Makhe sithethe malunga nendlela yokunceda umntu emva kokuhlukana nomntu othandekayo.
Emva kokuqhekeka, umntu uhlala engabakhathaleli ngokupheleleyo, uyaziva evuyile, ukuzithemba kwakhe, umnqweno wokuphila, ukuwa ngokukhawuleza. Ukubeka nje, ulahlekelwe yintsikelelo yobomi. Ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ufuna uncedo nenkxaso yengqondo, okuya kumnceda ukuba abuyele kwimvakalelo evuyokileyo.
Into yokuqala yokuthetha kumntu owaphonswa: "Awukwazi ukunceda iinyembezi!". Mhlawumbi umntu uya kufumana le nto, kodwa umntu oshiywe kwaye ongenamdla kufuneka, okokuqala, ugxininise, enze ubomi kwaye enze. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukwenza ukuba "imile" iinyembezi, kwaye uqale indlela eya phambili - ngqo kwixesha elitsha eliqaqambileyo nelona libalaseleyo.
Ukuphela kobudlelwane bobubele - oku kukuthi nawaphi na isibini isibetho esichukumisayo sengqondo. Ngokukodwa, oku kusebenza kwiimeko apho elinye iqabane elinobuqhetseba kwaye libi liphosa elinye. Oogqirha abafanelekileyo - iingcali zeengqondo zithi iinyanga ezimbini zokuqala emva kwekhefu zizona zinzima kakhulu kumntu olahliwe. Kodwa eli xesha linokunciphisa kakhulu ukuba "lilungile" ukunceda ixhoba.
Into yokuqala ukuchazela intombazana elahliwe (okanye umfana): ubuhlobo buphelile ngonaphakade, akukho ukubuyela emva. Njengomthetho, kunzima ukuba umntu ave kwaye aqonde oku, kodwa ngokuphindaphindiweyo akhulume ngokuzwakalayo, kunye nokuva kwabanye, ngokukhawuleza iintlungu ezivela kula mazwi ziya kuhamba, kwaye oku kuyinyathelo elikhulu "ekuphumeni".
Umntu akufanele ashiywe yodwa ngengozi yakhe. Le nto ibaluleke kakhulu ekuncedeni umntu emva kokuhlukana nomthandayo. Kufuneka abe kwindawo evulekile, adibana nabahlobo, nokuba bhetele, ukuze athethe ngeemvakalelo zakhe, njengabantu abaninzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Le nqubo ibizwa ngokuba "ukutshatyalaliswa kwentlungu". Yingakho abaninzi abanokholo kwengqondo bakholelwa ukuba xa umntu enamhlobo amaninzi kunzima kuye ukuba asinde naziphi na iingxaki.
Ukuba ngumntu ovaliweyo ongenakukwazi ukuxelela abanye intlungu yakhe, ke mvumele abe nedayari apho aya kubhala malunga nayo yonke into ayenayo. Ukongezelela, xa ubeka ingundoqo yeengxaki kumaphepha, umntu unokukwazi ukuqonda kakuhle imeko ekhoyo.
Emva kweentsuku ezimbalwa, umntu kufuneka aphathwe. Kuqulethwe kwezi zilandelayo: hlalani phambi kwesibuko uze umcele ukuba azixelele ngeengxaki zakhe. Le nkqubo inceda ekunciphiseni ukuqokelela uxinzelelo. Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu, xa umntu egqiba ibali lakhe, makamomotheka kwisithombe sakhe esibukweni, yena ngokwakhe akayi kubona indlela eya kumnceda ngayo.
Isinyathelo esilandelayo kukuba uye emsebenzini. Nawuphi na ugqirha uya kugqiba ukuba eli lililo lamanye amayeza angcono nakweyiphi na ukuhluleka kunye neengxaki. Lo msebenzi unako "ukudonsa" umntu xa kunzima kuye. Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, isebenza njengesiyeza se-psychotherapeutic, inelungelo elilodwa kunabo bonke: lihlawulwa kwakhona.
Ukuba umntu unomsebenzi "wokuhlala phantsi," umzekelo, eofisini, kufuneka ukuba enyanzelekile ukuba asebenze kwizakhono zomsebenzi, ngokubhekiselele, ngcono. Umphefumlo nomzimba wethu unxibelelwano, kwaye xa umzimba ugula - umphefumlo uba lula. Unako ukwenza nantoni na: imidlalo, ukucoca indlu yonke, nokulungisa.
Khumbula umgaqo obalulekileyo: kwinkqubo "yonyango" umntu akafanele afihla iimvakalelo zakhe zokwenene, makamemeza, akhale, aphule izitya. Ukuba umntu ugcina yonke into kuye, iimvakalelo ziza kuqala "ukuphula" kuye, kumtshabalalise ngaphakathi.
Uhlobo! Nantsi enye impiliso yentlungu: uhambo oluya ehlathini, ezintabeni, elwandle okanye ubuncinci epakini, lunceda umntu ukuba abone ukuba ubomi buqhubeka, umhlaba uphenduka, imithi ikhula. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu ohlala kwimeko enzima yengqondo akafuni ukuya kuyo nayiphi na indawo, kodwa kufuneka athotyelwe, kuyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukuba ubomi bakhe buzele iziganeko.
Ngokweengcali ezininzi zeengqondo, i-yoga kunye nokucamngca izilungiso ezintle zezinyembezi ezingapheliyo. Ukucamngca kumnceda umntu ahlaziye umzimba aze aphelise umphefumlo, kunye nazo zonke iindlela zokuzilolonga ze-yoga zijonge ukulala.
Xa emva kwekhefu kukho ubuncinane ngeveki, kuza ixesha lokunyanga elinye: "ukuphosa umdala - uvumele enye entsha". Mcebisa "isigulane" ukukhupha zonke izinto ezikukhumbuza ngenye iqabane. Kucacile ukuba yonke into iyayikhumbuza: ifenitshala, iindonga kunye nezitrato, apho isiqabane esithile sasihamba khona. Kodwa kufuneka ulahleke ubuncinane: iileta, iifoto kunye nezinto ezinje. Kukho, kuyimfuneko ukulahla ngaphandle kokuphinda uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde uphinde ubuyekeze iifoto zangaphambili.
Emva kwenyanga, umntu uqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba intlungu enkulu iphela, intlungu iyancipha, kulula ukuphefumula. Kodwa ezi zintlupheko, njengommiselo, zikhohlisa. Inyaniso kukuba emva kwemizwelo yobundlobongela, kuza "ukuthula", iintlungu ezithandekayo, ngezinye izihlandlo ezibangela intlungu. Ngoko ke, ukuba ixhoba linethuba elinjalo lemali, ngoko kukulungele ukuhamba uhambo, ubuncinci kumncinci, kodwa ubuncinane ngeveki. Ukusuka ekuhambeni, sele sele ebuyisela umntu ohluke ngokupheleleyo. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba isilungiso esilungileyo sengqondo entsha "yokuthula" yimvakalelo emitsha, abaqhelana nabo.
Ngoku into ephambili akuyikuvumela umntu ukuba ashiye indlela ejoliswe kuyo, sele sele ebuyele ebomini, kodwa ufuna ixesha. Ngexesha afuna ukuthetha ngayo, makumxelele ukuba ubomi bakhe buphi ngaphambi kokudibana nomlingane owayengumlingani, oko kwakutyebileyo, yiziphi iincwadi azifunayo ngoko, yiziphi iifilimi azimthandayo, apho ayezihlaziya nabahlobo, apho aye khona ngeveki. Okubaluleke kakhulu, ukunyanzelisa "isigulane" ukushiya naziphi na izicwangciso zokuphindezela, kubalulekile ukubonakalisa kuye ukuba "ukulungiselela ukuziphindiselela, balungiselela ingcwaba ezimbini" kwaye akuyi kubakho nawuphi na uncedo, kodwa luya kuncipha inkqubo "yokuphucula".