Yintoni abantu abayiyithethayo?
Lo mbuzo wonk 'ubani uzinikela kuye oxhomekeke kakhulu kwiimbono zikawonkewonke. Ukuxhomekeka okunjalo akunakwenzeka ukunceda umntu ebomini, ngenxa yoko uya kuphila ngokungafanelekanga njengoko angathanda. Ngubani, ngokuphambili, ochaphazela izenzo kunye nemisebenzi yabantu abanjalo?
Okokuqala, ngaba ngabazali. Abantwana abaninzi, kwinqanaba elithile lobomi babo, bahlukana nabazali babo kwaye bahamba "uhambo lobomi" abazimeleyo, abanye baqhubeka behlala kwindlu yabazali kunye nengqondo yabazali. Mhlawumbi, abaninzi banamavila ukuba baphile ngokwabo, kwaye mhlawumbi ke, ezi ziinkathazo.
Okwesibini, abaninzi baxhomekeke kwimbono yabantu ababizwa ngokuba ngamagunya, kwinqanaba lingaba ngabahlobo kunye nabantu abangaqhelekanga: abasebenzi, abaphathi, ubukhokeli beli lizwe (liqhuba uxinzelelo lwayo ngamajelo).
Ku-Kslov, ukuxho mekeka kunokungafani - ukusuka ekuxhomekeke kumbono othile ngomntu malunga neempahla zakho kunye nokuxhomekeka okuphezulu kwisicwangciso sokwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo. Ukuxhomekeka ngokugqithiseleyo kunokuzibonakalisa kwiifom ezahlukileyo kunye neefom: ekukhulekeleni okungaboniyo kubaphathi kunye nangaphambi kokutshintshwa kweqhinga lokwenza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ezandleni zabanye (okanye ukucinga ngolu hlobo lwabantu xa benza izigqibo ezibalulekileyo ebomini). Ngokomzekelo onjalo, singabandakanya njengomzekelo: imfama elandela imodeli, umnqweno wokuphepha iingxaki zengxabano ebantwini, bonke babonakala "balungile", umnqweno wokunika abazali ilungelo lokugqiba iyunivesiti kunye naluphi udidi oluya kubhalisa.
Izizathu zokuxhomekeka oku
Kukho izizathu ezininzi zokuxhoxiswa okunjalo kwimbono yoluntu. Vosnovnom, bavela kwiinkqubo zabantwana kunye nabaselula, ukwesaba, kunye nomkhwa wokuphila ngokucwangcisa isicwangciso somntu, ukungakwazi ukwenza ukuzimela nokuzikhethela. Isiphumo kukuba ukuvela kwexhala lokuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka, ukungakwazi ukuhlala ubomi bomntu, ukuthatha inxaxheba ekuhambeni kwendlela yokuphila, ukungakwazi ukuvuya nokuhlala ungathembeki. Abantu abahlala phantsi kwengcinezelo yombono woluntu bahlala besaba ukwenza inyathelo elongezelelweyo, ukugwetywa okugwetywayo okanye ukukhanya kwe-oblique ngaphandle.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngaba ngabazali babo ababafundise abazali ukuba, ngokomzekelo, oku kungafanelekanga kwabanye, kwaye oku akunakwenziwa ngabantu, kodwa awukwazi ukuziphatha koluntu njalo njalo. Yonke inciphisa kwimemori yomntwana kwaye, ngokuhamba kwexesha, iya kuba yinkimbinkimbi enkulu kunye nokwesaba.
Indlela yokulahla uxinzelelo loluntu ?
Ukuze ugxothwe ingcinezelo kwimbono yoluntu, okokuqala kuyimfuneko ukuba uqaphele ukuba abanye abantu, ngokwenene, abakhathaleli ukuba ungubani kunye nento oyenzayo ebomini bakho. Ngoko ke, akufanele usebenze ngendlela ongeke ufune ukuyenza, ukwazi malunga nokugwetywa kweentlanga. Mhlawumbi umntu uya kugweba imbonakalo yakho, izenzo okanye ukuziphatha, kodwa emva kwemizuzu emihlanu wonk 'ubani uya kulibala ngalo. Ewe, asinakuthetha ngezenzo ezihamba ngaphaya kwemida yokuziphatha okanye malunga nezenzo zolwaphulo-mthetho, kodwa unokwenza zonke izenzo zakho ngaphandle kokwesaba uxinzelelo oluntu.
Kufuneka usebenze kunye nawe kwaye ukwesaba ngokwakho okanye uqhagamshelane nesazi sezengqondo esiza kukunceda ngale nto. Okokuqala, zivume ukuba le ngxaki ikhona kwaye uzilungiselele ukuba unqobe olu xhomekeke kuyo. Okwesibini, cinga ngento yokuba abantu abaxhomekeke kwimbono yoluntu banakoyika kakhulu ukungavumi kwabanye. Ngoko ke, yintoni eyoyikisayo yinto enokungavumiyo: ukuziphatha okuqhubekayo, ukugxeka, ukuxabana, ukwahlukana kobudlelwane, ukujonga izinto kunye ukuhleka okanye ukuhlekisa? Emva kokuqonda kwaye wathi ngokukrakra ukwesaba kwakho, unganokuwucima kancane kancane.