Ngokutsho kwedatha yeenkcukacha zophando lwezesengqondweni, uninzi lwezibheno kwiingcali zibangelwa ukungaqiniseki. Abantu abanjalo banenkinga ekuxoxaneni nabanye. Bazimisele ukwenza ixesha elide kwaye kunzima ukwenza izigqibo, kwaye banokubandezeleka kukuba iimfuno zabo kunye neminqweno yabo ayinakwenziwa.
Abantu abanjalo bahlala becinezelekile, bahlala bekhwele abanye abantu abanokuzithemba baze bahlale bezolile, kwaye aba bantu banokuzithemba kakhulu kwaye banamathele kwiingxaki zabo.
Iingxaki, ukuphuhliswa kwengxaki yokuzithemba
Iingcali zengqondo zithi yonke imithombo yokungaqiniseki ivela ebuntwaneni, kweso sikhathi ukuba umbono wokuba umntu uzalwe. Ukuba ubuntwana balo mntu buhamba kunye nokuhluleka, kwaye abantu abadala bonke baxhomekeke kule ngqalelo, ngoko ke, xa ekhula, uya kuqaphela kuphela ukungaphumeleli kwakhe, kwaye iimpawu zakhe ezilungileyo ziya kuhoywa. Ngaphezu koko, umntu omdala akayi kucinga ukuba unelungelo lokuthile olungcono, abanye baya kubonakala bephumelele kwaye banelungelo kunokuba yena, kwaye umphumo kukuba umntu ufumana zonke izinto ezimbi kakhulu, ukungaphumeleli kunye neengxaki.
Asiyidingi ubomi obunjalo, ngoko sinika iindlela zokususa ukungaqiniseki. Qalisa ukufunda ukuthanda nokuzixabisa njengomntu ofanelekileyo.
Izindlela zokurhoxisa
Into yokuqala yokwenza ukuyeka ukugxeka wonke umntu kunye nayo yonke into yokuba neentloni kunye nokungaqiniseki, kwaye akudingeki ukhumbule ukusilela kwakho kwakhona. Ixesha elidlulileyo alikwazi ukubuyiswa kwaye lilungiswe, kodwa okwangoku kuphelele kuwe, sebenzisa onke amathuba okufumana ubomi obupheleleyo.
Ukuqhubeka nokuqonda kwaye ukwamkela ukuba uvuyo lwakho nenkululeko kubaluleke ngakumbi kunokuba abanye abantu banokukucinga ngawe: oogxa, abamelwane, izalamane nabahlobo. Umgaqo oyintloko: ngezenzo zabo kunye nezigqibo ezingabangela abanye ukuba bangabonakali kwaye bangenzi nzakalo, ngoko unako unembeza ocacileyo uzivumela ukuba uziphathe njengoko ufuna, kungekhona nje umntu owaziyo.
Khangela isizathu sokuzidumisa, ukuze ungalindeli udumo oluvela kwabanye abantu kwaye uzive kwaye uzixabise. Kunconywa ukwenza uluhlu lweetalenta zakho, oko wenzayo kakuhle kwaye kakuhle. Ingaba izakhono ezahlukeneyo, izakhono, ulwazi, kubandakanywa nalawo ungabonakali ufanelwe ukunakekelwa, umzekelo, unokwazi ukunqumla iikrebhu ngebhayisiki. Gcina idayari ukuba uyayidinga ukwenzela ukuba ixesha ngalinye ugxininise kuphela kwimilinganiselo yakho.
Yeka ukuthelekisa nabanye abantu ngokwakho, kunye nemibuzo yokuba aba bantu baphumelele kunakho. Abantu abaphumelele impumelelo ozama ukuyenza, kufuneka ufunde ukuba kuzo zonke iimeko kufuneka uhambe kwiinjongo zakho, kwaye ungafuni ukuhlangabezana nokulindela kwabanye. Ukuphela kweeyure kunye nezimpumelelo zanamhlanje ziya kufaniswa, kwaye yonke into iya kuba yinto ofuna ngayo, kuphela xa ixesha lonke lihamba phambili kuphela.
Sitshintsha indlela osabela ngayo kwiinkathazo kunye nokungaphumeleli, kwaye ujabule ngale mizuzu, indlela yokwenza into engcono, okanye uyiphathe ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Mhlawumbi oku kungacacisa, kwaye mhlawumbi kungabonakala njengesisiphukuphuku, mhlawumbi abanye abayiyiqonda le nto, kodwa kholwani mna, uya kuthanda umphumo. Ngexesha elide, uya kubona ukuba ukuhluleka kuye kwaphela kwindawo ethile, kwaye nayiphi na ishishini oyenzayo, ulungile kuyo.
Abantu abanokuzithemba ngokuqinisekileyo abazithembeli ngokwabo ukuba yonke into ihamba kakuhle kwaye ayinakuxhomekeka, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ayilungiselelanga kwiintsilelo kunye neengxaki kwaye iya kwiinjongo zazo ngokuqinile, ngaphandle kokucima indlela enzima.
Kuba namhlanje kukho ukukhetha okukhulu ukuqeqesha nokuzivocavoca ukuze kuphuculwe ukuzithemba. Ukuya kwiikholeji kunye nekhosi ezingenakwenziwa ngabantu bonke, kodwa kufuneka ukuba kwenziwe njalo. Nika uqeqesho olunjalo kwisicwangciso sakho, kodwa okwangoku, yenza ukuziphatha kwakho.
Iingcebiso malunga nendlela yokuzithemba
Kukho imeko elula ezinokukunceda ufumane ukuzithemba, nangona kunjalo iimeko ezinjalo kufuneka zenziwe ngokuzimeleyo, kwaye abantu abanokuzithemba phantsi kweemeko ziphepha.
Ngezantsi imimiselo ethile. Unokuzama into enye, kodwa kuyacetyiswa ukuba wenze yonke into oyifunayo ngezantsi.
Unokuqala ngezitolo, ukhethe, umzekelo, ugcina iixabiso eziphezulu zezinto zokusebenza kunye nefenitshala. Kulo venkile, jonga kwimveliso oyithandayo, kodwa ungayithobeli ixabiso leempahla, cela uncedo kubathengisi, bavumele ukuba bakuxelele iinkcukacha malunga nezixhobo ozikhethile. Emva koko, ngobubele, mbulela, kwaye ushiye ivenkile kwishishini lakho, ngaphandle kokuthenga.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo siya kwelinye ivenkile, umzekelo ngeempahla ezibiza, cinga ngenyameko loo mifanekiso oyithandayo. Emva koko uzame kangangoko ufuna, kunye nento oyifunayo. Ukuba awuyidingi iinkonzo zomthengisi, ngoko ungazilahla ngokuzikhethela, uchaze oku ngokuthi ufuna nje ukuzama oko kuluhlu lwabo, kwaye unelungelo kuwo. Emva koko wenze okufanayo kwimeko yokuqala, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ukuziphatha kwakho kungabangela ukuba ungabonakali kakuhle ngabadayisi.
Iimeko ezinjalo zinokuveliswa ezininzi:
Kuzo naziphi na ivenkile, unokuya kwi-cashier uze umcele ukuba atshintshe imali ngaphandle kokunika ingcaciso.
Ngale nto unokuzibuza kwisitrato nje ngomfo. Cacisa oku kukuba ufuna ukuhlawula ibhilikhwe kwifowuni yakho yeselula.
Emva koko xelisa imeko enzima kakhulu: unokucela umntu ongaphandle kwenye isitalato ukuboleka imali, uthi ulahlekelwe okanye ukhohliwe kwindawo ethile esikhwameni, kwaye ufuna ithikithi yendlela engaphantsi okanye ibhasi.
Enye inketho - uye kwivenkile okanye kwi-cafe uze ucele ukuba uvunyelwe ukushayela kwifowuni yakho yangaphakathi. Ukuba umncedisi uya kucela ukuba abeke umyalelo, ngoko uyayenqaba ngokukhawuleza, uthi nje ufuna ukufowunela uze uphinde wenze isicelo sakho.
Ukuba uhamba ngebhasi ephakamileyo okanye imoto yomsana ongaphantsi, unokucela umntu ukuba anikezele kuwe ngaphandle kokuchaza. Ukuba ubuzwa imibuzo, le ndoda inokuphendula ukuba intloko yakhe ijikelezayo, kodwa umfazi unokumcela umntu ukuba anike.
Umsebenzi obunzima kakhulu kubantu abaninzi ukuza kwi-cafe, kwindawo yokutyela okanye kwisitrato ukuya kumntu wesini esahlukileyo okhangayo, enomnqweno wokungazana naye, loloyiko luyabathinta amadoda namabhinqa. Ukuba uzama ukwenza, nangona ukwesaba okukhulu, ngoko umvuzo awuyi kukulinda. Mema u semzini okanye u semzini ukuba uye kwibala le midlalo, kwi-cinema okanye kwikhonkethi.
Imiba eyahlukileyo, umsebenzi obalulekileyo kukunqoba ukwesaba kwakho kwaye uthabathe nje amanyathelo, kwaye ekugqibeleni uya kuqala ukucinga ukuba ihlabathi liyatshintsha kuwe, kwaye uya kuziva ukhululekile kwaye ukhululekile. Ngokwemvelo, awukwazi ukuyeka ukungaphumeleli, kodwa ungagxininisa yakho ingqalelo, kodwa uhlawule ukujonga bhetele inkqubela yakho, qi niqiniseke ukuba uzincoma, nokuba uthe wathatha isinyathelo esincinci.
Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule ukuba xa uthetha nomnye umntu kufuneka uthethe ngokuzithemba, ngokukhawuleza nangokucacileyo, kwaye ungabi msandi.
Zama ukulondoloza iso, kodwa akudingeki ukuba ukhangele umntu ngaso sonke ixesha, oku kungabonwa njengophazamisana nomlingane wakho.
Yenza ngokukhululeka, kodwa ungahambi kakhulu, bonisa iimfuno zakho, iimvakalelo kunye neemfuno ngokuthe ngqo, kwaye xa uthi "Andifuni," musa ukwesaba ukuzingca.
Xa ucela into, akufanele uxolise ngokukhathazeka, kodwa kungcono ukubonga umntu ngenkonzo, ubuncinane uthi "mbulela".
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni imeko, akukhuthazwa ukubonisa ubundlobongela kumnxibelelwano, akufanele uzame ukuhlazisa okanye ukumcaphukisa, oku kubonisa ukungaqiniseki kwakho kunye nobuthathaka.
Zihloniphe wena nabanye abantu, kwaye kulo mzekelo, ukunxibelelana nabanye kuya kuvelisa.
Ukuphuhlisa umkhwa wokwenza ngokukhawuleza kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, ungakhangeli abanye kwaye ungacingi malunga nokuba unokucinga ntoni okanye uthetha ngawe, nje ngokunyathela okuqinisekileyo ukuya kumgomo wakho. Xa ufumana oko ukulwela ngamandla, ukuzithemba kwakho ngokuzenzekelayo kuqhuma umyalelo owodwa ophezulu, kwaye ukuzithemba kuya kuhamba nawe yonke indawo.