Ewe, kwenzeka. Kwaye ngamandla akho ukutshintshisa umntwana kwaye udibanise ngendlela efanelekileyo, ukwenzela ukuba loo nto ifikeleleke kwaye kulula ngokukhawuleza.
Masidlale udokotela
Indlela yakho yokubhedlele esibhedlele "i-story story" incike kakhulu kwiminyaka yomntwana. Umntwana osenkulisa, okokuqala, ufuna ukuqinisekiswa aze aqinisekise ukuba ukulaliswa kwezibhedlele akuhambelani nokungathobeli kwakhe okanye ukungathandwa nguye ngabazali bakhe. Ngokukodwa kunzima ukunyamezela ukuhlala esibhedlele ngabantwana abaneminyaka engama-3-4 ubudala, xa umama nobaba babonakala bodwa ngabantu abanothando kwihlabathi lonke, xa uloyiko luqhakazile, luquka ukwesaba ukufa. Abantwana baxhatshazwa ngoluvo lokuba baya kufuneka banyamezele intlungu kunye nentlungu, bayaqiniseka ukuba bahlala behlala kunye nabani na iinkqubo zonyango. Sitshele ukuba oku akunjalo ngaso sonke isikhathi. Ungaphinda ukhankanye amaxesha amnandi: ithuba lokudlala nabanye abantwana okanye ukutya ngokulala.
Umntwana okhulileyo kufuneka anikwe ulwazi olubalulekileyo malunga nokuba uza kuba esibhedlele kwaye kuza kwenzeka ntoni esibhedlele. Umntwana kufuneka aqonde: into enzima njengesibhedlele iyadingeka ukuze kulunge, kwaye ngokunyanisekileyo uya kulandela iziphakamiso zoogqirha kunye nabahlengikazi, ngokuqhelekileyo kuxhomekeke kwithuba elide lexesha lokubhedlele. Chaza kuye imigaqo yokuziphatha kwesi sikhungo, cetyiswa ukuba uthathe izinto ezinokuqhayisa ubomi bakhe kwiwadi: i-albhamu kunye neepensele, i-needlework, iincwadi, izixhobo zemidlalo kunye nemidlalo.
Bazali, endleleni yokuphuma!
Ukususela kwisimo sengqondo somama ngeendlela ezininzi kuxhomekeke kumntwana. Zama ukuzigcina uhlala kunye kwaye uhlale uzinzile, kuba kwimeko echaphazelayo, sisoloko senza oko siba neentloni ngako, kwaye asikwazi ukuvavanya ulwazi olubalulekileyo oogqirha babika. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba unobungozi bunjani, khumbula ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu ngoku yile impilo yengane. Musa ukwenza umntwana esibhedlele ibe yidrama yendalo yonke, musa 'ukuphefumula', uhlale kude nezihlobo ezinokungaqiniseki. Ukubeka ukuba isibhedlele ingengozi, intlungu kunye noloyiko, ukubuyisela enye indawo: le ndawo apho banceda khona, ukubuyisela ukufumana kwakhona.
Zama ukwakha isimo sengqondo esilungileyo kumagqirha kunye nabasebenzi bezonyango. Ingane inokufunda into emdala ubudala "Ugqirha u-Aybolit", uthenge itekethi yokudlala, ukuze ikwazi ukuzama kule nxaxheba, umntwana omdala-xelela amabali okwenyaniso ngemimangaliso eyenziwa ngabantu oogqirha abavela kuThixo, eqinisweni baninzi. Oku kuya kunika uxolo kunye nethemba lokuba yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo. Hlonipha oogqirha: Musa ukucelomngeni zabo izenzo kunye nomntwana, bahloniphe ngokuthetha nabo. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba unako ukuphelelwa ingqalelo: iimpazamo zezokwelapha zenzeka, kwaye azinqabile. Ngako-ke unganqikazi ukubuza imibuzo, unelungelo lokufumana nayiphi na inkcazelo malunga nokunyangwa komntwana, ukwazi ukuba yintoni na isizathu sokuba aqeshwe, ukufuna ukuchazwa kwemiqathango yonyango.
Bhala phantsi zonke izinto ezinokuthi zifike ngokufanelekileyo: amagama kunye noonxibelelwano lwabagqirha, amagama amachiza kunye neshedyuli yabo yokumkelwa, imihla ngemihla esibhedlele, iimveliso ezivunyelwe kunye nezingavunyelwe, njl. Konke oku kuya kusinceda ukuba sihlele ulwazi kwaye, ngokuthe ngcembe, sihluke inkqubo, kwaye Ukuchaneka kwonyango ukufumana unxibelelwano lweencwadi kunye nolunye uchwepheshe.
Ixesha X
Kuphi na ukulungele ukuxelela isigulane esincinane ukuba kufuneka aye esibhedlele? Kucetyiswa iintsuku ezimbalwa - umntwana kufuneka alungiselele ngokwengqondo nangokomzimba. Akukuhle ukuzisa umntwana kumgqirha njengokungathi uviwo oluqhelekileyo, kwaye ngokukhawuleza ubhalise esibhedlele - oku kumothukisa. Kodwa ukunweba iintlungu malunga nokuhlukana okuza kubakho kwiiveki ezimbini akufanelekanga. Zama ukungabonisi unyana wakho okanye intombi indlela oziva ngayo, ngokuchaseneyo, khangela konke okulungileyo. Umntwana wakho ufuna ngempela inkxaso yakho!
Yintoni umntwana ayifunayo esibhedlele?
- ubuncinci be-hygienic: i-toothbrush kunye ne-paste, isepha, iphepha le-toilet; (uluhlu olupheleleyo lunokucaciswa kubasebenzi beziko elithile);
- iingubo ezicocekileyo (uya kuthatha ingubo engcolileyo);
- Ukutya okuzenzela (okwenyani, ukuba kuvunyelwe);
- ifowuni ephathekayo kunye neshaja ukuze umntwana ahlale edibanekile.
Umgaqo oyintloko - isigulane esincinci kufuneka sibe nakho konke anokuyidingayo, kodwa akukho nto iyingcambu.
Ukususela kwi-receipt ukuphuma
Ukukhawuleza ukuba umntwana uhambele esibhedlele kuxhomekeke kubukhulu bemiba: ubunzima besifo kunye neendlela zokunyanga, ubudala bakhe, isimo sengqondo, iimpawu zengqondo, kwaye ekugqibeleni, kwiinkampani (kunye nabahlobo kunye novuyo!). Njengomthetho, emva kweentsuku ezingama-3-5 isigulane esincinci sithatha "u-thaws", ukusetyenziswa kwimeko entsha. Ngokudlulileyo, ufumana ubunzima obukhulu ngexesha lokuvakashela abazali bakhe: ukubonakala kwesithunywa esivela kwindlu ngokukhawuleza kukukhumbuze indlela enhle ngayo nendlela ofuna ukubuyela ngayo ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko ke, ukutyelela kwabazali kudla ngokuphela kwezinyembezi zezingane kunye nabahlaziyi. Nangona kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba ukutyelelwa kufuneka kunqunywe ubuncinci. Emva koko, kubaba kunye nonina, abantwana banoma yimuphi umdala babona umthombo wokuzithemba noxolo.
Xoxa kuphela iindaba ezilungileyo, kunye nonke onokukwazi ukulinda ulinde, cela umntwana ukuba kwenzekani kuye esibhedlele, kwakhona ngokugxininisa kwi-positive: funda incwadi entsha, wenze ubungane nomntu, ufunde indlela yokuyiphatha iphazili, njl. Mdumise ihamba njengengxenye ye-porridge, idliwe kuze kube sekupheleni, okanye ukuziphatha okunyalileyo kwigumbi lokunyanga.
Yenza izicwangciso ngekamva, uza kwenza ntoni xa ebuyela ekhaya, apho uhamba khona ekutyeleleni, oya kumema ukutyelela ... Kubalulekile ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana akanakukhathazeka esibhedlele: nokuba imidlalo yakho eyintando kunye nemisebenzi, iphindwa rhoqo imihla , unokukhathazeka - kufuneka uqaphele utshintsho lwazo. Ngendlela, esesibhedlele apho kukho ixesha elininzi lokukhulula, umntwana unokufumana italente yangempela: umntu uthanda ukugcoba okanye i-macrama, umntu uqala ukudweba, ukutyhila kwiplastiki okanye ukubhala izibongo!
Ngokuphathelele unyango loqobo, impumelelo yalo kuxhomekeke ekuqeqesheni isigulane esincinci nonina. Zama ukubambelela ngokuqhelekileyo imihla ngemihla kunye neminye imithetho yesibhedlele, ungayigxothi icebiso labasebenzi bezonyango. Musa ukunyanzelwa ububele wena nomntwana wakho, kodwa ungafuni ukuba akunakwenzeka kuye. Ngokwemvelo, uloyiko lweenkqubo ezingamangalisi (iijoyi, amabhinki, i-droppers), kwaye nangona abanye abantwana beziphatha kakuhle, musa ukumgxeka! Ngokukodwa musa ukukoyika kwaye ukhohlise, "Musa ukukhala, kwaye emva koko baya kuqesha amanxeba amaninzi", "Uya kuziphatha ngale ndlela - abayi ku kubhala ngaphandle kwesibhedlele", "Khangela: akukho mntu uyabhongayo, nguwe kuphela", "Akusiyo ukuba ulungise iisringana "(kwaye ngeli xesha udokotela ngokukhawuleza wenza i-injection) - ezi ziqendu ezingavumelekanga kunye namaqhinga.
Mkelekile!
Ekugqibeleni, ixesha elide elindelwe "inkululeko" - umntwana wakho usekhaya kwakhona! Lo uvuyo olukhulu. Nangona kunjalo, eminye yemiphumo yokuba esibhedlele - ingqondo yengqondo - ingasondela ekugqibeleni. Ukubandezeleka, umntwana unokuba ngumsindo, abe nobudlova okanye uvale ngaphakathi kuye, okanye abe nomsindo, ongenakunqwenelekayo kwaye engabonakaliyo. Akunjalo kwaye "kambek" ebuntwaneni - oku kudla ngokukwenzeka kunye nabantwana abane-3-4 ubudala. Baphinda bacele ukuphatha, banqabile ukugqoka, banokubhala nakwi-panties - oku kuguqulwa kwengqondo, oko kukuthi, ukubuyela kwisigaba sangaphambili sophuhliso. Ukuba ufana nalokhu, umntwana ubonakala ekhuselwe: unina wengane akayi kuvunyelwa ukubeka umntwana esibhedlele.
Ukuhlala kwiindonga zesibhedlele yedwa kunokusondeza i-psychotrauma kumntwana. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba uneminyaka engakanani: nokuba iintsana ezinyanzelekile ukuba zichithe ixesha esithile esibhedlele ngaphandle kokuba umama azikhumbule, kwaye emva koko uxinzelelo lwengqondo oluxoshwa kwizinga lokungazi ludala iingxaki ezininzi, zenze ukuziphatha okungavamile. Le nto iyaziwa ngokuba "isibhedlele sabantwana." Ukuba iimeko zenzelwe ukuba ungenalo ithuba lokuchitha ixesha lesibhedlele ecaleni komntwana, ngoku kubalulekile ukuthatha amanyathelo okubuyisela ngokukhawuleza. Ukunceda umdlalo - umsebenzi owona mkhulu wabantwana kunye nesixhobo esinamandla sokulungiswa kwengqondo. Ukulahlekelwa phantsi kweemeko ezahlukeneyo, kuquka ukuhlukunyezwa, inkunzi isebenza ukwesaba kunye nexhala, eliphucula imeko yakhe. Kwi-arsenal ye-psychologist, ininzi yemidlalo ekhethekileyo kwiimeko ezinje, abanye babo abazali bangawusebenzisa ekhaya. Ingqondo yengane iplastiki - kungekudala yonke into iya kuphucula.