Kutheni amadoda athi "Hayi"

Xa umfazi ngokwakhe ethatha isinyathelo sokuqala kwaye ecela ngokucacileyo ukuya kwinqanaba lobuhlobo obunzulu, umntu angayilahla? Yaye ukuba uyayenqaba, ngokukhawuleza ufumana umbuzo othi: "Awunayo nayiphi na imizwa kum?". Phantse ama-85 ekhulwini lamadoda ahluke kwiimeko zentlalo kunye neminyaka yobudala bayabuzwa ukuba sele bekulungele ukuqala ubudlelwane nomfazi okhangayo, kwaye, ukuba yena ngokwakhe ungumcebisi, mnike impendulo efanelekileyo. Nangona kunjalo, abameli abaninzi abakhethekileyo nabakulungele ubuso bendoda yesigxina kwimibuzo ngemibuzo efanayo, kutheni wathi: "Hayi?".


Akakwazi ukulibala lakhe intombi

Ungayichazela njani ngokwenene ukugatya komntu olwalamano? Kwaye kunokuba abameleli besondo esomeleleyo bachaza ukungafuni kwabo ukubopha inomxholo obalulekileyo?

Eyokuqala kwaye malunga nezona zizathu ezisisiseko - akayikushiya intombi yakhe yangaphambili ekhanda lakhe, enobomi bakhe obukhulu. Ngaphandle kokubonakala komfazi omtsha ebomini, nangona uqobo uqobo, unokufumana iintlobo ezahlukeneyo kwiintombi zakhe zangaphambili: u-nostalgia, ukuzisola ukuba yonke into eyenzekayo, umnqweno wokuguquka, ukwesaba ukuphindaphinda ibali. Njengomthetho, kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi kwaye kwimeko nganye ngabanye kwaye kuxhomekeke ngqo kwizinto ezibangele ukuphuka. Kungenxa yokuba le ndoda yonke imizamo yabasetyhini yokusondela kuye ayiyikunyamekela. Emva koko, entliziyweni yakhe nangengcamango wayehleli ngaphambili, enokuthi wayelindela kunye nekamva elizayo. Kuya kunceda ixesha kuphela, okanye ubuncinci, uncedo lesazi sengqondo. Kuphela kufuneka ube nesineke kwaye ulinde, uzama ngazo zonke iindlela zokubonakalisa ukhetho lwakho olusondele kuwe lungcono kunalo.

Abafazi abanentlonelo muzhchinam abangaboni

Abameli bezesondo ezinamandla zilungele ukungayithobeli isinyathelo sokuqala kumfazi kunye nokuzama kwakhe ukubopha inveli ukuba loo ntokazi ivela kwiinjongo zayo, isebenzisa iindlela ezingavumelekanga. Isingeniswa ngokukhuselekileyo: rhoqo kunye neentlanganiso "eziqhelekileyo" kwisitalato (kwi-cafe, kwibhar) Ukuziphatha okunyanisekileyo kukugxeka ingqiqo yothando lwe-romantics. Yaye le nto yinto yokuba umntu uyathanda inkululeko kwaye xa ebona ingcinezelo evela kwicala lomfazi, oku kuloyikisayo ngokucacileyo, ukuba lona wesifazane ofanayo okwangoku akayena mntu kuye. Lapha umbuzo ngokwawo uphakama: "Kwenzeka ntoni na xa siqala ukudibana okanye siya kuqinisa ubudlelwane bethu ngomtshato?".

Kwakhona, i-postulates ye-okuthiwa "ikhowudi yalomntu" idlala indima enkulu, elandelayo emva kokuba isinyathelo sokuqala sifanele sivela kumntu. Ukuguquka kunye nokuqinisekiswa yinto yayo. Kodwa ibhinqa kufuneka libonakaliswe ngolo hlobo njengento yokunyamezela, ububele, kodwa kungekhona kuyo yonke intukuthelo yesilwanyana, ilungele ukunyamezela kumfana, njengokungathi umnikelo kunye nayo yonke indlela iyenze ibe ngumgcini wayo, kwaye ngexesha kunye nomyeni wakhe.

Nangona kunjalo, oku, oko akuthethi ukuba ufanele uhlale ngaphandle kokwenza okuthile kwaye ulinde "isimo sezulu elwandle", xa umntu ngokwakhe uya kuthatha isigqibo (ngenxa yezizathu ezingaziwa) ukuya kwinqanaba lobudlelwane obukhulu. Amadoda athile kakhulu, athathaka ngakumbi kwaye athathwe kancane. Khawukwazi "ukuziqhelanisa" umntu ngokwakho, kwaye ke awuyi kuba nexesha lokukhenkesha iliso, njengoko uya kuthatha inyathelo lokuqala kwaye akubiza ngokusemthethweni intombazana yakhe ethandekayo.

Amadoda ayesaba ukungala

Njengomthetho, amadoda alungile ekubambeni amanqaku amanqaku athile okubaluleka kwintombi aze ahlukanise ngokugqibeleleyo, kubani abathunyelwa kuwo, kodwa ukuhlanganiswa okunzima okunjalo kunye nezibonakaliso zengqwalasela kuya kubakhokelela ekukhohliseni. umbuzo: "Akathethi ukuba uyandithanda?" Mhlawumbi uvakalelwa kakhulu xa uhlezi ekhaya kwifowuni nethemba lokuba kuya kululeka (ngakumbi ukuba le fowuni ibaluleke kakhulu kuwe). Akuqinisekanga ukuba wenza enye i-trophy, ukujonga izakhono zakhe zamehlo okwenene-imeko eqhelekileyo ehamba kunye nayiphi na yokuqala (kwaye ayisoloko iyimhla yokuqala). Inyaniso enomdla kukuba amadoda, kungakhathaliseki ukuba angaqhelekanga njani, uvakalelwa ngenye indlela. Yaye le nto inokuvela nangona emva kokuqhagamshelana ngesondo. Kwaye kwenzeka ngokukhawuleza ukuba akakwazi ukuthethelela ngokupheleleyo zonke iintolo kunye namaphupha ayenziwa ngumfazi, ekumbona naye kwindoda yakhe, okanye mhlawumbi ukuba umfazi uzama ukumnqoba, efuna ukubeka omnye uluhlu lwakhe "Intliziyo Ephukileyo"! Ngoko ukwenqaba komntu kusekho ubungqina bokuthi akafuni ulwalamano nawe. Mhlawumbi oku ukwesaba nje oko kuye kulindeleke kuloo ntsapho, ubuchule bokugqibela babo, njl njl. Nayi indlela kuphela yokulungisa imeko ukubonisa ubungqina benjongo yakhe malunga nekamva lakho elizayo.

Awuze uzuze imimoya

Indoda, njengowesifazane, inesizathu esikhulu sokwenqaba ulwalamano (nangona emva kokusetyenziswa kakuhle ekhaya). Sinike kuphela ezimbalwa eziphakathi kwezona ziqhelekileyo. Kodwa kufuneka kuhlale khunjulwa ukuba nangona isiphi isizathu umntu enqaba ukulungelelana, akufanele avumeleke ukuba aphelelwe yintliziyo. Linganisa imeko ngokuthe ngenye icala: mhlawumbi le ndoda ayikufanelanga nonke kwaye inelungelo elifanayo lokungafuni, njengoko unesimo esifanayo. Khumbula ukuba baninzi abantu abanomdla, abanomdla kunye nabakhululekile abakuzungezayo, abangenakho ukunyanzelisa ukuba balinde ixesha elide, baya kuzinikezela ubuhlobo obunzulu kwaye mhlawumbi kusasa isandla sakho nentliziyo.