Ngokuqhelekileyo, amabhinqa, amantombazana, amantombazana aphantsi kokuphathwa kakubi kwindoda. Ingaba ngathi i-millet yokuhlambalaza umntu, ngoko ke into eyona nto ibona ubundlobongela. Amadoda ngokuqinisekileyo abesilisa abafuna idini ukuze banelise ukuthanda kwabo. Kwaye kaninzi akukhathaleli ukuba ngubani, nini, kwaye kuphi. Kakade, akuzona zonke ezi zinto, kodwa zikhona iintlobo zokuziphatha okubi ezingaqhelekanga kwimbono yesithunzi nesidima.
Indlela yokuphepha ukudlwengulwa? Kuthekani kuthi ukuba zonke izinto zinobudlova obufanayo zenzeka, njani ukuphuma kule meko? Okokuqala kufuneka ukhangele indlela intombazana eziphatha ngayo kuluntu, ukuba ibukeka ihlamba kwaye iziphatha ngendlela efanayo, ingowokuqala ingawela ezandleni zomdlwenguli. Ngokuqhelekileyo, amadoda anyuliwe ukuba alalane ngesondo. Kukho imithetho embalwa elula ukuphepha le meko:
Ugqoke ngokuthobeka, ngakumbi xa uhamba ebusuku;
Kwinkampani engaqhelekanga iziphatha ngokuthobeka;
Ukuba ubuyela ekhaya ebusuku okanye kusebusuku, kuyacetyiswa ukuba umntu udibana nawe kwibhasi lebhasi. Yithatha iteksi okanye ihambe;
Ungaziqhelani nobuntu obukrokrelayo kwisitrato, kwisithuthi, kwi-cafe;
Kwipokothini lakho, kufuneka uhlale unento yokhuseleko lwakho, nokuba ibhotile yegesi okanye i-perfume okanye i-déodorant, ukuze xa ukuhlaselwa ungakwazi ukuphazamisa umhlaseli; (kwipokothini ukuba le nto imele ixoke, kuba xa ufuna yona kwisikhwama sakho, usenokudlwengulwa);
Musa ukuya kuqala ekungeneni, ukuba ufuna ukuhamba nomntu ongaqhelekanga, ungaphambuki kakuhle, oku uza kuzikhusela ekuhlaseleni emva. Xa umdlwenguli ephambili, kuya kuba lula kuwe ukuba uziqhelise indlela yokuziphatha ngokubanzi;
Musa ukuhlala wedwa kwi-elevator kunye nomntu osolwayo.
Nantsi imigaqo yokunqanda ukuzithobela uzuko kunye nobomi, ukuyiqwalasela uya kuba nethuba lokuphuma kwimeko, okanye ungangeni kuwo.
Ukuba usenayo le meko engathandekiyo, ungakhathazeki ngokukhawuleza. Iimbilini zomdlwenguli kumda, uloyikisayo, ngulo lwakhe kwaye luvusa, ukwesaba kwakho kunye nokudibanisa kwakhe kumnika i-adrenaline. Apha kukho ezinye iingcebiso ezimbalwa.
Ukuba unesibindi esinamandla, ngoko unako ukuhlaziya umxinzelelo womlomo womdlwenguli, ngokuphindaphindiweyo kunokuba ungabikho, basinda emva koko;
Ukuba wabamba umdlwenguli emnyango, ngoko kufuneka umemele yonke indlela, abamelwane baya kuphuma. Nangona abaninzi baxela ukuba abamelwane sele besaba ukuhamba, kodwa awunayo enye indlela. Kwakhona, unokusongela umdlwenguli, naye unokubalekela.
Ukuba umdlwenguli unesandla esandleni sakhe, ke uqaphele, nayiphi na indlela yokuhamba ngokweqile inokudlala nawe. Into ephambili musa ukwethuka. Ngokuqhelekileyo umdlwenguli uhlasela emva kwaye ubeka ummese entanyeni yakhe, khawuleza ukhumbule into ephakamileyo yakho, yintoni enokuyenza ukuze unqande umdlwenguli. Ukuba unesithende, unokubetha kanzima emlenzeni womdlwenguli ngesithende.
Ukuba umele ukhangele kuye, kwaye uyasongela ngeela, ungamkhabela emkhatsini wemilenze yakho uze ugijime kwisitrato, phantsi phantsi uze udibe kuyo yonke iminyango. Ungalokothi ugijime, apho unokukufumana.
Kukho enye indlela yokuphuma kuloo meko, kodwa isebenza ngokugqithiseleyo. Unokumtshela ngokucacileyo emehlweni ukuba amadoda angakuvuyi kunye nokuba ungumlingani wesini okanye umfazi onqabileyo.
Yaye ukuba uthe wadlwengulwa, musa ukubulawa malunga nayo. Uninzi lwabantu luzibulala, luya kuhlenga malunga nalesi siganeko. Akunjalo, oku nje isiqhelo ebomini bakho, malunga nokufuneka uyilibale kwaye kungekudala ungcono. Ebomi kukho iziganeko ezininzi, kodwa kusenokwenzeka ukuba uphile ubomi obuqhelekileyo. Kwaye akukho mfuneko ukuba uphinde uziphindiselele kumdlwenguli wakho, uya kufumaneka aze afakwe entolongweni, kwaye uya kubuyisela impendulo kuwe, apho kufuneka ukuba.