Kutheni umntu ephosa intombi yakhe ethandekayo

Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukuvuyisi ukufumana oko okuthandayo okutshintshayo, kwaye, ngaba njalo. Kuthiwani ukuba umyeni wakho ungumntu ongenamdla uDonjuan kwaye akakwazi ukunqumla isikhwele? Uyakuqonda njani izizathu zokungathembeki kwamadoda, kwaye, ngokubalulekileyo, yintoni enokuyenza?

Ngoko, izizathu eziqhelekileyo zokuba umntu uza kumngcatsha intombazana yakhe ethandekayo: imfuno yokuvelisa, ukuziphatha, ukuthanda ukuthanda ukuthanda ukuthanda ukuthanda, ukukhulelwa, ukungaziveleli kwintombi yakhe, ukukhulelwa komfazi, ukuphindiselela, ukukhupha umfazi, ithuba eliyimpumelelo, uthando lwangaphambili. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, indoda iguqula umfazi wayo kwi-boredom. Ubomi obusondayo bemihla ngemihla, ukuzilibazisa kunye nokulala ngokwesini kuba isizathu sokuba indoda ikhangele into entsha kwicala. Ngoko, ukuba indoda yakho ifuna into entsha, mangaliswe! Isiqinisekiso sobomi bentsapho obonwabileyo sisekuhlaleni. Yiyo le nto yokudlala eyenza umntu athabathe. Ukuba indoda iyaqonda ukuba umfazi wakhe ulungele yena, akayi kuze ayitshintshe, funa ulwalamano olubhekiselele. Ukuba uphupha ubomi obunentsapho obonwabileyo, yiba yinto engummangaliso, uyamangalisa. Ukuba yintyatyambo eqaqambileyo eheha umdla wayo, kodwa, ayiyikuzibonakalisa ekupheleni, kunzima. Shintsha umfanekiso wakho rhoqo, cinga iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokuchitha ixesha lakho lokuzonwabisa. Hayi, ah, ubomi bonke bowesifazane kukuhlala bebonakalisa umntu osondele, ukuba uyona mhle.

Ubundlobongela besilisa - bubuhlungu, buhlungu, bubuhlungu ... Kodwa, kuthekani ukuba uyayibheka ngaphesheya? Ukuzithemba, ukucaphukisa intlungu kunye nentlungu iphosa umfazi kwizinto ezinobundlobongela, amahlazo kunye neinyembezi. Ekugqibeleni, uphendukela ekubeni ngumntu olahlekileyo, ulahlekile phambi kokuncintisana nokuzithemba. Ngoko kuvela ukuba indoda iphambi kwekhetho. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, wena, okhubekileyo, othukutheleyo, uqhube uhlale unxilongo, ufunge kwaye umthuke. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, inkosikazi eyamxhasayo, ayinqumki, iyancwina kwaye isebenze naye ngesondo (awuyi kulala nomyeni oye watshintsha wena?). Ngokwemvelo, le ndoda iya kukhetha ngokukhethayo. Ukususela kwingcamango yokujonga ingqiqo, oku kuziphatha kakubi. Indlela ngqo yokulahlekelwa ngumntu. Kungenxa yoko, ukuba ufuna ukugcina intsapho, thanda umyeni wakho kwaye ungafuni ukulahlekelwa nguye, kufuneka utshintshe indlela oziphatha ngayo.

Okokuqala, okokuqala, kubalulekile ukuphonsa zonke iingcinga ezingekho phantsi kwentloko yakho, uyeke ukucaphukisa umyeni wakho, jonga intlanganiso kunye nenkosikazi yakho uze uqhube umxhasi. Khumbula ukuba into yokuba indoda iphosa intombazana yakhe ethandekayo ingaba wena, ukuba, ngokwenene, akayiyo i-donjuan epheleleyo. Ukujonga okutsha kwimeko yangoku kuya kukuvumela ukuba ufumane isigqibo esifanelekileyo, ukuze ufumane inzuzo kwaye ubuyele kumyeni kwintsapho. Cinga ngento yokuba sele usesimweni sokuphumelela. Kungenxa yoko, le ndoda inayo, kungekhona nomnye umntu. Kukho enye inqaku elibalulekileyo, amadoda, eduze kwabo abanobubele, abasetyhini nabasetyhini, abayiqhawula umtshato kubo. Ukuba ungenzi nantoni na isisiphukuphuku, umyeni uya kuhlala kunye nawe, kwaye inkosikazi iya ku libala.

Enye into efanelekileyo: umyeni wakho uya kuhlala ehle kakhulu, engekho elele embhedeni, ukukhwelela intombi zakho. Ungakwazi nokuba ngumlo, uzibandakanye ngokwakho, tyelela i-salon, udibana neentombi. Indoda iya kuhlala ihlala yintliziyo efanelekileyo, ikuxabise, umfazi wayo, uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye nabantwana benecala. Ukongezelela, ukuguquka kwamadoda - isizathu esikhulu sokuphumla ngokwahlukileyo. Ngakuphi ixesha lokugqibela owaye eholide ngaphandle komyeni? Ngaphandle kokulandelwa rhoqo, ukunyamekela nokunyamekela?

Khangela ukuba kutheni kunzima ukuba indoda ikhohlise intombazana yakhe ethandekayo kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, ayimfuneko. Emva kwakho konke, kuyabuhlungu, kungathandeki, kodwa ukuba uyayibheka ngaphesheya, unokufumana amanqaku amaninzi. Ubomi bakho buya kuba mnandi ngakumbi, kulula, ngakumbi ngakumbi kwaye kunandipha. Awunakukubona ngaphandle kwesilumko, uhlobo oluthandekayo kunye nomntwana omncinci. Umyeni nguDonjuan, kwaye kukho into kuwo!