Ukugweba okanye ukuvuma?
Iingcali zengqondo zinoluvo lokuba isohlwayo siyimfuneko yemfundo, ukuba ngaphandle kwayo akunakwenzeka ukudala ubuntu obuvuthiweyo kumntwana. Ngoko ke ngabazali benzani ukuba bajezise okanye bazama ukuvuma?
Ngaba kukufanelekile ukuhlwaya umntwana
Ingane, evela kubazali abancinci, ihlala iva izisongelo, ifumana iintlungu ezihlukeneyo kunye nokubetha, ayinabantwana abonwabileyo. Umntwana wase-Utaakogo, ngaphezu kokuzithoba kunye nokungaqiniseki kwihlabathi elijikelezile, uya kuphuhlisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo eziza kubandezeleka kuzo. Uya kuzicingela ngokwakhe kwaye engathandekiyo. Esi simo sengqondo kwimfundo yabantwana asinakubizwa ngokuba yintlanzi.
Nangona kunjalo, ukuvunyelwa ngokupheleleyo kuya kuba yinto engcono kakhulu. Ukuba umntwana uyayazi ukuba nayiphi na into ayiyi kuhlwaywa, akayi kukwazi ukwahlula umda phakathi kokulungileyo nokubi, kunye nokuzikhethela kwakhe kunye nentlungu yakhe. Kubalulekile ukuba uqaphele, nangona kubonakala kungaqhelekanga, umntwana onjalo uzijonga engathandekiyo.
Ngamanye amaxesha, kuphela ngohlwaywa, inkunzi iqala ukuqonda ububanzi bezinto ezivunyelwe. Kwiimeko ezinjalo, abazali kufuneka bahlakulele umvo wokuxanduva kuwo, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo balondoloze igunya labo.
Nangona kunjalo, njani ukuqonda xa uyeka ukujezisa, kunye nendlela yokwenza ngayo, ukuze umntwana angaboni ukuba uyathandwa?
Izizathu zokungathobeli
Ukuze ufunde ukuqonda into enokwenzeka kwaye into engenakuyenza, umntwana kufuneka ahlole umonde nomzali amandla, ekubeni imithetho yokuqala imiselwe nje ngabo. Ngamanye amaxesha oku kubangelwa ukucinga kwengqondo yomntwana: "Kwenzeka ntoni ukuba ndiyenza le nto?" Okanye ukungahambelani kwizenzo zabazali (xa benqabela oko kwakunikwe ngaphambili). Kunzima ukuba abantwana abanjalo bathathe isigqibo malunga nemida, abayazi ngokuhlala kwabo oko kungenakwenziwa, kodwa yintoni enokwenziwa.
Kukho ezinye iindlela zokukhetha, xa ukuziphatha komntwana kucaciswe ngokucacileyo ukukhipha abazali. Oku kunenyaniso, kodwa ukunyusa komntwana kuyahluke kunokuba abazali becinga. Ngokuqhelekileyo, lo mkhuba ungumzamo ongenakunqwenela ukukhangela ingqalelo. Lo mzekelo unokuba ngowomntwana onokuphulukana nothando lomzali.
Ukukhathazeka ngokukhathazeka ngenye yezizathu zokungathobeli abantwana. Umbuso onjalo ungakhokelela kuphela kwimidlalo yekhompyutheni okanye kumabonwakude, kodwa nakwiimidlalo zokudlala. Ukudlala ngamathoyizi eplastiki, umntwana akayi kuba nomxholo wokuthintela ngokupheleleyo. Akaqondi ukuba izenzo zakhe zingabangela intlungu.
Indlela echanekileyo kuyo yonke iminyaka
Musa ukuthetha kunye nokukholisa rhoqo kunokukhokelela kwisiphumo esifunileyo. Ngamanye amaxesha kuphela emva kokuhlwaywa kwengane iqonda imithetho kunye nemigangatho yokuziphatha. Nangona kunjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuba sikhumbule ukuba isohlwayo siwumphumo wokuphulwa kwemithetho malunga ne-raneerbenka. Wena. Musa ukujezisa umntwana ukuba umxelele ngaphambi kokuba akwenze okulungileyo. Into eyona nto kukuba ukuphendula kwabazali kwintwana yesana kufuneka ibe ngokwaneleyo ngokuqwalasela ubudala bakhe. Ngokomzekelo, umculi womculo oneminyaka amabini ongenamsebenzi ukusihlwaya, ngenxa yokuba unako ukutshiza okanye ukulwa. Kakade, oku akuthethi ukushiya yodwa, zama ukuphazamisa lula.
Ukugweba ngothando entliziyweni
Injongo yesijeziso kukunceda umntwana kwiimeko ezenzekile, ukuba aziqonde yena, ukuze kwixesha elizayo iimpazamo ezinjalo aziphindaphindiwe. Ukuze kuhlawulwe le nto, kufuneka umntu alandele iingcebiso, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumntwana.
Ukugweba umntwana, kufuneka ube seburhulumenteni, kwaye kungekhona xa uphumelele. Nangona le ngcebiso kunzima ukunamathela kumsebenzi, okokuqala kufuneka ujongane nemeko yakho. Gweba ngokwenyama, musa ukunyuswa.
Ingane kufuneka ithethe isizathu sokujeziswa kwayo. Kwaye le sizathu kufuneka sibe sisisindo, kwaye kungekhona, umzekelo, ukubonakalisa iimvakalelo zakhe. Kwakhona, into ephambili kukuba umntwana azi ixesha elide lokujeziswa, kunye nokumelana nalo. Nangona kunjalo, abazali kufuneka bakhumbule oku, ukuze bangagudluli igunya kumntwana.
Ukubuyisana. Kuyafaneleka ukuza kunye nesenzo esichasayo esiya kuqinisekisa ixesha lokupheliswa kwesigwebo.
Iimvume zokuVimbela
Amanyathelo okukhawuleza aneendawo zazo. Khumbula, kungakhathaliseki ukuba umntwana wenzani, musa ukumthobela okanye umnyanzelise emfanekisweni. Kananjalo ungakhethi umlinganiselo wokunqongophala kokutya okanye ukunxibelelana nayo, leyo eyona nto iyona isisondelelo kakhulu kumntwana.
Gweba enye kuphela
Ukuhlwaya umntwana kungcono ngaphandle kwamangqina, ukuze ungalimazi ukuzithemba komntwana. Ukongezelela, ukuba ngeli thuba kuya kubakho umntwana ekubukele le nkqubo, naye, unako ukukhathazeka ngengqondo.
Bazali, khumbula, nangayiphi na isohlwayo, umntwana kufuneka azi ukuba kulungile, ukuba uyakuthanda!
Ukudlala imithetho
Kakade ke, kukusoloko kulungele ukuvumelana kwangaphambili kunokusombulula ingxabano eyenziwe. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba uxolo nokuvisisana kuhlala kulawulo kwintsapho, kuseka imithetho yokuziphatha yakho.
Ukuchaswa akufanele kubekho. Ukongeza, kufuneka kubaluleke ngokwenene (umzekelo, ucoceko, imithetho yokuziphatha, njl). Ingane kufuneka ibe nenkululeko yokuzikhethela, kunye neyiphi ithoyizi ukuya kwi-kindergarten okanye yintoni efanelekileyo yokugqoka.
Abazali kufuneka balwe nemilinganiselo eqhelekileyo, unikele kumntwana iimfuno ezifanayo. Ngelo xesha, kubalulekile ukuba ulungele ukugcina isakhelo semvume kwaye, xa kwenzeka ukuphulwa, ukufaka isohlwayo.
Kwintsapho kukho imithetho eqhelekileyo kubo bonke abantu. Ukuba ufuna umntwana enze imithetho ethile, ungaziphuli.
Nangona kunjalo, ungakhohlwa ukuba imigaqo ngexesha elifanelekileyo kufuneka uhlaziywe ngamagama, ngenxa yokuba ayidingi ukukulawula, kodwa kufuneka ukuba uququzelele ubomi bakho.