Sineengxaki zonke ezibangelwa nayiphi na ingxaki. Apha kunye naloo mzekelo, abaninzi abazali bava: "Akukho nto, yinto enzima yobudala, iya kudlula, iyancipha." Ngamanye amaxesha, oogqirha bezingane ezinjalo -oengqondo, iingqondo zengqondo, izazi ze-neurologists zihlala 'zenza isono' cebiso. Kwaye abaqondi nje ubugebengu ukuba inzima kulo mbandela kwaye "akazange alale ecaleni". Abanye baze bacebise ukuba, xa inkunzi ibonakalisa i-whims yayo yokuqala, yinike i-kindergarten ngokukhawuleza. I-pier, kwintsana nje ayinelisekanga incoko, iye yaxhala, kukho uqeqesho luyakulungisa. Kwaye ke abazali bayazibuza apho ukuxilongwa "kwe-neurosis" kuvela kwikhadi lomntwana, ukuqala kunye nokuqhaqha, u-enuresis nokulala ubuthongo, isidingo sokuthatha iziyobisi ze-psychotropic. Kwaye kukho kunye nokulibaziseka ekuphuhliseni kwengqondo akukude (i-destin ye-70% yabancinane "i-neurotics"). Iseluleko sokuqala kunye nesona sikhulu: ukuba unomntwana ongenomdla kwaye ongenamsebenzi - uyalibale malunga ne-kindergarten, ude usombulule ingxaki ekhaya.
Zonke aziyikrele kakhulu - zinokumiswa
Kuboniswa ukuba abantwana abaneminyaka engaphantsi kweminyaka emithathu abayidingi ukuthetha nabanye abantwana. Sizimisele kakhulu ukucinga ukuba umntwana ufuna ukuthetha, "makangayifumana, kwaye akhule angahlali" kunye nezinye izinto ezingenangqondo. Indawo engqongileyo yeentsapho. Imfuno yokwenene yonxibelelwano kunoma yimuphi umntu ubonakala kuphela ngonyaka wesine, oku kubangelwa "yentlekele yeminyaka emithathu". Umntwana uqala ukuqonda umdlalo, apho umntu akakwazi ukudlala yedwa. Apha i-kindergarten iya kuza kunceda. Kukunceda abazali, kungekhona njengokuba bathathe indawo yabo. Ndikholelwe, abayintsiphu yabantu abayilwe i-kindergarten emva kweminyaka emithathu. Kwaye ngaphambi kokugxotha kubantwana nje ngenxa yokuba "waxabela ngokupheleleyo u-Otuk" - isisithakazelo kwaye singenakuxanduva.
Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana uyaziqonda "ngokukhawuleza". Ukuqala nje kwenkqubo, abazali banokubamba. Oku kuvela kwithuba lomntwana osana, xa zonke iimfuno zakhe ezincinci zidibene. Ngokukodwa xa umntwana ebuthathaka, egula okanye efuna ukunakekelwa okhethekileyo. Kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha, umntwana wayenemfuno emitsha waza waqaphela okokuqala. Kubalulekile ukuba abazali bathathe umzuzu xa umntwana engasayi "efuna", okuthi "ufuna." Uwuphi umehluko? Kwimeko yokuba kuyimfuneko ukuba ube nesidingo, kubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye ukufunwa ngumnqweno wobuqu, akusoloko unyanzelekile ukuba usebenze ngokukhawuleza. Yintoni abazali abayenzayo? Baqhubeka beyanelisa yonke into, njengeemfuno zomntwana. U-Amedzhu iminqweno yakhe, ehlangene phakathi, sele sele iqalile ukudala umlingiswa wongqongqo omncinci. Abantwana ngokukhawuleza "banqumla", ukuba iimfuno zabo zizaliseka ngokuqinisekileyo. Baqala ukukhanya ngokukhawuleza ukufunda abantu abadala abangakwazi ukwahlula "kufuneka" ukusuka "Ndifuna." Nalapha iingxaki ziqala. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, iimfuno zomntwana kufuneka zidibaneke, kwenye - iimfuno zakhe kufuneka zikwazi ukucoca: ezinye zazo zizalisekise, kwaye abanye bazinyame.
Ngoko, ungamniki nantoni na into embi-yinto embi, yinike yonke into - kubi kabini. Ngendlela yokuqala, umntwana uya kuba namandla okukwazi umhlaba, okwesibini - ayiyi kuba nemida emiselweyo evumelekileyo. Kwaye oku kudala umthwalo omkhulu kwi-psyche yengane. Isityhilelo kubazali: abantwana bafuna ukunciphisa inkululeko yabo. Oku kubanika umuzwa wokhuselo. Khumbula umntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa, ngokukhawuleza ukucima, ngokukhawuleza ukuba iguqulwe isuka entloko ukuya enyaweni. Umntwana okhulile ufuna iimingcipheko - kukuthintela nokuthoba. Ngoko ke, kufuneka nje ukuba uyeke ukuba ngabazali "abanomusa" kwaye uqale ukuvumela kuphela, kodwa nokukhawulela.
Yintoni abazali abayenzayo?
Kukho imimiselo ethile ekufuneka ilandelwe kwishishini lokugubungela abashicileli babo abancinci.
1. Qhubeka
Oku kubaluleke kakhulu - ukuba uxelele umntwana ukuba awuyi kumnika intle, ade afike isidlo sakusihlwa, oku kufanele kube njalo. Ukuba uthembisa-yenza (zombini mnandi kunye neochen).
2. Wonke umntu unexesha lakhe
Ukuba uxakeke kakhulu, fundisa umntwana ukuba alinde de ukuba ugqibe. Chaza ngokukhawuleza njengoko kunokwenzeka. Qinisekisa ukuhlawula umntwana ngenxa yokungabi nalwazi emva koko.
3. Khuthaza ukuzimela kwabantwana
Njalo uvumele umntwana ukuba adlale yena ngokwakhe, nangona engayibonakali into enjalo. Qala ukudlala kunye, xa umntwana enomdla okwaneleyo - yishiye yodwa ngamagama athi "ukudlala, ndiza kubuya".
4. Musa ukupheka ngaphezulu umntwana
Umdala oba ngumntwana, kufuneka abe nethuba lokukhetha nokuzimela ngokuzimela. Kakade, kwimida ebekwa ngabazali.
Umntwana ongenamdla akusiyo isohlwayo. Leli nqanaba ekuphuhlisweni kwanoma yimuphi umntu onempilo. Oku kuthetha ukuba umntwana uye wakhula ngokwaneleyo ukuba enze izifiso zobulumko, ukukhukhumeza nokunyaniseka. Okuqhelekileyo. Kodwa kubalulekile ukugcina inkqubo kwisakhelo esilungileyo ukuze ungalili kamva, ungagijimi malunga noogqirha kwaye ungabonakalisi ubudlelwane kunye nosana ekuqaleni kwelo lwakhiwo.