Ziziphi izizathu ezivakalayo zokwesaba ukonwaba kunye nendlela yokulahla? Kwiimeko ezininzi, ubunyulu bubonwa ngathi njengengxaki engathandekiyo, ngaphezu koko kuthethwa ukuba umntu unesizungu, ngoko akanakonwaba. Kodwa ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuqonda le meko ngokukhethekileyo? Ingxaki yobomi bebesetyhini eRashiya ngoku ifanelekileyo. Siza kuyifumana.
Ukuqonda kwakho
Ngoko, yintoni inkululeko ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga ngengqondo? Uxhala luchazwa njengomntu wezenzo-zengqondo nezengqondo, ezixhomekeke ekungabikho kwezihlobo, okanye ngenxa yokwesaba ukulahlekelwa kwabo, okanye ukungabikho kobudlelwane obuphathekayo kunye nabantu ngenxa yokunyanzeliswa kwabantu. Kwaye kulandela ntoni na? Yaye inyaniso yokuba sizakhele isohlwayo asikho nto kodwa isimo sethu sangaphakathi, indlela esiziqonda ngayo thina nabanye. Iingcali zengqondo zihlukanisa iintlobo ezimbini zokuzimelela: zithande-zodwa-zodwa. Olunye uhlobo lwezobugcisa luhlula ubunyulu zibe yinto ecacileyo kunye ecacileyo. Umzekelo olula kunye obalaseleyo wobulolo obonakalayo nguLolinson Crusoe, owachitha iminyaka engama-28 kwisiqithi esingahlali kwaye akazange athethe nabani na. Kuyafaneleka ukuba ndiqaphele, ndifuna ukuthetha, kodwa akukho mntu. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo kwihlabathi lethu lokwenene, ulwalamano lusabonakalisa kwimo ecacileyo, xa umntu ehlala ejikelezwe ngabantu, ekhuluma nabo, kodwa uvakalelwa ukuhlukana. Abantu abakujikeleze, ngokubanzi abayidingi, akayivalelwanga yintliziyo kwaye banokuphila ngaphandle kokuthetha nabo bonke ubomi bakhe.
Ubaleke kwiShadow
Enyanisweni, ukwesaba ukulondeka kubaluleke kakhulu ukwesaba ukuzijonga. Khumbula ukuba kaninzi kangakanani kwimeko ephosakeleyo uqhubela kwifowuni, ukudayela inombolo yomngane wokulondoloza uze uhambe naye kwi-cafe ukuba uthethe, kubaluleke kakhulu - ungahlali wedwa. Ekugqibeleni, ukuhamba, ukudibana, ukuthetha, kodwa kungabi lula kuwe, uzive ukwahlukana komntu, incoko ayinakuchukumisa kuwe, nangona uxhasa incoko - ingqungquthela yesizungu ihlanganisa intloko yakho. Kodwa uhamba phambili: hamba ngokukhawuleza, ngoko uye kwiphathi kunye nabahlobo, apho, uzame ngamandla, uxoxe, kodwa ngelo xesha uvakalelwa yedwa. Sisiphi isizathu? Ubalekela kuwe, uzama ukuzalisa ukungenamsebenzi ongekho kuzo zonke iziganeko ezithandekayo kunye nabantu kuwe, endaweni yokujonga ngokunyanisekileyo inyaniso emehlweni akho. Ewe, ewe, unesizathu esihle, kodwa awukwazi ukusinda kuwe. Kufana nokusebenza ukusuka kwisithunzi sakho. Kodwa isithunzi siya kuhlala sisifumene nawe, kwaye ngokunjalo kwi-ad infinitum. Kwaye ekugqibeleni ukuphuma kusondele kakhulu - kuyimfuneko kuphela ukuzincama, ukuyeka ukuphumla kule marathon ephosa, njengoko isithunzi sidityaniswa nawe, siya kuba yinxalenye yakho. Oku kuyintloko yedwa. Musa ukubalekela kuwe, hlala phantsi okwesibini, kwindlu yokuhlala engenanto, uzive unesizungu sakho apha kwaye ngoku, uqonde izizathu zentlungu, uzame ngokupheleleyo - vula le ntliziyo, vumela entliziyweni. Kwaye ekuhambeni kwexesha kuya kudibana kunye nawe, ke ukuyeka ukuzisa iintlungu kunye nokusabalalisa, ukuchithwa kwamanye, iimvakalelo ezibalulekileyo, iiminqweno namava. Ngendlela, umphefumlo wethu awusabi ukonwaba, kungenjalo nesizathu. Kuye kunzima ngakumbi ukungaziva iimvakalelo zangempela, kungekhona ukwazi ukuba kungani ehlala kweli hlabathi. Esi sisisiseko saloo onke amacebo, ukuphazamiseka kwezifo kunye nezinye izifo zengqondo, ukungabi nentsingiselo yobomi kunye nendlela yayo. Ubomi bomntu kufuneka kubekho ishishini ahlala kulo, kwaye lungahluka: ukususela kwimidwebo yeoli kunye nokwenza isiphambano ekwakheni izakhiwo zeplanga ngaphakathi kwinqununu, into eyona nto kukuba kukukuphazamisa ngokupheleleyo, kukubuyisela kwaye kukunika amandla okuphila. Kwaye ke ukuthanda, ubuhlobo kunye nempumelelo kuza. Kholwa, wazi indlela yokulinda - yonke into inexesha layo!
Ubukhulu bodwa
"Isixeko esikhulu sinesizungu esikhulu," uVictor Hugo uthe xa iParis, ngoko i-capital capital yehlabathi, iginyile. Wajonga ingqalelo yenkxalabo emva kwenkulungwane yakhe, kwaye inzululwazi yekhulu lama-20 yaboniswa ukuba kwiidolophu ezinkulu abantu banokuziva becala ngakumbi kunamaphondo. Kwaye izizathu zicacile-apha abantu ekuphishekelweni kwemali, lwabo lonwabo, umsebenzi wabo, impumelelo, bayeke ukuphawula umhlaba jikelele. Abantu bayeke ukuba babekho komnye nomnye, babe yintsikelelo, ubunzima obunokuya kwinqanaba elitsha lonwabo. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva loo mntu uya kufuneka ukuba ayeke ukuphumla, kwaye uya kufumanisa ukuba kuye kwakungekho ukungcola. Kwiidolophu ezinkulu, abantu baqhubeka bexoxa neengqondo zengqondo. Ukuba ubomi bakho buhamba ngendlela ephosakeleyo - ungakhathazeki, akusayi kukhawuleza ukutshintsha. Into ephambili - ukufuna ukutshintsha, kwaye ke ihlabathi elijikeleze, kungakhathaliseki ukuba livakala kangakanani, liya kutshintsha. Kwaye akunzima ukukwenza. Njani? Imithetho ilula.
Imizwa idibana
"Hlala ekuseni, uhlambe - kwaye wuleze ubeke umyalelo kwiplanethi yakho," - ngoko icebisa iNkosana encinci ukuba yenze encwadini ye-Exupery, indoda encinci engama-104 encwadi ayizange ibe yedwa. Kutheni? Ngenxa yokuba isinyathelo sokuqala nesona sibalulekileyo sokuba ungabi yedwa, akufanele ulahlekelwe nguwe, ukukhumbula izicwangciso zakho kunye neminqweno, ukufezekisa izenzo zakho, ukuzihlawula ngamandla anokunika amandla kunye nokwabelana ngesimo sengqondo nabanye. Emva koko, yonke into ebomini bethu ivela kwixesha elingaphezulu, ngakumbi iimvakalelo. Ukuba udityaniswe uthando, kungekudala okanye emva koko uza kuthulula ngaphaya komda, uya kuphazamiseka kukuba, uya kuthanda ukwabelana nabanye, kwaye luhlobo luni lobuninzi olukhoyo? Imvakalelo, ngendlela, idluliselwa ngokulula kumntu omnye ukuya kwenye, ngoko ke ngokwaneleyo kuwe ukumomotheka, kwaye umntu ochasene naye uya kumncoma. Inyaniso icacile: xa unika ngakumbi kweli hlabathi, xa ubuya ubuya, imo kuphela yimeko yokwenza ngokukhululeka. Ndikholelwe, ubomi buyinto enomdla kwaye inomdla ukuba ulunwabo alukho nje ixesha okanye indawo!