Amadoda angenakunyameko nabangakhuselekanga bayesaba ukuba umfazi uya kuziva ukwesaba. Bayesaba ukuba bashiywe, balahlwe, kuba oku kunzima kakhulu ukuzithemba kwabo. Bayika ukungakwazi.
Kutheni abantu besaba abafazi abanokuzithemba bengenangqiqo? Ewe, kuba loo ntokazi ibaluleke ngokwenene kubomi bentsapho, ukuzalwa nokukhuliswa kwabantwana. Uya kwenza ngokuhlakanipha nangokwemeko nayiphi na imeko. Ngenxa yokugcina intsapho, loo mfazi unako kakhulu, kuba uyayiqonda ukubaluleka kwayo kwaye uyazi ixabiso. Umfazi oqinileyo uya kuziphatha ukuze umntu azive intloko yentsapho kwaye akayi kumvumela ukuba "phantsi kwesithende." Uya kummxelela ukuba igama eliyimpumelelo lisemva kwakhe.
Ukuqiniseka ngabafazi bayazi indlela yokunceda umntu anqobe ukwesaba kwakhe, ukungathandabuzeki, ukungathandabuzeki, ukwazi ukuphucula ukuzithemba kwakhe. Abasetyhini abaqinileyo abayi kubonisa ukuphakama kwabo kubantu. Kutheni ukuze afune ukubonisa nantoni na? Usebenza ngokwakhe kunye nokuzimela.
Kwishishini, abasetyhini bakhawuleza kunamadoda. Impawu zendalo zenza uncedo ngokukhawuleza kwaye zivumelane neenguqu. Abasetyhini banokukhawuleza kunamadoda ukuba baxhomekeke kwimeko entsha, bathanda ukuzama kwaye oku kuzuzisa kuphela. Ukuzinza kwengqondo kunye neengqondo kubancedisa abafazi ukuba baphumelele kumadoda kwimimandla eyahlukeneyo yomsebenzi.
Ibhinqa, ecinga ukungabi nabulungisa kuye, iqala ukulwa kwaye iphumelele. Abafazi abanokuqiniseka bayakwazi ukuzithobela ngokuchanekileyo, balandela ukubonakala kwabo, banako ukunyusa ulutsha. Abakwazi nje ukukhusela uluvo lwabo, kodwa ukuba baqonde impazamo, ukuba ayenjalo.
Umfazi wesimanje akayi kuqalisa ubudlelwane nanoma yimuphi umntu, kungekhona ukuba yedwa. Ukholelwa ukuba kungcono ukuba yedwa kunomntu kwaye wenze into eyiyo! Owesifazane othembekileyo uyazi ukuba ufanelekile kwaye amadoda ayesaba. Amadoda ayesaba umnqweno wesifazana ukwaneliseka ngokwesondo. Abaqondi kakuhle ukuba oku kubalulekile kungekuphela nje ulwalamano, kodwa kwakhona, ngokubhekiselele kwimpilo yabasetyhini. Ukholo lokuba ungaphila kwizinto ezilindelwe, loo mntu uyakuphepha ukuthintana naye.
Amadoda ayesaba ngabasetyhini abaphatha kakuhle ngenxa yokuba baziva inkohliso, bakholelwa ukuba ngale ndlela abafazi bazama ukuyithatha. Amadoda ayesaba abasetyhini kwaye aziboni ukuba umfazi ozithembayo ngokuqhelekileyo unelisekile.
Amadoda ayesaba abafazi abathandekayo . Bayika ukuba baya kudidanisa loo ntokazi ukuba abahlangabezane nemimiselo efunwayo. Amadoda amaninzi athabatha abafazi abalungileyo bafikeleleka kalula. Amadoda ayesabela ukuphendula imibuzo enomsindo, ayesaba ukuthetha intliziyo ngentliziyo. Amadoda alumkelekanga ukuba angaphantsi komphathi wesifazana, kuba abanako ukuxinzelela kuye xa bengavumelani nento ethile. Badideke kakhulu yi nkokheli yabasetyhini. Ibhinqa elithembekileyo aliyi kuvumela ukuba lihlaziswe, kwaye indoda iyamoyikeka. Amadoda ayesaba ngesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sabasetyhini, bayesaba ukuba baya kunyanzelwa ukuba bagxininise izimvo zabo.
Abantu ababuthathaka babesaba besifazane abanokuzithemba. Kukho amadoda okwenene, abayikwesaba ngabafazi abomeleleyo, kodwa abayithandi abameli besilisa abanobucala obufanelekileyo. Ngoko ungabi namandla kwaye uyathemba, kodwa ukhangele!