Uvakalelo olusisigxina sobulungisa
Kukho abantu abanomdla omkhulu kunabanye. La madoda kunye namantombazana bazama ukuhlala ngokuvumelana nesazela sabo. Ewe, lo mnqweno awululwanga ngabazali nokukhuliswa, kodwa kukho ukulibaziseka. Kunzima ukuba umntu onjalo enze ngokungathembekanga. Ukufika kwindawo ethile, akaqondi ukuba umntu unokungathembeki njani nomntu. Yingakho abantu abanjalo bavulekile kwaye banethemba. Bawagweba bonke abantu. Umntu ogxekayo akayi kuxoxa nomntu, aphelise ukuhleka, atyala into engenazo ubungqina. Akathethi mfihlelo yeemfihlelo kwaye akayikungcatsha abo bamthembayo. Yingakho kunzima ukuba umntu onjalo aqonde kwaye avume into yokuba phantse wonke umntu unokuthetha okuthile, kubika ukuba asebenze nomhlobo kunye nabaziwayo, njalo njalo. Ngokubambisana nobulungisa, kukho ukukholelwa. Ngoko ke, ixesha elide, aba bantu bavulelekile kwabanye, zama ukufihla into ethile ngakumbi ngakumbi. Kodwa ke umzuzwana ufika xa baqonda: baphathwa kakubi. Kwaye ukuqonda oku kuba bubuhlungu kakhulu, kuba ubulungisa kukuba, ngokwenene, yinto egcina ubomi bomntu onjalo. Ukuba akukho ubulungisa, ngoko ubomi buya kulahlekelwa intsingiselo yayo yangaphambili. Ukudumala okubangela ukuba umntu abe yedwa kuye kwaye aphephe ukuthembela kwabanye abantu. Akafuni nje ukuba aphathwe kakubi kwakhona. Uqala ukuqaphela ukuba bonke abantu abakude kakhulu. Kubalulekile ukuba siqaphele ukuba abantu baninzi bayeka ukuthetha ngabo ngokwabo kwaye ngenxa yokuba abafuni ukulahlekelwa yibo bahlala besondela. Abahlobo bamandulo kunye nabahlobo babantu abanjalo bayamangalisa kwaye badla ngokuthi umntu wayeqhele ukuba njalo kwaye akazange acacise oko kwenzeka kuye ngoku. Ngelishwa, uninzi lwawo aluqondi ukuba luyindlela yabo yokuziphatha, ephakamileyo okanye encinane, ebangela ukuba utshintsho oluphawulekayo kumlinge nokuziphatha komntu. Mhlawumbi, ukuphathwa kakubi kwabantu, ukungathobeli iimfuno zabo ebomini babo, sisona sizathu esona sizathu sokuba umntu avaliwe aze ayeke ukuthemba abantu. Nangona kukho ezinye iimeko.
Khangela ibhinqa ... okanye indoda
Isizathu sokuba umntu ubandale kwaye avaliwe, unokuba nothando olungathandekiyo. Umzekelo, umfana wayemthanda intombazana, wayefuna ixesha elide, kodwa wayesoloko esencinane, wayehlala engonwabi naye. UVitoge, waqonda ukuba kungcono ukushiya iimvakalelo zakho ngokupheleleyo okanye ukuzifihla, kunokuba ulwe rhoqo, njengeentlanzi malunga neqhwa, kungekho ziphumo zomsebenzi walo. Ngaphandle koko, umntu unokufunda nje ngomntu onothando kwaye oku kuya kuchaphazela nokuziphatha kwakhe, ukuvuleka kunye nentlalo. Ngothando sidinga ukuthembela. Ukuba asiyikuyifumana okanye siyiphumelele, kuvele ukudumazeka okukhulu. Sonke siyazi ukuba ukuqala ukuthanda umntu, umntu udala umfanekiso we-vegan, ugxininisa iimpawu ezilungileyo zomntu othandekayo njalo njalo. Ukuba uthando luya kulungelelaniswa, kwaye into yokuqwalasela ngumntu olungileyo, ngoko loo nto ayiyikulimaza. Kodwa xa sithandana nento engalunganga, ekugqibeleni, umfanekiso ololo hlobo uya kuphazamisa kwiimigangatho, uze uhlakaze kwiinqwelo eziliwaka, uzilimaze i-namdushu. Amadoda namabhinqa amaninzi ayaqaphela, abanda kwaye athule emva kokuphuka kanzima nokuhlungu. Bayeke ukunikela kunye nokwethemba abantu ngezizathu ezibini: nokuba abanqweneli ukuzivula kubo nabani na, ukuze bangaboni iintlungu zothando kunye nokulahlekelwa kwakhona, okanye bangabi ncinane bavule, kuba ngoku banokuqiniseka ukuba abantu abasondeleyo banako ukulungiswa kwangaphambili, kwaye kunzima ukuhlala. Ngako oko, ukudideka kunye nokwahlukana kungabangela ukulimala okunzulu umntu azivalayo kuye okanye aphephe ukuthembela kumntu ngokusemthethweni. Ngokuqinisekileyo, kulolu hlobo uthando olutsha lunokusindisa umntu. Kodwa kukude nokuba uya kumyeka. Kukho abo badumalayo kanye ne perezhivyvayut ubuhlungu obukhulu kangangokuba ekugqibeleni bahlaziya ucingo lwabo oluvanywe ngentliziyo kwaye bangavumi ukuba nabani na ukuba bengabikho bonke ubomi babo, ixesha elide kakhulu.
Kwimeko nayiphi na into, ukuba umntu ngokukhawuleza wadideka kwaye engathembeki, kuthetha ukuba ebomini bakhe kwakukho isiganeko esibi kakhulu esenza abantu baqwalasele indlela abajonga ngayo abantu ngokubanzi kwaye ngokukodwa. Akukho nto ebomini abantu abayitshintsha ngexesha elinye kungekho sizathu.