Ngokuthobeka, uvuyiswe ngenhlanhla kunye nempumelelo yomhlobo omhle ngamanye amaxesha kunzima kunokuba umsekele kumzuzu onzima. Ngokuqinisekileyo, siyaziqhelisa ukuba le nto ayinomona, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba uqhubeke uhlala nayo. Ungaba njani kule meko?
Iingcali zengqondo zivumelanisa ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba akukho mntu emhlabeni ongeke amkhonze nabani na ubuncinci bodwa ebomini bakhe. Ngaba udibene nabantu abanjalo? Umona ngumntu, uvakalelo oluqhelekileyo, kwaye lwabonakala kumaxesha amandulo. Kulula ngathi ukuba singaqapheli umntu, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha le nto ivula amehlo ethu kwaye isenza sicinge. Iqondo apho umntu evulekileyo kwaye aqokelele kuxhomekeke kwinto aza kuyenza ngayo ngokufumaneka.
Ngoko, yintoni ephumayo, esenza umona ngokulungileyo?
Ngokwemvelo, njengazo zonke ezinye iziganeko, umona unamathuba kunye neentsilelo. Kukho iimeko xa umfazi ehamba kwi-cosmetologist kuphela kuba ummelwane wakhe, oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala, ubonakala ngcono. Ngokuqhelekileyo umona usenza sibe nomsebenzi omtsha, ohloniphekileyo, uhambe ufumane impilo, ufunde isiNgesi okanye ubhalise kwindawo yokuzivocavoca, awuyi kukhankanya nento yokuba kulungile?
Kutheni umona ushiya i-sedimentous sediment?
Xa umntu enomona, unciphisa ingozi yakhe yengqondo. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Sinomona kuphela xa siziqhathanisa nomntu, kwaye sisesimweni esibi xa siqhathaniswa nomnye umntu. Ukuba sasingayithobeli le nto kwaye sasingaba nomona, ngoko siza kudliwa yimvakalelo yokungathobeli. Kwaye akunjalo ukuba akunakwenzeka ukwenza!
Sifanele senze ingxoxo ephosakeleyo yedwa kunye nathi, hlalutye iimeko ezikhokelela kwesi siphumo okanye mhlawumbi siye kwi-psychologist - ngenxa yale nto sidinga umsebenzi omningi kuthi, umsebenzi wangaphakathi. Ukuba unquma ukwenza ngcono, akukho mntu uya kukumisa, utshintshe inkqubo yoxabiso uze uvuselele ubuntu bakho. Ewe, ukusebenza ngokwakho kuwumsebenzi onzima, abaninzi abantu bafuna ukuba nomona kwaye bahlale ngeengalo eziboshwe.
Isiva somona esiyifunayo ngokwenene ngesimo sepilisi yomnxeba, esinceda ukuphazamisa intlungu kwaye uphinde uphawule. Nangona kunjalo, lonke ixesha lokukhangela inzondo alinakwenzeka, oku kungaphandle kombuzo, ngaphandle kweenjongo kunye nenkuthazo, uya kufumana i-splinter eyokuhlala ngonaphakade entliziyweni yakho, okanye i-sludge eyingozi kakhulu, engathandekiyo.
Phonsa konke ekubeni ubomi bububi kwaye uhlale sljazruki - le nto yokugqibela, khumbula ukuba ilanga likhanya ngokufanayo. Uyakhathazeka ukuba kwiminyaka yakho yesikolo, umhlobo wakho ufunda enye yezo zintathu, ubhala umsebenzi wakho wesikolo, kwaye ngoku unendawo yakhe enhle nekhulu, uthanda indawo yakhe ephakamileyo nehlawulelwayo. Ucinga ukuba kutheni wayefanelekele konke oku, kuba ucinga ukuba konke oku ku fanele kubekho kwifa lakho, ngaba ufanelekile? Enyanisweni, oku akunjalo. Akazange ahlale kunye neengalo, kwaye akazange awele entloko yakhe. Wayefanelwe, kuba konke. Ubomi buyinto efanelekileyo, kwaye zonke iimeko azikho ngengozi. Ukuba uya kwintlanganiso enenhlanhla, kuya kuhamba kuwe, ungesabi ukwenza iphutha, uthembele abantu kwaye ungesabi ukubonakala ungcikivo kunye nokunyelisa ...
Ngoko icala lesibini likrakra liqhayiya?
Kwiimeko ezininzi, ewe. Iingcali zeengqondo ezinamava amaninzi ziye zaphawula ukuba abantu abanomona abahlobo babo kunye nabo bonke abakujikelezayo bayesaba ukuthembela kumntu, bacinga ukuba banokuthembela kuphela kwaye bathembele kubo, bayesaba ukukhubeka. Abantu abanjalo bacinga ukuthetha amagama amathathu omlingo: "Nceda ndincede." Bahlala benqabela into abayifunayo, kodwa akukho mzekelo abacela uncedo. Enyanisweni, abantu abajikeleze kuthi baya kuvuya ukusinceda, kubalulekile ukubuza, kuba kula maxesha abavakalelwa kukuba bafuneka kwaye banentsingiselo. Emva kwakho konke, xa ulungele ukwamkela uncedo, inhlanhla iya ezandleni zakho.
Ingongoma ebalulekileyo - akukho mfuneko ukuba uzigwebe ngenxa yokuba nomona ngentombi yakho. Siyazigxeka thina, kwaye le ntliziyo ibonakala ibambe imilenze kunye nezandla kunye - akukho nto inokuhamba ngayo.Camngca ngawe: akukho bantu abalungileyo, kwaye ke iimvakalelo azikwazi ukuba zilungele. Awunabo bodwa, bonke abantu banemiva ethile, kuquka umona, nokuba ngaba baphumelele kakhulu. Umona uya kuhamba kunye nawe, ude uxolele yona. Ndiyabulela imvelaphi yokuba le nto inomona, ngenxa yokuba ufumene ukuba intombi yakho yakhuthazwa emsebenzini kwaye uzama ukufumana umsebenzi omhle, umona usenza sibe bhetele, usinceda sitshintshile kwaye sitshintshe ubomi bethu ukuze kube ngcono.
Indlela yokusinda impumelelo yomhlobo, indlela yokuhambisa umona ngendlela efanelekileyo?
Okokuqala, uyeke ukuziqhathanisa nentombi yakho, ngoko akukho nto. Unokuzifanisa wena kuphela, kodwa malunga neminyaka emihlanu edlulileyo. Khumbula, unjani umntu, wathini na? Namhlanje, ngokuqinisekileyo, uninzi lwezinto ozifunayo, kuba le yimpumelelo yakho. Ufuna kwaye wamukelwa!
Emva koko ungazami ukuba neentombi zakho. Omnye umntu onwabileyo yintsapho eyanwabileyo, kwaye enye - imihla ngemihla ukubalisa imali enkulu. Ngeke ube nolonwabo ngakumbi xa ufezekisa ezinye iinjongo zabantu, zibeke phambili kwaye uzifezekise. Ayikho iresiphi enye yokuphumelela nenwabe, kuba sonke siyimfihlo. Ukuzama ukwenza oko abanye banokhetho olubi, kusenakwenzeka ukufumana umngane. Awunakuyifumana imoto imoto, kwaye umhlobo wakho uya kuthenga indlu, kwaye uza kwenza ntoni ngoko? Landela indlela yakho kwaye uqaphele into eyenzekayo ebomini bakho, ngaphandle koko awukwazi ukuonwabela umzuzu wolonwabo xa ugugile uya kuqonda ukuba ubomi bakho bonke budlalwa "ukuthatha" kunye nentombi yakho.
Mamela intliziyo yakho, iya kukuxelela indlela efanelekileyo, eya kukukhokelela kwimpumelelo, kodwa akukho mnqweno wokuba njengomhlobo.
Kuthekani ukuba bakukhwele? Ngaba uyavuya xa umntu ekhwele impahla?
Unokuqala ukukhathazeka malunga nokuba ukuhlukanisa kungonakalisa yonke impumelelo yakho: usapho olonwabileyo, uphupha amaphupha olwazi, umsebenzi ozithandayo njalonjalo.
Mhlawumbi uya kuthathwa ngumsindo, kwaye uya kuziva ukuba oku kungabikho kokungabi nabulungisa, ngenxa yokuba awuzange uthembele kunoma ubani, akazange alindele imana evela ezulwini, kwaye imihla ngemihla uzuze iimbonelelo zezinto eziphathekayo kunye nezokomoya ngokwenza umsebenzi onzima wemihla ngemihla. Awuyi kuchazela ngamnye kumhlobo wakho, umzekelo, ukuba zonke izinto zakho ezintle utshintshile ukusuka kwiingubo zokugqoka, ebusuku okanye ixesha elide lizisebenzisela ukuzithenga. Akukho mntu uyazi ukuba iintsikelelo owanikwa zona zinikwe. Mhlawumbi, abantu obakhweleyo, baye bafumana konke okusemandleni.
Yeka ugxininiso lwakho kulo, ungabandakanyi ukubaluleka kuyo. Mhlawumbi intombi efanayo inomona, ngenxa yokuba inemali, kodwa akukho mntu unomdla kwaye onothando ongekho, kuba uthando luyinto eqaqambileyo engaziwo wonke umntu, kodwa ubutyebi bezinto eziphathekayo bunokufezekiswa ngokutshata, ukusuka kwindlu yokuqashisa ibe yindlu. Kukho neengxaki ezinjalo, apho umlingisi oyintloko ulwa nobubi, kodwa akakwazanga ukumncothula, kwaye waqonda ukuba kufuneka ufune ukubuyela kuye. Wayeka ukuzingela oogqirha kunye neenkukuma, waza waqala ukuhlala kwaye ujabulele ubomi. Njengomphumo wobulungisa, okuninzi kuye kwaba ukuba umzimba awukwazi ukumelana nokuxhatshazwa kwaye ngokwawo wanyamalala. Ngaba kunjalo: uyeke ukubala abanye abantu, ukubala imali yabo nokuyijonga emphefumlweni, phila ubomi bakho, kwaye awuyi kuva nomona, wena ngokwakho uza kuchitha ixesha elide kuwe nakubathandekayo bakho. Into eyona nto kukuba ubomi bakho buyavuya, kwaye uvelise kuphela iimvakalelo ezintle kunye ezintle!