Kwaye kunenzuzo kuwe ukuba ufumane uvuyo, njengoko enye ingcinga ephazamisayo iqala ukubuyisela enye indawo. Kuthekani ukuba umyeni wam ukhutshwa emsebenzini? Indlela yokukhusela umntwana kwiingozi? Yintoni esiya kuphila ngayo xa kukho ingqungquthela entsha yentlekele? Kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka ukuphelisa ukuxhalabisa: xa esinye isihloko siphelile, esinye siphumelele ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko uhlangabezana njani neengxaki zakho? Khangela kwinqaku ethi "njani ukunqoba ukuxhalaba ngexesha lokukhulelwa".
Okokuqala, thobela ingqalelo kweengqondo zeengqondo: kungakhathaliseki ukuba uvakalelwa kakubi ngenxa yeengcamango ezingenamsoco, ukuxhalabisa akusiyo imvakalelo. Kunoko isimo sengqondo esenza ukuba ugxininise iingxaki-zinyani okanye zenziwe. Ukuba unesifo esingapheliyo sokuxhalaba, kuthetha ukuba kwiingcamango zakho uhlala ubuyela kwiingxaki ezifanayo, kodwa awukwazi (okanye ungazami) ukufumana isisombululo. Khangela le meko kwi-angle: akunakwenzeka ukuba uphile ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kokuxhalabisa. Injabulo yindlela yokusabela yendalo kwanoma yimuphi umntu obhekene nesimo esinzima. Ukwahlukileyo apha kukuba ukuba iinkxalabo zakho kunye nokuxhalaba kwakho zizwakala, ngoko, okokuqala, kukunika uphawu lokuba ingxaki idinga ingqalelo yakho. Okwesibini, banceda ukuvavanya amathuba kwaye bafumane isisombululo. Oku kukukhathazeka okuvelisayo okusivumela ukuba sihlakulele kwaye siqhubeke. Masithi utsheliwe ukuba icandelo lezemidlalo liza kunyuka ngoJanuwari. Ukuba unobungozi obungapheliyo, uxanduva lokuchitha iiholide ngokucinga okubuhlungu ukuba uya kufuneka ulahlekelwe izifundo, ukuba intombi iyakucasula, ukuba ungumama omubi ... Ukukhathazeka okuvelisayo, ngokuchaseneyo, kuya kukushukumisela kwizenzo ezithile. Yintoni enokuyenza ukulungisa imeko? Fumana enye indawo apho iiklasi zingabizi, okanye zikhangele ukuphuma emsebenzini, gcina kwizinto ezincinci ...
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yiyiphi imbangela yale miqobo, akunzima ukubona ukuba isandi, ukuzonwabisa okuvelisayo kunokusinceda. Nangona kunjalo, akukho konke okulula. Iingcali zengqondo ziye zaphawula ukuba ukuxhalabisa okungapheliyo kugxininisekile. Okokuthi, ibhinqa elingamaxesha amaninzi elandelanayo lijika ukusuka ecaleni ukuya kwelinye ngaphandle kokulala, liqinisekile ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba inxaxheba ekuxazululeni ingxaki, kwaye ayizihlukumezi ngeentlonelo ezingenamsebenzi. Nangona abantu abanokulinganisela, abangenakulungelelaniswa neemvakalelo ezingadingekile, namhlanje kuya kuba nezizathu ezininzi zokucinezeleka. Yintoni esinokuyithetha ngayo ngalabo basabela kwiimvakalelo nangengxaki ezincinane? Ngethamsanqa, kukho iindlela zengqondo ezokukunceda ukunciphisa uxhalaba. Ezinye iinkxalabo zemihla ngemihla zingaguqulelwa kwiimveliso. Kwaye ukwesaba kwezinga le-cosmic (ekupheleni kwehlabathi, ukufudumala kwehlabathi, ubundlobongela bamazwe ngamazwe), uya kufunda ukuphatha okungakumbi.
Zinikezela kwi-alamu ... kodwa imizuzu engama-20 ngosuku! Ngexesha lemihla ngemihla, thatha ixesha lokucinga malunga neentlungu. Ungazami ukwenza iinjongo ngeli xesha okanye ukufuna indlela yokuphuma. Yenza nje ukwesaba kunye nokukhathazeka, ukhathazeke, uguqulwe ngomsindo obandayo, unokukhala. Kodwa, xa imizuzu engama-20 ihleli, selekile. Futhi uthathe isenzo esisebenzayo. Kutheni le ndlela ingasebenza? Ngokugqithiseleyo, abafazi abaqaphele ukuthambekela kwabo ngokwemvakalelo yeemvakalelo, bayeke ukuba bacinge ngeengxaki, kwaye yingakho iingxaki zingaphendululwa kuphela, kodwa zibuye kwakhona. Xa uvumelekile ukuba uvumele umqhubi ngemini, akufuneki uvuke ebusuku ngenxa yale nto. Zithobe ngokungaqiniseki. Zixelele: "Ewe, kukho ithuba lokuba ndiya kukhishwa emsebenzini. Kungenzeka kumntu, kwaye mhlawumbi akuyi kwenzeka. " Kwiinyanga, bazibetha ngeengcamango zeengxaki ezizayo. Kodwa eli lizwe lilungiswe kangangokuba asikwazi ngaphambili oko kuza kwenzeka kwikamva. Ukulahla i-alamu ezingenamsebenzi, zama indlela yokujonga. Fumana ixesha apho kungekho mntu uya kukukhathaza. Hlala ukhululekile, uphefumle ngokukhawuleza nangakumbi njengoko kunokwenzeka. Cinga ukuba uxhalaba lwakho luhlobo oluthile lomsi ophuma kwimiqulu yokuthunga. Ungazami ngandlela-thile lo msi, utshintshe ulawulo lwawo, jonga nje ukuba uphuma njani kwaye uphuphuke emoyeni.
Khawucinge ukuba awusabi nantoni na.
Wenza ntoni ukuba ubungenakhathazeka ngokukhathazeka rhoqo? Zama ukwenza njalo. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba ukuziphatha kwethu kuchaphazela iingcamango neemvakalelo, inkqubela iya kuqinisekiswa. Mhlawumbi uyazi ukuba izazi zeengqondo ze-American school zikwacebisa ukuba uncumo, nangona ungekho nwabisa. Oku kunengqiqo. Izifundo zibonisa ukuba nangona uzenza ngathi uyavuya kwaye uziphathe ngokufanelekileyo, uqala ukuziva ulunge ngakumbi. Oku kungenxa yokuba iingcamango, iimvakalelo nezenzo ziyahambelana. Ukutshintsha imo yesenzo, utshintshe indlela yokucinga. Gxininisa kwimihla ngemihla. Ngokomzekelo, phendula ngokunyanisekileyo lo mbuzo: ubunzima bezoqoqosho kunye nokufudumala kwehlabathi kushintshe indlela yakho yobomi? Mhlawumbi uyamangalisa ukuqaphela ukuba usayithenga ukutya ngoLwesihlanu kusihlwa, ngoMgqibelo ekuseni, hamba ukuhamba epakini, kwaye ngeCawa ubukele konke ukudibanisa intsapho. Naka ingqalelo kumasiko amancinci amkelweyo kwintsapho yakho, ukuba kuyimfuneko, ivela kunye nezithethe ezintsha. Oku kuya kukunceda uhlale unomqondo wokuzinza kweli hlabathi eliyingozi.
Musa ukulinganisa imeko nangaliphi na indlela
Xa uxhalabile, ulindeleke kakhulu kwiimeko ezikhoyo kwaye unganciphe amathuba akho. Indlela yokujongana nale nto? Okokuqala, umntu kufuneka aqaphele ukuba ngamaxesha onke abantu banenkxalabo: abaongameli, abaphathiswa abaziintloko, abadlali abadumileyo kunye nabadlali. Asikwazi ukulawula rhoqo iimvakalelo zethu neemvakalelo zethu. Emva koko, abanakukhanselwa okanye balelwe ukuba bayeke ukuhlangabezana nabo ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa amandla okwenene ngomlinganiso ukulawula izenzo. Ziqinisekise ukuba unako ukujamelana neengxaki. Ziqhelise ekuxazululeni iingxaki. Ungesabi ukuzama isandla sakho, nokuba xa uqala ukujonga imeko ibonakala ingathembekanga. Zama ukwenza uluhlu olubhaliweyo lweendlela zokusombulula iingxaki ezibalulekileyo. Ukuba ixesha lokuqala lingasebenzi, unganqikazi ukucela uncedo kulabo uthembayo. Akumangalisi ukuba iinkokeli zeenkampani ezinkulu zithembela indlela yokwenza iingcamango. Emva kokuphulaphula izimvo zabanye, unokwazi ukujonga imeko kule ndlela. Ubaleke uxinzelelo. Ngenxa yokuzivocavoca umzimba, ii-hormone zovuyo ziveliswa kumzimba - i-serotonin kunye ne-endorphin. Imisebenzi emithathu yemizuzu engama-30 ngeliveki inokuphakamisa kakhulu imvakalelo yakho. Kodwa uphando lubonisa ukuba nokuba umthwalo weminithi engu-10 unomphumo omuhle kungekhona kwimizi, kodwa nakwimpilo.
Fumana imisebenzi enomdla engqondweni. Imfihlelo iyilula: ukuba uxakeke into enokwenene, uyayikhohlwa malunga neengxaki. Cinga nje: ngaba kukho umsebenzi ebomini bakho obukuvuyisa kwaye ujabule? Qaphela ngokucophelela izinto kunye nemisebenzi enokukwazi ukutsala kwaye-ebaluleke kakhulu-ukugcina ingqalelo yakho. Zama ukuqaphela ngokukodwa oko ukwenzayo. Xa intloko yakho ixakekile, awunaso ixesha lokukhathazeka. Sebenzisa ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo nabathandekayo. Ukuba unobungozi obukhulu, oogqirha bakho abakhulu banabantu abasondeleyo. Evulekile ngokwenene kwaye uthele umphefumlo unokuba ngumntu othembela ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye kunye nethuba lokuthetha linye yezilwanyana ezinokusetyenziswa kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukulibala ukuba iintlanganiso zentlalo zinokubaluleka kunokuba i-imeyl okanye iifowuni. Ngokuqhelekileyo uye ebantwini, uye kwiivenisi, iminyuziyamu kunye nemibukiso, fumana ukubonakala kwintsha. Ukudibana kunye nabahlobo, abafunda nabo kunye nabo osebenza nabo emsebenzini wangaphambili. Unokufumana umhlobo okanye umhlobo wokuxhalabisa, okulula ngaye ukuthetha ngentliziyo entliziyweni. Kuphela kwangaphambili kuchaza imithetho: ngethuba le ntla nganiso awuyi kuthululela kuphela amava akho, kodwa zama ukuqondisa enye kwiinkxalabo ezakhayo, oko kukuthi, ukusombulula ingxaki. Ngoku siyazi indlela yokunqoba ukuxhalaba ngexesha lokukhulelwa.