Ngokuqinisekileyo, abantu abanokwenzakala bayenza iimpazamo xa bekhulela umntwana, kodwa ngelishwa, akubona wonke umntu onokuzibona aze azame ukuzilungisa ngokuqonda imeko kwinjongo yokujonga injongo. Emva koko, ukuvumela izinto ezinjalo i-nasamotec ayinqatshelwe, kuba kwixesha elizayo ukuvuna iziqhamo ziya kuqhubeka.
Ukuze uphephe ukulahlekelwa ukuqonda phakathi kwentsapho, kubaluleke kakhulu ukufika ngexesha, kunye nomntwana, ukuphonononga oku okanye imeko. Ngaloo ndlela, umntu omdala uya kuqonda apho enze khona iphutha, kwaye ngoko unokukwazi ukulungisa. Ngako oko, kubalulekile ukuqonda le nto okanye loo mpazamo eyenziwe, yintoni kanye esasilungile ngokuphathelele kumntwana.
Iimfuno ezingaphezulu
Ngamanye amaxesha abazali bayalindela kumntwana ngaphezu kwezinto ezinokwenzeka, ngaloo ndlela iphakamisa iimfuno ezithile. Kwaye xa kwenzeka ukuba isiphumo asihambelani nokulindela okuthile, baqala ukucaphuka baze balahlekelwe ngumsindo. Umzekelo, umntwana wayekhohlisiwe esitolo, ngokungahambanga ngenguqu, okanye akazange athengise into oyicelileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha, abazali banzima kakhulu abantwana, ukuphumelela kwesikolo sabo kubahlawulela oko akuzange kwenzeke ngenxa yokungabi nolwazi oluthile.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ube nenjongo kwiimeko ezinjalo, ukuqonda oko kukufanele ukugxekwa, kodwa kutheni ungabikho. Ukunyaniseka ekukhulisweni komntwana kufanele kube yinto engqiqweni, into ephambili akuyikuyidlula. Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba nayiphi indlela yokuziphatha komntwana incike kuphela kubazali. Emva koko, ngabazali bafanele baxelele umntwana ukuba baziphathe njani kwiimeko ezithile, ukuba babe nomgca wokufezekisa. Kwaye kuya kuphela kwaye kuya kwenzeka kwaye kuyimfuneko.
Izenzo zokungahambelani
Oku kudla njalo xa abazali ababini bathathe inxaxheba ekukhulisweni komntwana abakwazi ukuvumelanisa ngezenzo zabo, ngoko ke abavumelani nento eqhelekileyo kumntwana. Ngaloo ndlela, ukunxibelelana kwezi ntsapho kuqulethwe kuphela kwintetho omnye komnye ukwaneliseki, kukho amanqaku amaninzi. Abantwana bavame ukuhlwaywa, kwaye ke, abavumelani ne-snitch, ukuvakalisa oku kungathobeli.
Ukuze uphephe umphumo onjalo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abazali bavumelane phakathi kwabo. Ukufikelela kwiindawo eziqhelekileyo kwaye baqale ukukhangela imfundo kwelinye icala, endaweni yokuguqula uxanduva lokuthatha izigqibo komnye nomnye, ukubonakalisa kumntwana, obaluleke kakhulu kwintsapho yakhe. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuvumelana ngokuthula ngento ethile, kwaye kunye kunye nokuvakalisa izicelo zabo ezidibeneyo.
Ukungabi nabulungisa
Ukuba ucinga kwaye ukhumbule kakuhle, unokufumana imimiselo emininzi apho sityhola khona abantwana bashushu, ngaphandle kokwazi ukuba ngubani na onetyala le nto okanye loo meko. Nangona kunjalo, umoya osebenzayo, ukukhathala okanye uxhatshazo kuthinta ubudlelwane bethu ekhaya. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali ngokwabo bazibandakanya ngenxa yokunxibelelana kakubi, nangona kungekho nto imfuneko yoko, unxibelelwano luya kuba lugqityiwe. Kubalulekile ukuphepha ukukhanya okunjalo, kungenjalo akuyi kuba yindlela engcono kakhulu yokwakha intsapho.
Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba ngesizathu esithile okanye esinye usicaphukise umntwana wakho, kufuneka ukhulume naye ngaye kwaye uchaze ngokwakho, ucele ukuxolelwa.
Izenzo ezingenalo ukulandelelana
Ukunganyaniseki kwezenzo zabazali kunokunceda ukukhutshwa kakubi komntwana. Kwimeko enjalo, abantwana abakwazi ukubona umda phakathi kokuhle nokubi. Ukuba umntwana akahlawulwanga ngenxa yokungaziphathi kakuhle, echaza ukuba akunakwenzeka, ufumanisa ukuba oku kulungile, kuba akukho sihlwayo. Kwaye emva kwexesha elithile, ngenxa yesenzo esifanayo umntwana uyanconywa, ngaloo ndlela kubangela ingxaki phakathi komntwana. Enyanisweni, kula maxesha, ukulungiswa kufuneka kwenziwe ngabazali, kungekhona ngabantwana.
Ukuhluleka kwabazali
Abantu abaninzi banentlanganiso enjalo, xa uhleli, kuhle kwaye ukhululekile ukuba awufuni ukuvuka kwaye ngokukhawuleza umntwana ugijima kuwe kwaye uqala ukufuna ibhayisekile ukuba angene egcekeni okanye aye esitolo kunye naye, okanye athathe enye idonsa okanye ikhabhinethi ukuze athole enye imoto. Kulo mzuzwana, ngenxa yokuphazamiseka koxolo lwakho, ukhula kwaye unomsindo, ukuba ngohlobo oluthile, umntwana uphazamisa ubunye kunye naye. Kodwa enyanisweni, kumntwana oku kude kukungabikho. Kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzisa kwiibhasikidi zeedidi ukuze ufumane idodoli, intombi yakho sele isithembisile ukubonisa ummelwane. Kwaye ityala lakho kumntwana linyanzelisa ukuba ume uze wenze oko kwenkqubo yeprosyton. Ngokuqinisekileyo, lonke ixesha lokuhamba malunga nomntwana akufanelekanga, kubaluleke kakhulu ukukwazi ukwahlula ukubaluleka kwale nto okanye isenzo esivela kwenye i-caprice.
Ngelishwa, kusekho imeko ezininzi apho abazali bephatha abantwana babo ngokungalunganga. Kodwa kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukufumana nokuvuma ityala lakho. Igunya emehlweni omntwana ngokubhekiselele kuwe alihluphekanga nangaliphi na indlela. Kuyahluke. Uza kubonisa umntanakho ngomzekelo wakho ukuba kulungile kangakanani ukwenza, ukuqonda into yakho engalunganga. Ngako oko ungafundisa isifundo kumntwana wakho malunga nendlela yokulungisa iimpazamo zabo. Kubalulekile ukuchazela umntwana ngqo apho uphosakele khona, ngokumalunga naye, nalapho umntwana engakulunganga khona.