Ingqondo yengqondo yoluntu kulwalamano luhluke kakhulu kwizengqondo zabasetyhini. Umhla ukususela ngosuku lomntu ubakho ebomini bethu kwaye sibona, ukuvula amehlo ethu ububanzi, ukutshata, ukuwawela kwisitalato okanye kwindawo yokusebenzela. Zonke zizinto ezininzi kwiimeko ezininzi ezifana nathi kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi iimfuno zethu ziyavumelana, kodwa asikho konke. Yimangalisa njengoko kubonakala ngathi, amadoda ahlukeneyo ngamakhadi kunye nabasetyhini. Ngamanye amaxesha ayinakuqondakala kwaye ayimfama, kude nathi kwaye engenakucaciswa, ngokuchanekileyo kunye nokuzingca ngobudlelwane babo.
Ukuba senza umgca phantsi kwayo yonke into echazwe, siya kuba nomphumo wokuhlekisa ukuba ngobudlelwane beengqondo zendoda echaza ukuba ziphumo, ezikude kakhulu neyona nyaniso. Zonke izigqibo zesigqibo ezingenangqiqo zibonakala zikhutshwa kwiprogram yekhompyutheni yamawaka eenguqu. Ukuba umntu uzenzele umfanekiso wesimo sakhe - uyayifuna. Kwaye thina, bafazi, sisoloko sifuna oko kwakungekabikho ebomini bethu, sisoloko sikholelwa ukuba ngokukhawuleza okulandelayo akuyinto enye enokuyithandayo noyithandwa.
Isakhiwo seengqondo zesintu
Ingqondo yengqondo yomntu inokwakhiwa kwintetho yokuba amadoda ebudlelwaneni nomfazi ibona ukuchaneka ngokuthe tye. Amadoda ngokuqhelekileyo anamandla kunokwamabhinqa, kodwa angaphantsi kokuziphatha. Abameleli besondo esomeleleyo bazama ukufihla imvakalelo yabo, baqhakambise ukungahambisani kwabo, baveze iimvakalelo zabo ezinzulwini zobomi. Ingqondo yengqondo yomntu ngumlilo womphefumlo wakhe, ojoliswe kuphela kwicala elinye, ukutshisa abesetyhini ngokufudumalayo kwimeko. Kwizengqondo zezilwanyana ubudlelwane nabasetyhini, kukho ukungabikho kwemvakalelo, abafuni ukutyhila iimfihlo zabo, ukucaphukisa umfazi, kuba unesondo esomeleleyo, kwaye unobuthakathaka.
Yintoni amadoda acinga ngayo ngabasetyhini?
Eli bhinqa lenze i-form-up kwaye ligijime ngomhla, kodwa umlindi akanakukuqaphela. Kodwa wazama nzima ukuba abukeke mkhulu, ephakathi kwakhe. Kodwa ukuncoma kwidilesi yakho akuzange kuvezwe. Kwaye imfihlelo kukuba umntu uyabona into enhle, engavamile, yonke into ayithandayo. Ukuba akaqapheli umfanekiso obalaseleyo womfazi, mhlawumbi uhlushwa ngamanye iingcamango okanye yena, kwimeko embi kakhulu, wadumala kwintombazana. Ngendlela, ukuba uyamtshela indlela ekhangeleka ngayo, uya kuyithatha le ndumiso, ngenxa yokuba ukuqhosha kwamadoda kuphuma kumazwi aphatha kakubi. Khumbula ukuba nantoni na ulwalamano lwakho, indoda rhoqo, okokuqala, iyithanda.
Iimpawu zabantu
Bonke abantu bangama-boyaguzes. Oku kubangelwa kukuba abanye ngamaxesha ayikayo ukuvuma okokuba kukho into enjengokuthi "uthando" ehlabathini. Sithe cwaka ngokukwesaba umntu olahlekelwa yinkululeko yakhe ebudlelwaneni. Olu loyiko, njengommiselo, luvela kubo ngokuzalwa.
Bonke abantu bangabantwana. Ihlabathi labo lisekelwe ekunqobeni kweentsika ezithile. Ukongezelela, uMama Wendalo uye wenza ukuba loo mntu ahlale ehamba-nilly kumele awise umfazi. Ukuba umntu akafumani indlela yakhe, uba ngumntu omelekileyo, indoda ayikwazi ukunyaniseka kwizenzo zakhe ezintle, akavumeli iimpazamo kwiintsebenziswano zesini esahlukileyo.
Uthando lomntu
Kwinqanaba lokuqala lolwalamano, loo ndoda ibona iimpawu eziqhelekileyo zomzimba wakhe, uyatshintsha ngokupheleleyo, uba ngumsondlo kwaye unothando, ulawulwa ngumhlekazi wesifazane. Uyamfuna, ufuna yena. Yona yipropati yakhe (le nto yintloko). Ihlala ide ifunde incwadi ethi "Umphefumlo Wowesifazane" kwiphepha lokugqibela. Ukuba umntu uyadumala into ethile kumfazi, iimvakalelo zakhe ziqala ukuphela.
Indoda yentsapho
Iengqondo zengqondo zowesilisa zisoloko zenza indoda ibanjwe kubundlelwane beentsapho, kuba ubomi bentsapho buyalela imithetho yakhe yomdlalo. Emva kwexeshana, ulahlekelwa yizakhono zakhe njengentombi efanelekileyo kunye nendoda yamadoda. Kungenxa yesi sizathu sokuba ukuphendula kwemizwa kumfazi uphucula. Uqala ukukhangela iintlobo ezahlukahlukeneyo kwaye unandipha iintlanganiso kunye nabahlobo bobuncinci bakhe, kunye nexesha elichitha ixesha elikhululekile.