Ukuba indoda ibhinqa, njengomntwana

Ukuba indoda ithatha ibhinqa njengomntwana, ngoko umfazi unokunyaniseka okanye uzwelana naye. Ixhomekeke kuyo yonke into, yokuqala nokuphambili, kumfazi ngokwakhe, kunye nakwethembekileyo. Masiqhube kunye kunye nendlela ekuphatha ngayo - ngokunyamekela nangentlonipho, okanye ngokungaqiniseki ngokuthe ngqo, ucinga ukuba ungekudala kwaye awukwazi ukwenza izigqibo zabantu abadala.

Ukuba indoda ibhinqa, njengomntwana, ngenxa yoko, mhlawumbi kukho imfuneko ebalulekileyo kwinqanaba lomfazi ngokwakhe kwisigaba esithile sobudlelwane. Ndicetyisa ukuba uqwalasele zonke izigaba ezichazwe ngezantsi uze ukhethe lowo ufanelanayo kwaye ufumene isizathu kunye nento oyenzayo malunga nayo.

Ngoko, inqanaba lesibini liyi "candy-bouquet". Wena, njengentombazana ehamba phambili, mhlawumbi uyazi ukuba yintoni, ngoko andiyi kuchaza ixesha elide. Eli nqanaba liyabantu bonke abanobudlelwane obunothando. Ukuba indoda ithatha ibhinqa njengomntwana ngeli nqanaba, ngoko, mhlawumbi, injongo yakhe ayikho into ebalulekileyo. Unako ukunika i-trinkets, i-pamper okumnandi, kubiza "umntwana wam" kunye nabahlobo, kwaye ngandlela-thile ulungile. Kodwa! Ngokukhawuleza xa uzama ukufumanisa okanye ukuvakalisa ingcamango ethile, nikela into yobudlelwane bakho okanye unikele ngoncedo lwakho, ngoko uva ngeempendulo: "Ewe, unokukuqonda oku! Intombazana yam, musa ukuzibamba ubuchopho, bhetele kule mali, hamba uthenge isambatho esitsha ", ngoko kufuneka ucinge ngokucokisekileyo. Kungenzeka ukuba, kule ngongoma udlala nje, ulungele ukuziphucula. Amadoda atshatile abo bahlonishwayo kwaye baphulaphule, ngoko kufuneka ukwazi iinjongo zakhe zangempela okanye uhambe.

Isigaba se sibini - ukuyeka. Apha, njengomthetho, ubudlelwane obunzulu buqala ngawo onke ama-pluses kunye ne-minuses, ukuphahla, njl. Kule nqanaba, uyazibona zonke iimpawu zomnye nomnye. Kwaye ukuba ngeli xesha indoda iqala ukukuphatha njengomntwana, ngoko kufuneka ndibuze umbuzo: ngubani na olwalamano lwakho oyintloko? Ukuba indima yomlawuli ingeyakho, ngoko ke isimo sengqondo somntu sihlaselayo. Mhlawumbi yile ndlela azama ngayo ukucacisa ukuba i-ego yakhe ibuhlungu, ukuba kufuneka ilawule kule mibini. Inokwenzeka ukuba, uzama ukunyanzela inzondo yakho.

Ukuba ngobudlelwane bakho umntu oyintloko, ngoko ke isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokubhekiselele kuwe, njengomntwana uyanconywa. Ngoko ubonisa ukuba uyamthanda, uyamkhathalela kwaye uthembisa ngokufihlakele ukuba uyakukhathalela. Kodwa ukuba kukho nayiphi na imibuzo engacingi ukuba kuyimfuneko ukunxibelelana nawe, kwaye nayiphi na enye yeempendulo zakho iyajika, umzekelo, ukuba udideke, ngoko kufuneka uxoxe naye kwaye uzame ukuchaza ukuba ekubeni uhlangene, kufuneka uphulaphule kunye nokuhlonela imbono yomnye nomnye. Kodwa ububele kunye nokunyamekela kubaluleke kakhulu, ngakumbi xa kuvela kwicala lakho elithandekayo. Ngoko ngaphambi kokumgxeka ngokungabi nzulu malunga nawe kweli nqanaba, zama ukuqiniseka ukuba awuxokothi. Cinga ngako - kuhle kakhulu xa ukulungele ukuxolela nayiphi na into!

Isigaba sesithathu - intsapho. Ukuba eli xesha libhekisela kulwalamano lwakho, ke yamkele ukuvuyisana kwam. Ukuze kufinyelele oku, iimbambano ezimbalwa kuphela ziphumelela. Kwaye ukuba umntu wakho kule nqanaba lolwalamano ubonisa ukuba unomusa kunye nokunyamekela kukayise, ngoko kukuhle. Ngenxa yokuba ulwalamano olusondeleyo kunye nolwaphulo lunikezela inhlonipho, ukunyaniseka nothando, kwaye ekubeni indoda yakho inesithandane esingapheliyo kunye nayo, izimvo zingenangqiqo.

Ngandlela-thile, ndandinomdla kakhulu kwesi sihloko ndagqiba ekubeni ndiqhube uphando kwinethiwekhi yoluntu phakathi kwabahlobo bam nabaziwayo, bobabini phakathi kwamantombazana naphakathi kwamantombazana. Njengomphumo wam, mhlawumbi kungekho i-100% izibalo ezichanekileyo, loo mfanekiso ukhangelwe apha: phakathi kwabafana, kuphela iipesenti ezingama-20 zabaphendulayo (kuquka umntu wam) waphendula ukuba isimo sengqondo ngentombazana njengomntwana lubonakaliso lwabo uthando olukhulu , ukhathalele kunye neemfuno zeentombazana; Iipesenti ezingama-75 zaphendula ukuba zingaphatha intombazana efuna ukufundisa into ethile, okanye umntu ngokwakhe, uxolo, isilumko esingadlala ngokwaneleyo ebuntwaneni bakhe. Apha andinakukwazi ukumbamba impendulo echaza ngokucacileyo uninzi lwabaphendulayo: "Ukuba umntu uthetha kumfazi njengomntwana, ke akayindoda. Kuye (M) kufuneka uphathwe njengoG. Ngaphandle kwanamaphiwa apho, kwaye isimo sengqondo njengomntwana kufuneka sibonakaliswe kumngane wakhe omncinane (M) omncinci, elungele phantsi kwelinye ibhande. " Nantsi njalo. Ewe, iipesenti ezi-5 ezisele zithetha ukuba yintoni intombazana-oko kuye kwaye. Ndifuna ukuphawula ngokukhawuleza ukuba umyinge wama-75 ekhulwini kwabaphendulayo ngama-20, ama-20 ekhulwini anama-28, kwaye ama-5 ekhulwini anama-18. Ngoko ke, ndagqiba ekubeni amadoda aqolileyo axabisa isondo esilungileyo ngaphezu kwezihlobo zabo ezincinci.

Amantombazana ayiphendulana ngokubambisana ukuba xa indoda ithe yaphatha umfazi njengomntwana, ngoko uyamnyamekela, uyayithanda kwaye uyithwala uxanduva lwezenzo zakhe. Umyinge weminyaka yamantombazana ahloliswe yiminyaka engama-20. Nazi izibalo zamanani apha.

Ewe, ngokwalo, ndicinga ukuba ukuba uphathwa njengomntwana, ukusuka apha kufuneka usebenzise inzuzo. Kunokuba ngamnye wethu angayiqhayisa into yokuba umntu onomphefumlo ongeyonto, unxibe izandla, iiphampers, ubiza ngegama lomnxeba kunye nokunye. Ndiqinisekile ukuba nabahlobo bakho banomona kuwe, kuba amadoda amaninzi asiphatha njengethenda, njengabakhonzi basekhaya, abanokuthi bancitshiswe ngongamela. Naliphi na ingxaki inokusombulula ngokuthetha ngokungathethekiyo ngesiqingatha esinye, ngokukhawuleza ukubeka onke amanqaku phezu kwe "i" kwaye ivakalise ngokucacileyo amabango abo. Ukongezelela, sihlala siqaphela okubi kunokuba kunjalo, kodwa kule nkalo - ukunakekelwa nokuzinikela kungathathwa ngenxa yokungathobeli nokungazithembi - "Into esinayo - ayiyi kugcina, ilahlekelwe - ikhale." Into ebaluleke kakhulu ubudlelwane kukubonisa ukungaxhatshazi kwaye uxoxe ngayo kunye neqabane. Yithembele okhethiweyo wakho, kwaye emva kobudlelwane bakho kuya kuhlala kusekhona uthando kunye nokuqonda.