Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje kukho utshintsho olukhawulezayo kangangokuthi ngamanye amaxesha silahlekelwa kwindlela yokuba ubomi bendalo buyeka ukuqonda phakathi kwabanye. Ngokukodwa nzima xa ezi zitshintsho zichaphazela ixabiso lobomi biseko.
Ezi zithethe ziquka, umzekelo, ukuzalwa komntwana. Ngethuba lethu, isimo sengqondo sabaseRashiya kumfazi okhulelwe uye wangena utshintsho olukhulu, njengokuba, ngokwenene, kwihlabathi lonke. Abasetyhini abaninzi bakhetha iinjongo zobomi ezahlukeneyo kunokukhulisa abantwana. Benza umsebenzi, bazibandakanye kwizemidlalo eziyinkimbinkimbi ngokwabo, bazidibanise kwaye bahambe. Abantwana abasemfanekisweni wehlabathi badla umthwalo ongafunekiyo, owenzela ukuzonwabisa ubomi.Iimpawu zokuziphatha, ubuqu kunye nokuzingca akuzange kumise abanye. Ngokuphambene noko, umnqweno wokuzilolonga kunye nolonwabo, kwaye kungekhona ukudala intsapho eqinileyo, uye waba yindalo phakathi kwezizukulwana ezininzi zolutsha. Ekunciphiseni ukubaluleka komntwana ebomini kwintombi, ukwahlukana kwintsapho encinci kunye nezizukulwana ezindala kuyachaphazela. Okumangalisayo kukuba, oku kungabonakala, kodwa iinkcubeko apho abantu abadala behlonishwa khona kwaye bahlonela uluvo lwabo, bahlale bedibene nabo, ukuzalwa kwabantwana kuseyona nto ibalulekileyo. Kwanele ukuguqula amehlo ethu e-China, apho udidi oluqinileyo lwezizukulwana lukhuthaza ukukhula kwabantu.
Zonke ezi meko zanikezela ukuba isimo sengqondo sabaseRashiya kwimibandela yokukhulelwa nokukhulelwa kwabantwana. Ngoku iimeko apho umntwana wokuqala esithatha ibhinqa zakhe zingenangqabileyo ngumntwana wakhe. Akazange afunde ukutshatyalaliswa okanye ukuthetha nomntwana osemtsha kumzekelo woodade kunye nabazalwana, ngoko ke kufuneka afunde izinto ezisisiseko zobulumko bokubeletha kwiincwadi, amaphephancwadi kunye namanqaku kwi-Intanethi. Akunakwenzeka nje ukuba amaphephancwadi agqabileyo ngokuphathelele abantwana kunye nokukhulelwa kuye kwadume kakhulu phakathi koomama abancinci: bafunda kubo oko bakufundela kwiintsapho okanye ngabazali.
Nangona zonke iinguqu ezenzekayo kuluntu ngokubhekiselele kwimicimbi yokuzala, amanye amazwe angaba nomona ngobudlelwane babantu baseRashiya kumfazi okhulelwe. Umlindi ngamnye unamacala amabini, njengokuba kungekho bubi ngaphandle kokulungileyo. Oomama abancinci, ukuba bafunde ngakumbi kwaye banokufikelela kwiincwadi ngokukhulelwa nokunyamekela umntwana, baye baba ngcono. Ngoku umfazi okhulelwe akaphathwa njengomntu ogulayo, njengoko kwakungaphambili. Umama ozayo unokuziqhelanisa ukuqina kuze kube sekuzalweni kwakhe, ufunde indlela yokuqhuba i-helicopter njenge-supermodel uGiselle Bundchen, okanye izicathulo ezintsha ze-ballet, njengo-Anastasia Volochkova. Ngokuqinisekileyo ukutshintsha okulungileyo kwisimo sengqondo kumfazi okhulelwe, kuvumela abafazi ukuba bangabikho ebomini obalulekileyo ebantwini obaluleke kakhulu kubo. Kwaye, ukongeza, abaphandi malunga nokukhulelwa kunye neengxaki zomntwana ukuba umsebenzi osebenzayo kunye nokuzonwabisa ngexesha lokukhulelwa ngcono kukuchaphazela imeko yengqondo yomzimba yengane engakazalwa kunokuhlala ngaphandle kwekhaya. Enyanisweni, kwimeko apho umama ozayo uyazi umlinganiselo wokuzilayisha ngokwakhe ngezinto ezithandekayo kunye nezinto ezithandayo kwaye akahluphekanga ngenxa yokugula. Ngoku iqela elithi "ukukhulelwa ngokuqinileyo" kuye kwanyusa, oko kugxininisa into yokuba umfazi wamanje, nangona waqala ukuzala ngokungaphantsi kwexesha, ngokuqhelekileyo ufika kwesi siganeko esinomdla ngakumbi, ngokwezimali nangokwengqondo.
Umba ohlukeneyo, obaluleke kakhulu kunoma yimuphi umama ozayo kunye nendalo yakhe, ngumcimbi wokufundisa umntwana ozayo. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, abantwana oomama abasebenza ngokuqhelekileyo baba "abantwana bakagogo." Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izazi zengqondo ziqaphele ukuba ukwandiswa kwezinto ezibizwa ngokuba ngamaziko ezentlalo-nxaxheba kunomphumo onenzuzo ekuphuhlisweni kwengane. Ukubeka nje, ukuba umama usebenza kwaye akafuni ukuyeka izinto ezithandwayo emva kokuzalwa komntwana, lo mntwana udla ngokuthetha nenani elikhulu labantu ukusuka kwisigaba sokuqala sophuhliso. Umama, utata, oogogo, oogogo, ama-nannies kwiminyaka yokuqala yobomi, ngoko-ke amaqela aphuhliso okuqala, ama-mugs kunye ne-kindergartens avumela umntwana ukuba angcono kwizinto ezikhoyo ngoku. Ukuba usebenzise ubunzulu beendlela zokuphila ngobisi ngobisi lonina, umntwana onjalo ukususela ngexesha lokuzalwa usetyenziswa kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zonxibelelwano kunye neentlobo zemisebenzi eyahlukeneyo, kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zonxibelelwano, ngoko ke ufumana iindlela ezininzi zokuziphatha. Indlela yakhe yobomi kunye neempawu zomama ziza ngokuvisisana, kuba ukususela ebuntwaneni akayena nje umzekelo wokulingisa, kodwa kunye nezakhono zobomi bezenhlalakahle.
Kunzima ukuthetha indlela isimo sengqondo sabesifazane abakhulelweyo kunye nokuzalwa kwabantwana kuza kuphuhliswa kwikamva. Imbali icebile kwimimandla ebonisa ukuba uphuhliso lwalo budlelwane luyaqhubeka. Iimpawu zentsapho ziyavuselelwa, kwaye ziye zenzeke kwimvelaphi. Ngoko asikwazi ukukhuphela ikhosi yeziganeko ezinjalo, xa abantwana bezakhono, beqonda ubomi babo kunye nobuntwana babo, baya kwenza isizukulwana sabasetyhini kunye namadoda ngokugqithiseleyo ekudalweni kwintsapho eqinile kunokuba abazali babo banomdla ohlukileyo ngokupheleleyo.