Iimpawu zoxolongo
Indoda engatshatyalaliswa iyayicinga ukuba isebenzise ingqondo yengqondo, kwaye kwanobubini, ubundlobongela kumfazi. Nguye osebenzisa ukufezekisa iinjongo kunye neminqweno. Amanye amadoda asebenzisa ubudlobongela ngokwesondo.
Xa ibhinqa liziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga ngombono wendoda, uqala "ukuphelelwa ngumsindo," oko kubonisa ukuba, xa kwenzeka ukuba umfazi engavaliyo kwaye engayithobeli, unokubonisa ubukrakra kuye. Ngaphezu koko, kulo mzekelo, ukuziphatha kwabesifazane kubonakala kungabonakali kwaye kungalunganga kuye kuphela. Abanye abantu abayiqondi into ayenzileyo. Ukuziphatha okungafanelekiyo emehlweni enkqantosi naluphi na ukubonakala kobuqu kunye nombono wembono wakho.
Izidloloko zihlala zingayithobeli ingqalelo yokuba ibhinqa lakhe likhubekiswa ngamanye amadoda. Ngaloo ndlela, bayasongela abafazi, kubonisa ukuba kwimeko xa bengakwazi ukuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo, loo mntu akwanele ukuba yena ngokwakhe angamhlambalaza aze ahlazise, ngoko akayi kukhusela kwelinye, achaze oko akufanelekelayo.
Iintlanzi zivame ukukholisa abafazi ukuba i-theyrepay xa baqala ukubetha ngamaqhinga ngenxa yokwesaba umntu. Loo nto inokuthi ngokukrakra ukuba akazange amphathe kakubi kuye, nangona ukuziphatha kakubi nomfazi kuye kwenzeka, kungekho kanye.
Amadoda ahlambalazayo anqwenela ukuhlazisa abo bafazi ngaphambi kohlobo nabahlobo. Ukuba umfazi uqala ukumxelela ukuba uyamcaphukisa, uya kuthi: "Uyakhathazeka kwaye awuqondi amahlaya, awukwazi nje ukuhleka."
Iintlanzi azizange zibhekiselele ngabafazi ngenhlonipho.Angadlala indima yomntu ohlonipha isondo esilungileyo kodwa baya kwenza oku kuphela xa kuyimfuneko. Kwaye kunye namanye amadoda, loo mntu uhlala ecoca ngokubhekiselele kwabasetyhini.
Indoda ekhohlakeleyo ihlala ifumana iindlela zokucinezela umfazi ngokubonakala kwayo kunye nesimo sengqondo kuye. Ngokuqhelekileyo izidangatye zizama ukuthetha ngokungabonakali kangangoko kunokwenzeka ukuncoma, kwaye ungakhumbuli ngabo nonke. Batsho ngokugqithiseleyo ukuba bathandana nomphefumlo wabo weehafu, ngaloo ndlela baphendeza ukuba ngaphandle akunjalo ubuhle.
Iintlanzi zizama ukuzama ukusebenzisa inzondo yomama yowesifazane. Ayikho imfihlo yokuba nayiphi na inenekazi inothando ezama ukuzondeza abo abathandayo, bancede, njalo njalo. Kodwa i-despot ijika kulo mvume ibe ngumsebenzi osondeleyo. Kuzo zonke iindlela ezinokwenzeka kwaye ezingenakwenzekayo zikholisa umfazi ukuba ufuna kwaye kufuneka enze konke kuye.
Iingcamango zakhe kuphela zichanekileyo. Nangona loo nto into engazange isebenze, le yile mpazamo yeemeko, kwaye kwanokuba lona wesifazane ngokwakhe. Ngaphezu koko, akanakuze athathe le nxalenye, nokuba kunjalo, i-despot iyakufumana isizathu sokumgxeka yonke into.
Izidaka zihlala zikhanyela ukuba zivumela i-worksamous ngaphezu kwamabhinqa abo. Bahlala besithi baqonda kakuhle abafazi babo, kodwa baziphatha ngale ndlela kuphela kuphela kwiinjongo ezilungileyo. Ngokwabaculi, abafazi banako ukwenza nantoni na, kodwa abanakho nto kodwa budenge, ngoko imisebenzi yabo kufuneka ilawulwe.
Ekuqaleni, iindwendwe zizenza ngathi zinyameke kwaye zivelele. Banobafazi banxibelelana kwaye bafumana inani elona likhulu lolwazi, abasebenzisa ngokumelene ne-miladyam. Yonke into abesetyhini abaye bathetha ngayo kubadeli baba yinto ephela kwizandla zabantu.
Ukuba ibhinqa liqala ukuphikisana nenkohliso, ihlala ifumana indlela yokumkholisa ukuba iziphatha kakubi, icatshulwa kwaye iyonakalisa isimo sakhe sengqondo. Iingxaki zisoloko zizenza ngathi ixhoba ukuba iyaqonda ukuba ibhinqa liyakwazi ukuqonda kwayo. Ngokukhawuleza uyammangalela ukuba uhlaziyekile, ngokukhawuleza ukwakha iingxabano, eziza nomgangatho ongenalo ngokwenene. Ngenxa yoko, abafazi bayavumelana nobuqhetseba kwaye baqala ukucela ukuxolelwa kwabo. Kwaye oku kukuthi amadoda adinga ukunqanda ubuntu bomntu kwaye enze ukuba umfazi uzive njengomntu ongalunganga ongalungelwane nolwalamano oluqhelekileyo.
Ukholo aluzange luvume ukugxekwa, kodwa uhlala efumana ithuba lokugxeka umfazi. Ngexesha elifanayo, utsho ukuba utata wamcaphukisa ngokuziphatha kwakhe kwaye kufuneka anike iingcebiso. Ukuba wayeziphatha ngokuqhelekileyo njengamanye amantombazana, kwakungeke kufuneke aphendule ngokuziphatha kwakhe ngale ndlela. Kodwa kuphela ukuba umfazi uyayithobela, uba ngumnqweno obuthakathaka, ukwesaba, ukudelela nokuxhomekeka kuye.