Ukujika kweengxaki kunokubalwa ukusuka kwindoda eneminyaka engama-30 ubudala. Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa iindlela umntu angazenza ngayo ngexesha elifanayo: okanye ukwesaba okanye ukuqokelela izinto ezithile ebomini bakho. Into ebalulekileyo kunzima ukucinga ukuba emva kweqela elikhulu leminyaka, nangaphambili - ukunganiki ukuphumla, amaphupha angazalwanga. Kuya kunzima ukujamelana nale nto.
Musa ukusola. Kwimeko yowesifazane osebenza kuphela kubomi bonke ekukhuliseni abantwana bakhe, ngokuqhelekileyo kuvela ukuba uneminyaka engama-30-40 uye wafumanisa ukuba uye waphoswa kakhulu ebomini bakhe. Umntwana uye wakhula, kwaye akayi kukhathalela ukunakekelwa ngumama. Indoda, ngoxa lo mfazi wayesekhaya, wayesebenza ekuphuculeni umsebenzi wakhe. Emva koko kukho izihlazo. Eyokuqala kubo ngokuqhelekileyo kwidilesi yabo, ngenxa yobumpofu obulula, kwaye kungekudala-kumntu, ngoku ukuzingca. Awazi ukuba wenzeni ngoku, ungayilwela ntoni? Yile ndlela i ntlekele yabasetyhini ibonakalisa ngayo. Ukulwa neengxaki zomoya, into yokuqala kufuneka uyayikhohlwa ingcikivo. Hack kusuka ehlombe, ngokubhekisele kwibhankini, okanye isehlukaniso, okanye ukuxoshwa emsebenzini, akudingekile. Intombazana eneminyaka ephakathi iyakwazi ukuqaphela ukuba iqalisa ukulungelelanisa yonke into ngenyameko ngaphambi kokwenza into ethile.
Musa ukuthelekisa. Inkxalabo yobudala obuphakathi, kunye neyesetyhini, iya kuba yinto ebonakalayo kumfazi weshishini. Kwamantombazana amancinci afanayo ayenokuphumelela kwimisebenzi yabo, ingxaki ngokwazo ibukhali. Isizathu siyakwenza kwezi zinto zilandelayo: kungekhona izinga eliphantsi lobomi, kwaye kwaye akukho ukuziphatha okuphantsi, akuzange kube yinto emangalisayo. Abasebenzi bama-Career bahluleki, basoloko badinga ukunqoba. Ukuzama ukuthelekisa kunye namashumi mabini, le ntombi iqala ukuqonda oko kuqhuma ukutsha. Ukucaphukisa ebomini, ukuhlambalaza ngenxa yokuba ungayinikeli ubutyebi kwangaphambili akufanelekile. Uze uqhathanise iifoto zakho ezidlulileyo kunye nomfanekiso okhoyo kwisibuko. Uthandane nawe ngokwenza ukuba ungakwazi ukuyeka phantsi kwiimeko ezinzima kakhulu. Masibulele isithuba sokunika inkxaso kwibala nobuhle bakho, abakunakususwa kuwe.
Shintsha isitayela. Utshintsho oluncinane kwisitawu lunokunceda ukunciphisa loo ntlekele. Eli cebiso liya kubhenela kubini boomashishini kunye nabafazi. Inxalenye enkulu yokugqoka ikhabethe ayihlali ngamashishini alula? Zama nje ukubeka ijee zakho. Akukho mfuneko, ukwesaba ukuzama kunye nemibala ekhanyayo. Ngaba kukho ukwesaba ukukhangela? Zama ukubonisana nabanamathengi abalungileyo. Zama ukuhambisa zonke iingcinga ngendlela efanelekileyo. Kwiminyaka engama-30-40 ayifaki iinjongo kwiinjongo. Utshintsho lwesimboli lunokuthintela, kunye nokutshintsha iimpahla, kunye nezakheko zezinwele. Indlela ingabandakanya ukutshintsha endleleni yobomi. Mhlawumbi ufanele ufumane umdlalo othakazelisayo, okanye uzithathele engavamile.
Ukudala. Kwakukho ithuba elihle lokungatshintshi kusasa oko bekufunwa njalo. Mhlawumbi, ukuba ufunde oko wayekufunayo ngaphambili, kwakungabikho namathuba okubonakala, okanye akukho xesha. Ungesabi ukuza kumatshini wokudweba okanye ukudansa. Unokuthi unomdla kumculo, ukudala izibongo. Imida yokuphuculwa ayitholakali. Ukucaphukisa malunga nobudala akudingekile. Emva kokugqiba ukucinga ukuba akukhona nje ukuphelelwa lithemba, kodwa njengento eqhelekileyo, umntu unokuba nexhala. I-vein yokudala kule nto iya kunceda. Imisebenzi yemihla ngemihla okanye umdla, okanye abantu abatsha, abayi kushiya ixesha leengcinga ezimbi.
Abahlobo abatsha. Abahlobo bamandulo kunye nabahlobo bafuneka kakhulu kunoma yimuphi umfazi, ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Abameleli bamakhosikazi baphumelela kuluntu, xa iimbono eziqinileyo zesilisa nabesifazane zibhekiswe kuyo. Ukuqaphela ukudala kuyinzame yokwenza abaqhelana nabo, kunye nabahlobo. Ingxoxo ikuvumela ukuba ushiye imvakalelo eqokelelweyo. Abahlobo abatsha bakhanya ngokuzithemba? Thetha kubo ngombuzo. Umhlobo omtsha unokuba ngumcebisi okanye unokuba ngumcebisi. Abo bafumene amava ebomini bafuna ukuvakalisa umntu, kuba sele bekhulile, imfuneko yokufunwa iyabonakala.
Pedagogy. Kwisiqingatha sabantu beseluntwini, kungekhona amandla amancinci afihliweyo. Kutheni kungenalutho ukugcina, ukuqokelela, xa ungazikhupha ngaphandle kwesizukulwana esidala? Emva koko, unokubeka umgomo wokuba utitshala. Ukufunda uqeqesho lootitshala akukho mfuneko yokukhawuleza. Imisebenzi enjalo inokuhluka. Zama ukuvula iikhosi ezithile kwiisombululo ngeengxaki zeminyaka ephakathi. Okanye uzame ukufundisa umdaniso. Ukwakha isikolo esincinane, okanye ukupapasha iincwadi ezahlukeneyo ngoncedo lwabasetyhini abafumene isikhundla esifanayo. Mhlawumbi kulungele ukufunyanwa kwelinye uphando. Nangona kuba yimfundiso ayiyona indlela efanelekileyo yokusombulula loo ntlekele. Ininzi, mhlawumbi, ingaba yinye yezenzo zamanyathelo.
Utyando. Makubonakale umbala obonakalayo, okanye impumelelo kumsebenzi, kungekhona ubuhlobo obubi nomyeni wakhe, kodwa bonke abafazi abafanayo banokuziva unjani uhlobo olungenakuqondakala. Ukuxhatshazwa okunjalo kunokudibaniswa nesibonelelo sokungabi namsebenzi. Mhlawumbi sifanele siqale ukwenza izinto ezilungileyo! Zama ukunceda abantwana abadukayo, okanye abantu abadala, okanye izilwanyana ezingenamakhaya. Uthando olunjalo lunokutshintsha ubomi kwiingcambu. Yeka ukukhahlela kwihlabathi elimhlophe lonke, kufuneka nje uzame ukunceda ummelwane wakho. Izenzo ezilungileyo zinokuhlala zivakalelwa. Xa sele uqalile oku, umfazi uzisa okulungileyo, uvuyo kunye nolonwabo, ngoko ke uhlala ubomi.
Ukholo. Kuthemba ukuba ukholelwe kuThixo, kunye namagunya aphezulu, ngoko uzama ukunqoba loo nkathazo yobudala. Ngokukodwa, le ndlela ineyona indima ebalulekileyo. Ngaphandle kokholo, ithemba, isiphephelo, uncedo olungaphezulu, kuya kuba nzima ukuqala ubomi obuthile, ukuhamba okuhambelana phambili. Ngokuqhelekileyo, izidalwa ezibuthathaka zifuna ukwabelana, zichaze ngeengxaki ezikhoyo, kungekhona nabantu kwicala. Kulokho ukholo olunjalo lunceda. Emva kwakho konke, kunye noThixo, unako ukuthetha ngokucacileyo kwaye wabelane ngamava akho. Ukholo lunokuthatha indawo yokufumanisa. Ukujonga ukholo lwakho, unokubona ukuba amakholwa aneendlela ezithile kunye nobomi, kunye nolwalamano kunye nezihlobo.
Musa ukudimazeka. Thatha izigqibo ezandleni zakho. Yonke inakho iyakwazi ukuphuma.
Inkathazo yabasetyhini bexesha eliphakathi
Iingxaki zenkathazo ezinxulumene neminyaka zinokuthi zenzeke nasiphi na intombazana. Emva kokugqitywa kweengxaki entsha, ukufumana ngokwakho kunokunokwenzeka. Makhe sikhankanye ezinye zeengxaki ezinkulu ezixhomekeke kwi-physiology: le nkxalabo yeselula, yinkxalabo yokukhula, kunye nokuguga. Ubunzima bebhinqa bobomi buqala ngokutsha emva kweenguqu ezinxulumene neminyaka.