Indlela yokukhulisa indoda yangempela

Kakade, zonke iintombi zephupha zokudibana naye "indoda yangempela". Enyanisweni, ngamnye ubeka into ngamazwi akhe, kuba ngamnye wethu unengcamango yakhe "yeli xesha." Kodwa aba bantu abalungileyo abawa phantsi esibhakabhakeni, zenziwe ngumntu onje. Kwaye ngaba ngabazali bakhe. Ngoko unokunyusa njani "indoda yangempela" kwinkwenkwe? Masiqonde. Xa uqala ukuthabatha imvumba yakho encinane, umnqweno wakho wokuqala kukukhusela, ukukhusela kwiinkathazo kunye neengxaki, ungavumeli ukuhamba kwakho okwesibini. Emva koko, ihlabathi elijikelezile likhulu kwaye liyingozi, kwaye umntwana wakho uncinci, engacingi kwaye akanakukhuseleka. Enyanisweni, kunyaka wokuqala wobomi bomntwana, kwaye ngokukodwa ezinyangeni zokuqala, umntwana wakho uxhomekeke ngokupheleleyo kuwe, akakwazi ukwenza nantoni yakhe. Kodwa ixesha lihamba, kwaye kunye naye kukho utshintsho kumntwana wakho: lukhula, luzuza izakhono ezintsha kunye nobuchule. Usuvele ufunde indlela yokugcina intloko ngokwawo, kodwa okokuqala ngqa wahlala phantsi, wakhuqa, inyo yokuqala yaphuma, umntwana uthatha isinyathelo sakhe sokuqala kwaye uyaqonda ukuba umntwana wakho akazimeleyo njengokuba sele nje ezimbalwa iinyanga ezimbalwa ezedlule. Uqala ukubonakalisa umlingiswa wakhe, unemibono yakhe kunye neminqweno, eyahlukana neyakho.

Akukho lawulo olupheleleyo
Abanye bakholelwa ukuba "oonyana baka-mama" bakhula kuba bafana abathandwa kakhulu ebuntwaneni. Oku akunjalo. Uthando alukwazi ukutshatyalaliswa ngumntu, kuphela kuphela. Kodwa kungenjalo akudingekile ukujikeleza umntwana nge-hyperopeak kwaye uxhomeke phezu kwayo njengenkukhu ezinkukhu, ukulawula isinyathelo ngasinye. Ngamanye amaxesha kuyimfuneko ukushiya umntwana ixesha elilodwa, kuba le nyana idinga indawo kunye nexesha lokufunda ngokuzimeleyo nolwazi lwehlabathi elikujikelezile.

UYise nendodana
Iingcali zengqondo zenze uphando kwi-kindergartens yaseRussia kwaye yafumanisa ukuba umbuzo onzima kunzima kwaye ungathandeki kubantwana basenkulumeni: "Ngaba uyayithanda umama okanye utata wakho ngaphezulu?" Umfazi udla ngokukhawuleza ukuba usetyenziswe into yokuba unyana wakhe omncinci uhlala naye, kuba uhlala yedwa kunye nosana ezingama-23 kwi-24 engama-24. Kwaye uPata udlala indima yecala kwaye unjengokungathi ukhetha ukutsala: udlala nomntwana ngelixa uxakekile ukupheka, utshintshe i-diaper yakhe, hamba ukuhamba kunye nomqhubi, ukwenzela ukuba ungalondoloza ixesha elifutshane. Kwaye akumangalisi ukuba xa umntwana ekhula kancinci, uqala ukuvakalelwa kukuba unomona ku-ntata, xa umntwana enomdla kakhulu eqala ukudlala kunye nobaba okanye xa ekhohlakele kwaye edlala "shchekokalka" kunye neyinkwenkwe ihleka kwaye ibambe uyise. Ukuba ufuna ukuba unyana angabi "ngunyana womama", kodwa wakhula waba yindoda yangempela, ngoko akufanele uphazamise nabo. Bamele babe nexesha apho bahlala bebodwa kunye, ngaphandle kwakho: hamba kwindawo ethile yokuhamba, ukuya emlanjeni okanye ekulobeni, uye ehlathini kuma-mushroom okanye epakini ukunyusa amadada, ukubandakanyeka kwezinye izinto ezizimele. Ngoko ukuba unyana angabelana ngokuphepha kunye noyise ezinye zeemfihlelo zakhe ezincinci, engazinikeli kuwe. Ngoko ukuba ubaba wayenokuxelela amabali aqondayo ebomini bakhe, apho umntwana angafunda kwaye aqonde into elungileyo nento embi. Ndixelele ngeziphi iimeko ezifanelekileyo ukulwa, kwaye apho ufuna ukuhlala ucelile kwaye udlula okanye indlela yokwenza intombazana yakho oyintandokazi ifuna ukuba ngumhlobo naye, uyise kufuneka athethe ngokuchanekileyo. Ngaloo ndlela, ubuhlobo obuthembayo bubekwe phakathi kobawo kunye nendodana.

Ubudlelwane kwintsapho
Abantwana abancinci bayamkela yonke ingcaciso njengentonga. Abazange bavelise isimo sabo sengqondo kwihlabathi elibangqongileyo kwaye ngoko baxelisa ukuziphatha kwabantu abadala, ngakumbi abazali babo. Akuyimfuneko kwakhona kwakhona ukulungiselela kunye nomfazi wesiganeko kwaye ufumene ubuhlobo - ngokwenene umntwana ubona konke, kwaye ukubonakala okunjalo kakubi kuphazamisa kakhulu isimo sakhe nesimo sengqondo. Ukuba umntwana ubona indlela abazali abanenkathalo ngayo ngabanye, baphathwa ngokuqonda kunye nothando, ngoko ke uhlobo lwenkqubo yokuziphatha kwengane iya kuqhubeka ithatha isisimko.

Amadoda ayalili
Bakhala, nangona kunjalo, ingakumbi ukuba yinkwenkwe encinane. Yindlela nje yokubonisa imeko yakho nemvakalelo. Kwaye ukuba ukususela ekubuntwaneni ukuqhubela intloko kwintsana, ukuba amantombazana kuphela akwazi ukukhala, ibeka nzima kwaye ihlaziye iinyembezi kumntu wekamva. Kwaye ke thina bafazi, siyazibuza ukuba kutheni le nsizwa yethu iwela ingqungquthela okanye ingakumbi, iqala ukuthukuthela nokucaphukisa xa sikhala. Yonke into ivela kubuntwaneni kunye neengcinga ezingalunganga.

Dumisani umntwana
Ngelishwa, sinesinye i-template-ukuba inkwenkwe kufuneka ifundwe ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ingaphantsi kwayo idunyiswa kwaye idimazekile, ingcono. Emva koko siyakhala ukuba amadoda ethu ayabanda ngokomoya. Ungesabi ukukhuthaza umntwana ngezenzo ezilungileyo. Yaye ukuba uthe wawaphula ngengozi umntwana okanye utshwankqile, kuba yonke into eyenzekayo-ke kufuneka ucele imfesane ukuba imxolele kwaye uyichazele ukuba kutheni uziphatha ngendlela efanayo (ukhathele, ungacingi). Emva kwakho konke, ukukwazi ukuzisola nokuzivalela akuyi kwenza ukuba inkwenkwe yakho ibe nesibindi, kodwa iya kusebenza kuphela.

Isibonda - akusoloko ihamba ngendlela efanelekileyo
Abaxhasayo kunye nabachasi "banika ibhanti" kwinkwenkwe ekhulayo, kubonakala ngathi ayiyi kufumana ulwimi olufanayo. Nangona kunjalo, musa ukukhawuleza kwimeko yokuqala ukuhlawula umntwana. Ukuba le nkwenkwe iqala ukuziphatha kakubi, zama ukucacisa imida ecacileyo yento evumelekileyo, emva kokuya ngaphaya koko, imilinganiselo yokugweba ingasetyenziswa. Kodwa konke oku kufuneka kucaciswe kumntwana, ukuba xa wenza okufanayo ngokuzayo, uya kuhlwaywa. Umntwana kufuneka axelelwe, kutheni ujeziswa kwaye kutheni. Kwaye kungcono ukuzama ukwenza ngaphandle kokusetyenziswa kwamandla omzimba. Emva koko, ulwaphulo lungenza kuphela ulwaphulo. Yaye yile ndlela, ininzi, abatyharha bazalwa.

Ukuba ukhulisa unyana, ngoko unethuba elikhethekileyo-ukunika umhlaba umntu ofanelekileyo. Kwaye ngolunye usuku intombazana ithi kuwe: "Ndiyabonga, unyana wakho ungokoqobo!".