sesi-9 sobudlelwane sisigaba se "sentsholongwane" (ukususela kumashumi amabini anesihlanu ukuya kunyaka wamashumi amathathu). Nangona abantwana bephuma ekhaya, bathanda ngokukhawuleza bafumana impembelelo entsha: kuba lula kunye nokuzingca. Iipesenti ezingama-48 zeentsapho ziqwalasela ubudlelwane babo. Iipesenti ezingama-38 zazo zibonwa zihambelana kwaye iipesenti ezi-3 kuphela zixanduva.
Isigaba sezobudlelwane-isigaba sokuguga (emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu nesibini). Eli xesha "ukuvuna". Abo bahlala ndawonye ukuze baphile ubomi banokuyonwabela iziqhamo zothando lwabo, njengomthetho, bayabulela omnye nomnye ngenxa yeemvakalelo ezijulile, kuba iiyure ezidibeneyo. Nangona kunjalo ukuba kumadoda amathuba okwenyuka okwenyuka kancane, amaqabane athenjiswa ngokungenamkhawulo ngumhlobo. Umtshato ufinyelela "ekwindla yasegolide".