Enye yemimandla yomsebenzi weengqondo zentsapho inceda ukuxazulula iingxaki ezinxulumene nobudlelwane phakathi kwabatshatileyo, nokuba ngaba lukhohlakeleyo, iingxaki zesicwangciso sesondo okanye umtshato. Kwezinye iimeko, iimvakalelo ezinqinileyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi azikho isiqinisekiso sokubambisana kwintsapho: ukuhlala kunye kubandakanya ukuqokelela izikhalazo ezingabalulekanga, iingxabano ezincinane kunye nokuxabana. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha kukho ingxoxo elula ngokwaneleyo yengxaki. Ngaphandle kokuhlala ngokwahlukileyo, indoda kunye nomfazi okwazi ukufumana iiyure ezimbalwa ngeveki ukwenzela ukuba bathethe ngokunyanisekileyo kunye neengcali malunga nokungafani kwabo kwiimbono, ukuqonda izizathu zokuvela kwabo kunye nokufumana iindlela zokusombulula isisombululo sabo, babe nethemba kwisiphumo esihle sezehlo.
Abenzi benzi beengxaki abahlali bahlala nabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umyeni nomfazi bakhe bafuna ukulungelelaniswa neemeko zobomi ezintsha, ezifana nokutshintsha indawo yokuhlala, ukulungiswa komhlaba jikelele emsebenzini, ukulahleka kwelungu losapho, izifo kunye nokunye.
Umkhosi odibeneyo kwi-psychologist yosapho uya kuba negalelo ekuvuseleleni ukuthembela phakathi kwabatshatileyo. Emva kokujonga imeko kwintsapho ngokujonga okutsha, kuya kuba lula ukufumana isizathu seengxaki nokucacisa iindlela zokubakhupha.
Isapho senzululwazi yentsapho idala inkqubo nganye kweso sibini esitshatileyo, ngenxa yezizathu zokungavumelani phakathi kwabo babini. Indlela enjalo ayihambelani kuphela nale ngxabano, kodwa nakwiimpawu zomntu ngamnye womtshato. Emva koko, njengoko kuyaziwayo, zingaphi iingxaki ezikhoyo, kwaye ezininzi iindlela zokuzisombulula.
Izizathu zokutyelela isazi sengqondo seentsapho azikhawulelwanga kwiingxaki zobume phakathi komyeni nomfazi. Isizathu sokutyelela sinokuthi sinjani ubuhlobo phakathi kwabazali nabantwana okanye ukunxibelelana komntwana kunye nabantu abakujikelezile. Kukho imizekelo eninzi ebomini: ukungathembeki, ukusebenza kwesikolo, ukungqubuzana, ukuguquka rhoqo kwisimo sengqondo kunye nokuziphatha, iimpazamo ezahlukeneyo, ubunzima ekukhulumeni nabantwana abaneminyaka elifanayo kunye nabadala.
Umntu omdala uyona nkathalo ebalulekileyo yabazali. Kodwa nangona uluncinci oluthatha ixesha elizayo lungaholela kwimiphumo emibi - ingxabano ekunxibelelaneni nomntwana kunye namalungu entsapho kunye nabantu abakujikelezile kuluntu.
Njengoko kumzekelo wesibini esitshatileyo, isazi sengqondo sikhetha indlela ekhethekileyo kumxhasi. Kufanelekile ukukhankanya ukuba isifo sengqondo seentsapho singabamba inxaxheba kwiindlela ezahlukeneyo: unokusebenza kunye nentsapho yonke, kunye nabatshatileyo, umntwana kunye nabazali bakhe, kunye nomntu othile osapho. Abantu banokubonisana, ngubani ngenxa yesinye isizathu okanye omnye ahlala ngaphakathi kwintsapho okanye ayinayo okwangoku. Nabani na onokubhenela ekuncedeni kwengqondo yengqondo.
Abantu abaninzi banomdla kwisidingo sokufuna uncedo kwi-psychologist. Abayathandabuzeki ukuba umntu ovela kwisitrato akanandaba nesisombululo seengxaki zabo, kuba engayazi nawaphi na amalungu entsapho.
Nangona kunjalo, kulungele ukuzama. Emva kwakho konke, iingcali zengqondo zentsapho ziyizakhono ezichanileyo ezinokukunceda uqonde ingxaki kwisimo seengcali. Akunakuphoqeleli ukuba wenze ngokuvisisana kwabo, kodwa nje kukukhokela, kukuncedisa ukuphuma kwimeko kunye nokukhuthaza amalungu omndeni ukuba acamngce ngemeko yabo. Zikukhokelela kwisigqibo esifanelekileyo, apho isiguli sonke siyakwazi ukuza.
Ngoku siyakwazi ukunika impendulo ecacileyo kumbuzo othi ngubani osapho kwengqondo yengqondo. Ungumntu owazi kakuhle umsebenzi wakhe, oya kunceda ukuphucula ukuqonda phakathi kwentsapho, ukwenza ubudlelwane phakathi kwabazali nabantwana ngokuvisisanayo, kunceda ukuchazela ngokucacileyo iimvakalelo zabo, kungabandakanyi ukungena phantsi. Kwaye ukufumana indlela yokuphuma kwimiqathango ekhoyo, ukunqoba imimiselo yokuziphatha kwakho nokwenza ezintsha, ezona zichanekileyo, ukuchonga izizathu zokungazinzi kwengqondo kwimiba ebantwini okanye ukwenza inkqubo nganye yabazali bexesha elizayo.