Luhlobo luni lwabasetyhini abafana nabo?

Amadoda zidalwa ezizodwa zendalo, singabesifazana, abayiqondi ngokupheleleyo, ngelanga, njengathi. Kwaye oku kulungile, ngaphandle kobukho bomntu buya kuba buhlungu kwaye bubuhlungu, kwaye kukho imfihlelo kunye nokunyaniseka kuyo.

Kodwa kunjalo, le nto iyimfihlelo yamadoda edala iingxaki ezininzi kuthi, kuba kufuneka sihlale nabo ngandlela-thile. Ndifuna ukuba basidumise, bafunde, kwaye ngenxa yoko sifuna ukuqonda ukuba luhlobo luni lwabasetyhini abafazi.

Kulo mbuzo wohlobo lwabafazi abanjengamadoda, ungaphendula ngelizwi elinye-ezahlukeneyo. Ekuqalekeni, kubonakala ngathi kufuneka ubenike zonke i-blondes ngokugqithisa okukhulu, kodwa ukuba kwakunjalo, ngoko-95% nathi siza kuba ngamantombazana endala. Nangona kunjalo, sonke sihluke, kodwa wonke umntu unalo, makungabi namyeni, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ungumtshati. Okokuqala, masiqhekeze inkolelo yale mibonakaliso ephawulekayo kunye nesibonakaliso se-barbie (ndiyathemba ukuba amantombazana ethu amnandi anemfesane aneempawu zemizekelo andizange ndikhubekise).

Bathi amadoda ayakuthanda amehlo. Ungatsho ukuba oku kunjalo, kodwa amehlo abo ayabathanda kakhulu. Omnye uthanda imfutshane, i-miniature brunette, amanye amantombazana amancinci avela ku-Rubens, kunye namanye amantombazana amade avela kumaphephancwadi. Akunakwenzeka ukufumana ngokuchanekileyo uhlobo lokukhanga kwintlobo ethile yabasetyhini. Iingcali zengqondo zithi indoda ikhangele ibhinqa emfanekisweni womama nabafazi babo inento yokukhumbuza umama ebusheni babo, izazinzulu zithi amadoda athambekele ekukhetheni amantombazana ahlangabezana neemfuno zabo zokuzala, amadoda athi akukho uhlobo oluthile lwabafazi, nje Abasetyhini abanesihawu kubo, kodwa kukho abo abangabonakaliyo. Kodwa into enye ingathethwa ngokuqinisekileyo ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba akukho mntu uya kuwuqwalasela intombazana engayithobeli imbonakalo yakhe. Andicingi ukuba nawuphi na kuni, amantombazana abathandekayo baya kujongela umntu onobuqili, onqabileyo, onqathayo kwiincindi ezinobumba kunye nomoya wokuphefumula. Kuyafana oku malunga namadoda, ukuba umfazi uyayilinda, ukuba lo ngumfazi oqaqambileyo, uya kwenza ingqiqo ebonakalayo kubantu abaninzi. Kwaye namantombazana anamhlanje anamathuba amaninzi okwenza "i-candy." Ngandlela-thile ilula ukuthetha kweCoco Chanel, sinokuthi ukuba intombazana eneminyaka engamashumi amathathu ibonakala ingalunganga, ngoko ke akayena mntu ufanelekileyo.

Kodwa musa ukulibala ukuba amadoda ahlola kuphela ukubonakala kokuqala, ngokwezenzululwazi malunga nemizuzwana emithathu, kwaye ihlabathi langaphakathi livavanywa. Nanku, bangaphi amadoda, ezininzi iimvo. Abanye abantu bathanda i-bitch, i-vamp women, kunye nabafazi abathile abathule. Akukho nto engabonakaliyo ukuluhlu zonke izizathu zolu hlobo lwezinto ezithandwa ngabantu, ungabhala i-encyclopedia ye-multivolume malunga nale nto. Omnye unokuthi kuphela kukho impawu enye yebhinqa efunekayo ukuba amadoda amaninzi ayithande - oku kubulumko. Ibhinqa elumkileyo liya kukwazi ukutsala indoda ethanda ama heroines eentombi zeJames Bond, nokuba ukhangeleka njengoMnu Marple. Ukunyamezela, inkolelo encinci yowesifazane, isabelo senzuzo kunye nomntu uya kukulandela ekupheleni kwehlabathi. Abasetyhini abaninzi bayazi iimeko xa indoda yayinomdla, kwaye kwakungenakwenzeka ukumdonsa kwiofisi yokubhalisa nayiphi na indlela, kwaye kwakukho intombazana eyatshata emva kweenyanga ezimbini emva kokuhlangana. Akunakwenzeka ukuba bangama-superwomen, bahamba ngendlela yabo. Kodwa awukwazi ukulibala uvakalelo oluyimfihlelo olungathandabuzekiyo, mhlawumbi iCapeid kunye neentolo zakhe kunye nombono okhanyayo, othe wambi ukhubeke, ukhona.

Ngoko ke, madoda, njengoko sele sele uqondayo ixesha elide ukusuka kumava obomi bakho, njengabesifazane abahluke ngokupheleleyo, kubonakala ukuba le nto ingumntu wendalo, ngaphandle koko abantu babesele bafa. Ngoko ke ngamnye kumantombazana, kufuneka kubekho umntu ofuna ukukulandela ekupheleni kwehlabathi.