Yintoni eyenziwa ngumntu xa efuna ukubuyisela umfazi? Enyanisweni, wonke umntu, njengawo, nangona kunjalo, wonke umntu, unendlela kunye nezindlela zakhe. Kodwa, ukuba umntu unetyala lokwenene, ngowokuqala kokuzama ukucela ukuxolelwa. Ngendlela, ku funeka kuqatshelwe ukuba abantu abaselula bayabonakala beqhenkce kakhulu kwaye bathanda izidalwa. Ngoko ke, isicelo sokuxolelwa sisona sinzima kakhulu. Ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, lo mfana unyanisekileyo kwaye akazenzisi ngenxa yesizathu. Abantu abanjalo baya kuxolisa - vela nje. Abafaki ukubaluleka kunoma yiphi na amagama abo, kwaye zonke iimvakalelo zabo zibuxoki.
Ukuba uyazi ukuba lo mntu uyayiphenduka ngokwenene, qwa lasela ingqalelo into yokuba ufuna ukuxolelwa, wenza ngokuthotywa phambi kwakho kunye nokuguqa. Kwaye, amanye amadoda, akakwazi ukwenza oku kwintlungu yokufa. Oku kukukhukhumeza kunye neengqondo zabo. Ngako oko, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ukuhlambalaza nokuhlambalaza umntu ongeyomelele, zama ukumxolela. Kodwa musa ukunyamezela nokuxolela. Kukho konke okufuneka ukwazi umlinganiselo. Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba usaluxakile, okanye ufuna nje ukuba afunde isifundo, makunqobe. Enyanisweni, amadoda ayazi indlela yokwahlula abafazi babo. Ngokulula, emva kokuba ubudlelwane bube bude kwaye bunzulu, baqala ukulibala, ukuphumula nokuzenza iimpazamo. Ukuba loo mntu wakucaphukisa ngokwenene, waphoswa kakhulu kangangokuthi wanquma ukushiya, ngoko ukukhululwa kwecala kufuneka kube yinto enokuthi iphelise intlungu kunye nentukuthelo. Ngamnye wethu uyazi ngamaphupha kunye neengcamango zabantu abasondeleyo. Ukuze ubuyisele umfazi othandekayo, ngokuqinisekileyo indoda iyazama ukuqonda ubuncinane ezinye iimfuno zakhe ebomini. Kwaye akayi kusindisa ngexesha okanye kwiimali. Xa ulahlekelwa yona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, akunakwenzeka kuwe ukuba ucinge ngezinto ezinjalo. Ewe, ukuba intanda yakhe ibaluleke kakhulu kuye. Kwaye ukuba akunjalo-ke ungabuyeli kuwo. Kwimeko apho, wenza ngokuchanekileyo ukuba wamshiya kwaye akazange ucinge nangokuxolelwa.
Ukuze uzuze umfazi othandekayo kwakhona, amadoda angenzi nto. Andikuthetha ngokuxhuma kumabridlo kunye nokusika imithwaba, kuba iingqondo ezinjalo zithetha ngokuphambuka kwengqondo kubantu. Apha sithetha ngala ma nyathelo apho abafazi basebenzise kakubi amadoda abo, bachukumiseka ngokuthandana kwabo. Unokucinga ngeendlela eziliwaka ukukholisa intanda yakho. Kwaye i-roses ye-roses apha ngokucacileyo akukho mntu ulinganiselwe. Abafazi baphupha izinto ezahlukeneyo. Omnye ufuna ukuya eLondon, umntu ufuna nje ukuya kwikonti yeqabane lakhe elithandekayo nelizwi, kwaye intliziyo yomntu ifudumala ngephupha eliza kushicilelwa. Ukuba umntu unetyala, unetyala lokwenene, uya kuchitha yonke into ayilondolozile ukuba acele intethelelo yakhe aze enze nantoni na ayifunayo. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abafana baziphatha njengento ephosa. Bakhokelwa nguloyiko lokuba umntu ozalelwa ekhaya uya kushiya, uyeke ngonaphakade kwaye utshintshe into engayi kunakwenzeka. Kungenxa yoko, abafana baya kwiintlobo zonke zeentlanga, badibanise bonke abahlobo kunye nabaqhelana nabo, bezama ukulungisa imeko. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awuyi kuqaqa ngentloko yakho kwaye wonke umntu unakho amandla okwenza imali. Kodwa, abafazi bayayiqonda oku, kwaye bavavanya, ngokusekelwe kumntu omntu anakho kunye noko azimisele ukuchitha ekuxoleleni kwakhe. Ngelishwa, kunzima ukuphinde uqiniseke ngamagama kunye nemizwa yodwa. Kwaye akukho malunga nokuthengisa. Ngokulula, ngezenzo ezinjalo, eziqhelekileyo, azikho lula, abafana babonisa iimvakalelo zabo kunye nomnqweno wokwenza konke, ukuba intombazana yayingakholwa kwaye ixolele. Ukuba intombikazi yakhe iyakumnika imoto imodeli yakutshanje, akayi kuwuqwalasela. Kodwa ukuba umyinge, intombazana ephakathi, inkwenkwe yakhe ecela intethelelo, iya kuthatha imboleko yemoto, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuxabisa isenzo esinjalo. Kufuneka kuqondwe ukuba umcimbi awukho kwiimali kwaye kungekhona ngemali, njengengxenye ehlukeneyo. Nantsi yonke into iyadibanisa kwaye ibonisa ukuba umntu unomnqweno wokujika iintaba ukuba abuyele umntu wakhe othandekayo. Kule nto, kwaye kuphela kule nto, uthando lwangempela lubonakalisiwe.
Abesifazane baziva bebuxoki, nangona bazama ukuzikhohlisa baze babeke loo mntwana ekukhanyeni olungcono phambi kwentsapho, abahlobo kunye nabo. Kungenxa yoko, amantombazana ahlala eqonda ukuba izinto ezintle zindoda zakhe ziyinyani kwaye, ngokwenene, zifanelekile. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukubuyisela umfazi okwaneleyo kunye neveki, ngamanye amaxesha - oku kuthatha inyanga. Ubuhlungu kunye nentlungu enokungenakubekezeleka. Kodwa, phantse njalo umfazi uxolela, xa ebona ukuba umntu uyaguquka, utshintsho kwaye ulungele ukwenza konke okusemandleni kwaye akunakwenzeka kuye.
Yintoni eyenziwa ngumntu xa efuna ukubuyisela umfazi? Akasayi kuthi cwaka ngeemvakalelo zakhe aze azibale ngokukratshi. Le nsizwa ayicingi ngomfanekiso wayo, malunga naluphi uluvo oluya kukhula phakathi kwabahlobo bakhe nokuba ingawa njani. Ngamanye amaxesha, indoda ifuna ukulahlekelwa, ukuqonda ukuba uyayithanda kangakanani kwaye ixabisa kangakanani umntu. Yingakho ukhulula ityala lakhe ngazo zonke iindlela aze abonise iimvakalelo azifihlayo ngoku. Amanye amadoda afuna ukulungiselela izifundo zokuphila, ukwenzela ukuba ekugqibeleni baqale baqonde ukuba yiyiphi into ekufuneka ixabiseke ngayo kule bomi. Kwaye ke, loo mfana uza kwenza konke kwintombazana kwakhona ukuba akholelwe eluthandweni lwakhe.