Ixesha elitsha, izandi ezintsha
Iimpawu zentsapho - oku kubaluleke kakhulu, okubalulekileyo (i-tautology, kodwa ngaphandle koko ayikho indlela!), Ihlonishwa yiyo yonke ilungu lentsapho, insima jikelele yezinto zabo. Ngokona nxalenye, iindleko zentsapho zifana ngokufanayo: uthando, umzali, ukunyaniseka, ukuthembela, ukudibanisa nookhokho, indlu ... Ngamafutshane, yonke into ngaphandle kokuba intsapho kunye nosapho kunzima ukuyibiza. Ukongezelela - intsapho ngokwayo, njengento ehlangeneyo yale miba, nayo ixabiso! Kodwa iziganeko ezikhankanyweyo aziyiyo rhoqo, kuba uluntu lukhula, isigaba ngasinye sinohlobo lwabo lwabo bantu abasondeleyo kunye nento exabisekileyo kule ntsebenziswano. Umzekelo: xa abasebenzi basebenzayo babesengaphambi kwekhulu lemashumi mabini, iintsapho ezinkulu zazibalulekileyo, okanye - ukuhlala kweentsapho eziliqela ezinxulumene kunye - umntu omele ahlakulele umhlaba, aqhube ukulima. Ngokufika kwekhulu lemashumi mabini, yonke into yatshintsha: ukusuka kwinani lamalungu entsapho, ukuchuma kwayo akuxhomekeke, ngaphambili - "umgangatho" wabo: imfundo, isimo sezenhlalakahle. Ukutshintshwa kwezinto eziphambili zentsapho kubonakala: abantwana abaninzi kunye nezizukulwana ezininzi okanye amajelo ezindidi kwiimitha eziqhelekileyo zeemitha ziye zaphela, indawo yazo ithathwe ngabafundi abatsha: omnye okanye ababini kwintsapho kunye nesidingo sesibindi seentsapho zabo. Ezinye zezi zinguqu zingcono, ezinye azikho. Iinguqu zenzeka kwakhona kule mihla. Ngaphezu koko, kunikwa isingqino sesimo somsebenzi-ngakumbi nangakumbi. Ziziphi iimpawu eziza kutshintsha abantu abadala kunye nendlela yokugcina ezilungileyo zazo?
Inkululeko yokukhetha
Liye laba lixabiso eliyimfuneko, elo lilungu lendlu elinika ithuba lokuzithetha, ukuqonda ukuba ubuntu bakhe abuphuli. Okokuqala kukho konke ukukhathalela abafazi nabantwana. Isizathu kukuba namhlanje abafazi - bahlala befumana amaninzi, ukuba kungabikho, abayeni, obanika le nkululeko inkululeko (ubufazi babenegalelo kulo). Ngokubhekiselele kubantwana, bacinga, bakha kwaye babone izinto ngendlela ehluke ngokupheleleyo kunabantwana babo, ngokuqhelekileyo-baninzi ngokuqaphela. Xa ebona ukuba abantwana baphuhlise ngaphaya kweminyaka, abadala banciphisa imicu yabo yempembelelo. Ixabiso elitsha, ngokuqinisekileyo, lilungile, kodwa omnye kufuneka aqonde ukuba inkululeko kufuneka ifakwe kwiimbopheleleko-kwizenzo zakhe. Yaye ubaba makayifake ukususela kwiminyaka emithandathu - kubini amantombazana namakhwenkwe. Kulo nyaka umntwana uya esikolweni kwaye ushiya ummandla wempembelelo engenamkhawulo kamama, kodwa kutheni na? Abasetyhini banqabile, baziva bexhalabele abantwana babo, ngoko ke baxolela kakhulu. Ubawo uyazi ixabiso legama elinikeziweyo, uyithatha uxanduva kulo, kwaye angayibonisa umntwana, oko kukuthi, ukulifundisa kumzekelo wakhe. UBawo uya kufumana impendulo kumbuzo othi "Kutheni wenze lokhu?", Kwaye umama uya kuzisola. Ukuba uva, ubuncinane inkcazelo evela kumntwana oneminyaka engama-6, uya kuva nge-16.
Indawo Yomntu
Le yimfuno yelungu ngalinye lentsapho kwisithuba esikufutshane sokuziphilisa. Ngexesha lethu leengxaki kunye nokukhathala okungapheliyo, abantu baqala ukuzama ukuxhoma kunye nokuthula. Iintsapho ezincinci - ngokukodwa, kodwa zihlala ziphoqeleka ukuba zihlale nabazali bazo. Ukunyaniseka kwamalungu omtsha amatsha ukuba ahlale nabo, ngokubhekiselele kwinyani, ichanekile ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa eli xabiso latshabalalisa izibophelelo zentsapho ezinokwesibini. Ukubhiyozela imikhosi ebudeni obufanayo kunye neentsapho zabo zonke iindawo ezivela kuzo zonke izithili ziyintsikelelo, ephazamisa iingcambu zentsapho ezinamandla. Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana ababazi amagama omama wabo oshonile, abazala baka-anti. Indlela kuphela yokuphuma ukufunda nokudweba umthi wakho wosapho. Yazi okhokho bakho baqhelekileyo. Ukongezelela, kunceda kakhulu kwi-psychotherapy, kuba xa ufundela "iingcambu" ngokukhawuleza kubone ixabiso lezizukulwana eziliqela: indlela abenza ngayo kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zoogogo nomkhulu, bangaphi abantwana ababenabo, nokuba bekukho ukungcatshiswa kwintsapho. Into ephambili ayize igwebe: ukuba bekungekho, asiyi kuba. Kodwa malunga nenyaniso nokuba ukuthembela ekukhulisweni kwabantwana kubagogo, - iingcamango zeengqondo zezokwelapha ziyahlukana. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, isiqinisekiso esiqinisekileyo sokuba umntwana uya kukwazi uhlobo lwakhe olungcono, qaphela ukutshintshaniswa kwezizukulwana, uya kuba neentlonipho kwizithethe zentsapho. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, oogogo-iingcamango ezincinane ezingaphelelwa yisikhathi kunye nesizukulwana esincinane asidingi. Ukongezelela, amandla asebekhulile anefuthe elibi kwigazi elincinci - amaSlav aqinisekiswa oko. Ngoko ke, iholide kunye neentsuku zihamba kwi-grand-mother-green light, ngenxa yemfundo esigxina - obomvu.
Iqela le ntsapho
Olu luhlobo olusandul 'ulwalamano lwangoku kwintsapho (ikakhulukazi ekungabikho kwabantwana), apho uthando olukhulu luthandana aludlali i-violin yokuqala: lanele ngokwaneliseko, imvume, inhlonipho. Oku kusekwe kwisiseko. Ezi zibini zibaninzi: amaqabane athile kakuhle, ngokudibeneyo kunye kwaye kungekho nto iya kuphazamisa ukuvumelanisa kwabo, umanyano uya kuba khona. Izimpawu zakhe zomntu kunye naye, ukukwazi ukujamelana nezimo ezingahlali zithembekileyo kwinkqubo yesantya, zibaluleke kakhulu apha. Indlela enokulinganisela kuyo nayiphi na imeko kunye nokungabikho kwe-scandals ephakamileyo kunye nabahlaziyi bawuphawu olulolu hlobo lwentsapho. Ukwahlukana kunye negama lentombi kulo mzekelo akusilo ukuhluleka okanye ukungaphumeleli, kodwa nje ukukhanselwa kwintlobo yesivumelwano. Nangona kungekho bantwana, akukho nto iphosakeleyo ngokutsha, kuba wonke umntu ufumana oko akufunayo. Kodwa umntwana angakwazi ukuphula i-idyll ebuthakathaka (ukuqinisekisa ukuba ngoku umntu ulungile omnye umntu), kwaye intsapho enye engaphelelanga iya kuba ngaphezulu. Indlela yokuphuma emva kokuzalwa kwendlalifa kwaye ingaphinde iphule imithetho "yesivumelwano". Ngendlela, iimvakalelo zihlala zipholile ngaphaya kwexesha, kwaye ukuhlala rhoqo kwenhlonipho nokuqonda, nangaphandle kokuthandana, kuyona ilitye lembombo kwisiseko seentsapho.