Nangona abantu baye bafikelela kwiindawo eziphakamileyo zokuziphendukela kwemvelo, sihlala sisombulula iingxaki zehlabathi eziqhelekileyo kumgangatho weemvakalelo kunye nemvelo. Yingakho engqondweni yabasetyhini abaninzi abasinda ekuqhawuleni umtshato, ingcamango yokuziphindezela kwindoda yangaphambili. Kwiifilimu zonke zenza kakuhle kwaye zingenakucala, ngenxa yoko umoni uyahlwaywa, loo nto ibhinqa kwaye akukho nto yokukhononda ngayo. Kodwa, iifilimu kuphela, ngelishwa, ubomi buveza yonke into eminye imibala. Umnqweno wokuphindezela uqobo, ngokuqhelekileyo, umntu unokushiya yonke into kwinqanaba lomnqweno kunye nokucinga, kwaye umntu ulungele ukwenza okuthile, kwaye ngokukhawuleza. Ngokukodwa lo mnqweno ukwanda ngokunyuka kwentukuthelo kwiimeko xa kubonakala ngathi akukho nto ilahlekileyo.
Kukho iindlela ezimbalwa ezindala kunye nezibonakaliso njengoko unokuziphindezela kumyeni wakho wangaphambili. Kodwa ungakulibali, ukuphindezela kuyadinga indlela yokudala, kuphela ke iya kuba yedwa kunye neyodwa, oko kuthetha ukuba kuya kukunika umxhelo ophezulu, ungalibali ukuthobela umthetho.
Ewe, ngaba siqala ukulimala?
Ucinga kuqala - luncedo.
Into yokuqala efika engqondweni kubasetyhini enegama elithi "ukuziphindezela kwinto yangaphambili" yintambo ephezulu kakhulu. Ewe, lo mshini, umsebenzi okanye ikhomputha. Masiqale ngowokuqala-le moto. Yenza imoto ibe yimfumba yesitraba esincinci ngeyona nto ayimfuneko, nangona inkqubo ngokwayo iya kukunika umdla omnandi, kwaye ikuvumela ukuba uphonsa onke amandla angagcini. Uyakwazi ukutshintshisa umbala, okanye ulungiselele i-bird feeder kwi-hood. Kwimeko apho, yonke into inokuthi ibangelwa ngabantu abathintekayo, okanye umama omhle onomdla. Ukuphindezela kuyenziwe kwaye akukho monakalo omkhulu.
Ingongoma yesibini onokuziphindezela kumyeni wakho wangaphambili ngumsebenzi wakhe. Ukuba unako ukufikelela kwi-imeyile yakhe yokusebenza, kwaye ubuncinane isithomelwano esisodwa, yenza le memori enomdla kunye nabo basebenzisana naye, kholwani mna, lo mqondiso uya kuxabiswa. Unokumthumela iposididi yokudibanisa, kunye ne-virus enomdla, nangona kungenakonakalisa. Kukho nawuphi na umzekelo, ukuhamba komsebenzi kuya kuphazamiseka.
Into yesithathu eluhlu lwezinto ozithandayo ikhompyutha. Ngokuqhelekileyo kuye, amadoda achitha ixesha elikhulu lexesha lawo. Apha, igciwane elikhankanywe ngaphambili lingakunceda, okanye cima nje umdlalo ozithandayo xa ukwahlukana, apho ufikelele kunzima kwinqanaba lokugqibela. Umyeni owayengumyeni akayi kuthanda loo nto.
Ingcamango yesibini yendalo.
Kwaye asinxibe kwenye indoda engcwele - iingubo zabo. Akuyinyani ukuba abantu bahlawula ingqalelo encinane kwindlela yabo yokubonakala kunabesifazana, kungenye indlela abayenzayo ngayo kwaye bayayivuma. Ngethuba lexesha elichithwa kunye, ngokuqinisekileyo, uncedise ekuzaliseni umyeni we-cloakroom ngezinto ezintsha. Ngoku yisikhathi sokubakhupha apho. Umonakalo olula wolu hlobo lwepropati ibhanti kwaye ayinomdla, bonise ukucinga kwakho kunye nobuchule. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukhwankqisa ukufumanisa embhedeni wakhe umlotha omtsha okanye xa ebona umbhoxo oqaqambileyo kwindlu yangasese. Cinga ukuba uyamangalisa ukuba zonke ezi zinto ziza kwenziwa kwikhreyta yomklami, ijeketi eyintandokazi kunye nentambo entsha? Kodwa wazama ngayo yonke umphefumlo wakho.
Ingcamango yesithathu iyashukumisa.
Ukufezekisa le cwangciso elikhohlakeleyo kufuneka lihlawule umrhumo woqhagamshelwano lweselula. Beka le mibuzo, yakho, indoda enomyeni oyintandokazi kwisayithi yokuthandana kunye nesipho esilinga ukuba sijongane nabasetyhini kuphela. Okanye makangathengisa impahla yakhe kwiiwebhusayithi ngeentengiso kwiintengiso. Ngokuqinisekileyo amaxabiso aya kuba mnandi kakhulu. Ewe, ngendlela ungayikhohlwa ukubonisa zonke iinombolo zeefowuni ezinokwenzeka, kuquka umakhalekhukhwini, ikhaya kunye nomsebenzi. Umyeni wakho wangaphambili uya kuba novuyo ngokunyanisekileyo.
Abanye abasetyhini banquma ukubhala yonke inyaniso kwi-LiveJournal, bancedise ngeefoto baze baveze kwinkundla kawonkewonke. Oku, kunjalo, kukhethwa, kodwa kulo mzekelo uza kufuneka uchaze indlela oziphatha ngayo, kunye nabo bobabini banecala lokuxabana. Ngoko kungcono ukuba ungabonakali.
Ingcinga yowesine, ingenangqondo.
Abantu abaninzi bafunda ibali leendoda enhle, emva kokushiya ekhaya emva kokuqhawula umtshato, yagqiba ekubeni nesidlo sakusihlwa. Yaye ininzi yeengcungcuthe, igalelo layo lithela imfuyo yazo ibe ngumbumba we-tubular. Ukususa umkhondo wolu lwaphulo-mthetho, waphuma ngokukhawuleza. Kodwa emva kwexesha, ndabuya ndithenga indlu yam, kwaye ngexabiso eliphantsi. Isizathu salo kwakuyivumba elibi elalibonakala endlwini, njengoko indoda yakhe yayicinga ukuba, akukho ndawo. Yingakho yena nomfazi wakhe omtsha bathetha ukuphuma. Kwaye ukususela kwindlu - i-stink, akukho namnye ofuna ukuthenga, kwakufuneka ayithengise kuphela kuthanda, ngentlawulo ayimisele yona. Into emnandi kakhulu kweli bali kukuba kungekudala umfazi owayengumfazi wayemi emngceleni wendlu yakhe, kwaye wayejonge njengoko abasebenzi befudula i-cornice efanayo endala kwindlu yomyeni omtsha.
Ngoko, bafazi abathandekayo, le ngcaciso enokuyicinga ngayo.
Ucinga ngowesihlanu, kuboniswe.
Ukubonisa umonakalo wempahla yempinda yokubuyisela kulungile, kodwa kunokuthi uthelekiswe namaqhinga angcolileyo. Ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukuphindisela kumyeni wakho wangaphambili-thintela into engekho. Bonke abantu bayaqiniseka ukuba emva kokuhamba kwabo, kufuneka uqale ixesha elide ukubulawa, ukukhala nokuthandaza ukuba ubuyele, uze udideke ebomini naphantsi kwesiqubulo "kwaye ungafumani ncamnye nawuphi na umntu", ungene kumantoni. Kuya kumangaliswa kakhulu kukubona uvuyayo, ujabule kwaye ungacingi ngaye. Ukuba ukongeza unesithandwa esitsha, umphumo uza kudlula zonke izinto ozilindeleyo. Okokuqala, kuya kukunceda uqaphele ukuba ubomi obusasa phambili, kwaye ukhangeleka njengakuqala. Okwesibini, lo myalelo wezinto uya kuphoqa umyeni wakho wangaphambili ukuba acinge ngokuchaneka kwezenzo zakhe aze ahlole ukuba ngubani olahlekileyo.
Ngako-ke, bafazi abathandekayo, indlela yokuziphindezela, kwaye nokuba niyayiphendule-konke. Into ephambili yenzayo ngesidima.