Into yokuqala.
Wonke umntu uyazi ukuba ukugcina umlingane ngoncedo lokubeletha akuncedi, akusayi kuqinisa ubudlelwane, kodwa kuya kukhawuleza ukuphazamiseka. Kodwa nangona ukubonakala komntwana kusenako ukuqinisa ubudlelwane - isisombululo esisisombululo seengxaki zezingane sishiya iimbambano zabo ngasemva. Kodwa umntwana uya kukhula kwaye yonke into iya kuphinda iphinde ibe yindawo kwakhona, abazali baya kubuyela ekuchaseni kwabo, ngelixa ukukwazi ukuthetha nabo kuye kwaphela. Amacala amaninzi xa iintsapho ziqhawule umtshato, umntwana uqala ukugula ngexesha lonke, iingxaki zivela. Oku kungabonakali kokuchasana nomtshato womtshato, obangela umdla. Ngaphandle kokungathandabuzeki, eli lixabiso eliphezulu ekuphumeni kwentsapho kwixesha elibuhlungu. Ngamanye amaxesha abazali abasecaleni lomtshato bafumanisa ukuba baya kuba ngabazali kwaye bathathe isigqibo sokuba eso siphelo sithuba siyakwazi ukuseka ubudlelwane babo. Kwiimeko ezininzi, izibini ziphumelela.
Into yesibini.
Umngcipheko wobomi bentsapho ngumtshato wokuqala. Ziyabonwa ukuba zibuthathaka, kuba emagxeni abasha abasha bafumana iingxaki ezininzi ekufuneka bazisombulule: izinto eziphathekayo, zasekhaya, iingcali. Imitshato phakathi kwabantu "bajame ngokunyanisekileyo kwiinyawo zabo" baprofeta ubude obude. Emva kobomi obuninzi bexesha elide, kuya kuba nzima ukuguqula ukutshintsha kwintsapho yobomi, ulungelelanise iqabane lakho, utshintshe indlela yokuphila. Kwimitshato yokuqala kwimphambano, ixesha lokutshintshana kunye "nokugaya" kunye neqabane lilula kakhulu ngoncedo lwengqondo eguquguqukayo, olukhethekileyo kuphela kulutsha.
Into yesithathu.
Ininzi icinga ukuba ukuba intsapho iyanyanzelekile ukuba isombulule iingxaki zokusombulula iingxaki, ithawuleza "iphule", kungekhona ukuxinzelela olo xinzelelo. Abanye bakholelwa ukuba imbangela yenkathazo ebantwini yinto ebizwa ngokuba "ukuxhamla", ukuxhalaba, ukungaqhelekanga, kunye nobunzima kubambisana. Inkxwaleko kwintsapho inokukhupha zombini ubukhulu bokuphila kunye nokuzinza kwayo.
Kungekudala okanye kamva, okwesithathu kubonakala kwintsapho nganye, kwaye oku kukhokelela ekutshintsheni ezininzi. Okokuqala, abazali bajonge phambili kumazibulo ngokulindela okukhulu kunye nenjabulo, kwaye emva kweenyanga ezimbalwa emva kokuzalwa, kukho ukungqubana kwendlu.
Ukukhulelwa, ukubeletha, iiyure ezingama-24 ezinyamekela umntwana amathayi. Umfazi ophelelwe amandla uhlala ebonisa izikhalazo zomyeni wakhe, emangalela yonke into, unxininisa ekumncedeni ngesibini. Utata akathuli: uhlala ekhumbuza ukuba usebenza kunye kwaye uyaphala, kwaye ukuba akakwazi ukujamelana nemisebenzi yasekhaya, ngoko unkosikazi ombi nomama. Umbono onjalo ngomntu wakhe ngomfazi awuyinto enhle, ucinga ukuba kwakuyiphutha lakhe lokuba kukho iingxaki zesini. Kwaye ekubeni isiqingatha sesilisa asithandi ukufumana ubuhlobo, yingako bazama, bangabonakala njani ekhaya. Ngokuqhelekileyo kulo mzuzu uqala ukukrexeza komyeni wakhe - akabheki kangangoko ngesondo, kodwa ngenxa yeendlebe ezininzi, afuna ukuthululela amabango kumfazi wakhe, azibonakalise ukuba useyindoda.
Ukuqhekeka phakathi kobudlelwane kuyanzulu, iingxaki zentsapho ziqala ukukhula njengebhola lebhola. Uncedo lwezihlobo (oogogo, oomkhulu) kumzali omncinci unempembelelo emihle, ubuncinane ngeveki umama omdala okhulelwe unokuphumla kwiinkxalabo zemihla ngemihla. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha, ngokuphambene noko, oku kuhambelana nobudlelwane bomtshato: isizukulwana esidala siyakuthanda, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha asikwazi ukukhusela kwaye singabonakali uluvo lwabo, bahlole abazali abatsha. Idla kaninzi. Ukongezelela, kwiimeko ezinjalo, ubaba omncinci akanakuchukumisa ekunxulumaneni nokunyamekela umntwana, uqala ukuziva engeyomfuneko, ngokugqithiseleyo, ucinga ukuba imali ilindeleke kuye. Ihlala ihlazisa umntu. Ngenxa yoko-ixesha elininzi kunye nabahlobo, ungeze ixesha elide, ukunyanzelwa kokungcatsha kuqhubeka ngokukhula. Ekuphenduleni, ufumana amanye amabango avela kumkakhe.
Ubomi bentsapho yesibini esitshatileyo kufaniswa nesinqanawa. Ngonyaka wokuqala emva kokuzalwa komntwana, "inqanawa yabo yentsapho" ixhamla ngokukhawuleza ukuba ikwazi ukuhamba ngokukhawuleza. Ngokwezibalo zamanqanaba apha, inani elikhulu lemitshato yamabhangqwana amancinci ayahlukana. Nangona kwakukho isiqalo esihle kangaka.