Khangela-musa ukudlala!
Abantakwabo, oomama, oogxa, abahlobo, kunye nabantwana besifo sezingane, baqinisekisile ukuba bathatha umntwana ezandleni zabo-ulwaphulo-mthetho. Kwaye ukuba ungaqali ngokukhawuleza ukuziqhelanisa nokuzimela kwakho, ugqoke ezandleni zakho, ngoko uya kuhlala entanyeni yakho. Njengaye, umntwana uya kuluhlula kunye nabangaphandle, asebenze kwaye ngokubanzi-uya kuba yindoda engenangqondo.
Yintoni ukuqinisekiswa? Enyanisweni, akukho manani anxulumene nolwalamano phakathi kokugqoka umntwana ezandleni zakhe nokuziphatha kwakhe okulandelayo. Abantu besizukulwana esidala banako ukuthetha ilizwi eliqhelekileyo elithandwayo, kwaye, ngokuqhelekileyo, ngokwemigaqo: "Pasternak? Hayi, andinayo. Kodwa ndigweba. " Ngokuqinisekileyo abazange baphathe abantwana babo ezandleni zabo onke amaxesha, kodwa basithi kubi. Oogqirha bezilwanyana bayazi kakuhle iimbumba, i-colic kunye nezitofu, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo bayazi kakuhle iimfuno ezingundoqo zengqondo zengane yakho ngokuchanekileyo.
Iziphumo zophando zakutshanje zibonisa ukuba ukuba umntwana usebuntwaneni ufumana unxibelelwano oluxhambileyo nonina, ngoko luya kukhula ngakumbi, lwanele kwaye lulawulwe. Enye into yokuba "isandla" abantwana banamathele ngakumbi kubazali babo kunokuba "bathathwe" babo ontanga. Unina, unyanzelekile ukuba unike umntwana umntwana kwaye uhambe emsebenzini, oku kungaba yingxaki enkulu. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuxhumeka okunjengomntwana kuya kuqinisekisa ulwalamano lwakho olushushu, oluthembayo kunye nomntwana wakho okhulayo kwixesha elizayo.
Ngoko, ukuba ahlukeneyo "abanqwenela kakuhle" bakuchukumisa ukuba ukhawuleze ulusule umntwana ezandleni zakho, kwaye awuvumelani ngaphakathi, ke ungamphulaphuli umntu. Memezela wonke umntu isigqibo sakho, cacisa ukuba nguwe kuphela onelungelo lokugqiba oko kukulungele umntwana wakho. Zama ukuhlawula ingqalelo encinane kwiingcebiso ezinde, ngokuqhelekileyo zibhekisela kwingqondo yakho yabazali kunye neengcebiso zeengcali ezigunyazayo.
Nathi nje!
Akuqhelekanga kwimiba xa umama, ngokusemgangathweni, ukwaneliseka kuzo zonke iimfuno zentsana, kodwa kunzima kuye, okona kungenjalo i-corny. Yiyo le nto inomqhubelayo ekucingeni ukuba umntwana uyasululwa ezandleni. Kule meko, siza kuphinda sicinge ngemibutho yobomi basekhaya kwaye sibuye siphinde senze imisebenzi kwiintsapho. Bandakanya i-koukhod yintsapho, izahlobo, abahlobo. Unganqikazi ukwenza oku, abaninzi baya kuhlala behlala kunye nemasik yakho ngeeyure ezimbalwa ngeveki. Ukuba kukho amathuba emali, qeshisa i-nanny enhle.
Kwakhona, ukuququzelela ubomi bomama kuya kunceda iindidi ezahlukeneyo ezinokuthi ziphazamise ngethuba ingqalelo umntwana. Ezi zixhobo zomculo ezahlukeneyo, ii-fowuni zeefowuni, ukuvelisa amatshini kunye neebhokisi ezixubileyo. Kukho ii-dazhenomodnye cribs ezenzelwe ukuzolalisa abantwana, ukubandezeleka kwe-colic. Ukuba uthetha konke oku kusebenza, uya kuba lula. Into ephambili kukuba umntwana kufuneka aphazamiseke, kwaye angaziveki elahliwe kwaye enyanelwe.
Akukho xesha lokugcina indlu
Ngokuqhelekileyo le meko kunomama abanabantwana abaningana abangenabuncedo olunzulu ngemisebenzi yasendlini. Ewe, nanku, kufuneka ubeke zonke izinto eziphambili. Ukunqongophala kwexesha eliqhelekileyo, kunokwenzeka ukuba kukuthobela: akukolelani ukuba umfazi wesimanje unomfama omkhulu ofuna ukuhlolwa rhoqo. Ngendlela efanayo ukwenza isondlo esilula, susa iingubo kwindawo yokuhlamba umatshini kwaye uhlambulule amaxesha ambalwa ngeveki kwindlu, udinga ixesha elininzi.
Iimama eziphambili ziya kuba luncedo ukufunda iindlela zokuphatha, ukubandakanya izalamane emsebenzini wendlu, ukufunda indlela yokusebenzisa umtya okanye "kangaroo". Qonda, umntwana wakho ubaluleke ngaphezu kwanoma yimuphi umzi. Kwaye akuyi kuba sezandleni zakho bonke ubomi bakho. Masihlupheke - kungekudala kuya kuba yinde.
Ukuphuma Kwamama Ekuqaleni Kusebenza
Kwenzeka ukuba intsapho ineengxaki zemali. Umama uphoqeleka ukuba aqale umsebenzi kusasa, unike umntwana umntwana, kuba akukho zihlobo ezikhululekile, okanye imali ye-nanny ayikho. Ngokwenene, le yimiba yodwa apho umama ulungelelanisa kulona umntwana.
Enyanisweni, akusiyo yonke into yokuba umntwana kufuneka adibanwe noqhagamshelwano olunxulumene nalolu hlobo. Kufuneka nje kwiinyanga zokuqala ukufundisa umntwana kuluntu lwabantu abahlukeneyo. Yiyeke rhoqo kunye nabahlobo, izalamane, u tyelele. Kodwa ezo iiyure ezingaqhelekanga ezichithayo kunye nosana, zama ukuzalisa ubuninzi ngokufudumala nothando.
Ukungeniswa kwezishwankathelo
Enyanisweni, kuvela ukuba kukho iindlela ezimbini kuphela zokusondeza umntwana ezandleni. Indlela yokuqala kukumfundisa ukuba atshintshe ezinye izinto: amathoyizi atshabalalayo, umculo, nakwiTV. Kubazali abaninzi, le ndlela isebenza kakuhle, nangona kwezinye izinto ayisebenzanga nhlobo.
Indlela yesibini akufuneki ukuba ingqalelo ingqwalasela. Ukumemeza - kuhle, ake. Uya kusetshenziselwa ixesha. Oku kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo kuyimpembelelo engafanelekanga: usana olunesidingo sokunxibelelana nonina alunelisekile, luba nexhala, lube noluncedo, luze lunike abazali iingxaki ezinkulu xa bekhulile. Ngoko kuya kuwe ukuba uguqulwe ngokunyanzela, ubuqili, okanye ukungawunci. Mamela intliziyo yomama wakho - ngokuqinisekileyo ayiyi kuyenza.