Imfundo yabantu
Nangona umntwana engenawo utata, akuthethi ukuba kufuneka aphuhliswe ngokupheleleyo kwimfundo yesilisa. Ngoko ke, umntu kufuneka azame rhoqo ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntwana uchitha ixesha elide kunye nabameli bezesondo zesilisa. Utatomkhulu kunye nomalume kufuneka bamfundise ukuba imfu ayifundisani. Into eyona nto kukuba ufanele uqaphele ukuba imfundo yamadoda ifanele ibe yinkqonkqo kunemfundo yabesifazane. Ngoko ke, ukuba ubaba wakho, umhlobo okanye umzalwana uyamgxeka umntwana wakho kwaye akachaphazelekayo, kwaye uyazi ukuba ulungile - akufuneki ukukhusela unyana wakho. Akufanele nje abe negunya labasetyhini ebomini bakhe, kodwa nangomntu wesilisa kuphela. Ngoko ke, makumkhuphe umntwana kumntu onomgaqo-siseko ophila naye. Ukuba uyihlo uthanda ukuhlala kwikompyutha aze avumele umntwana yonke into, ngokude nje engaphazamisi, akanakukubhalela kwigunya lonyana wakhe. Ngelo xesha, ukuba umntakwenu unyanzelekile kwaye akavumelani, kodwa uhlala esenza ngokusemthethweni, kwaye yena ngokwakhe uphila ngemithetho yesazela kunye nodumo, ke yena nguye omele abe ngumbuso kumntwana, oko kukuthi umbuzo ongenakukufundisa ubomi, lowo unyana uyamthanda kakhulu (kwaye abantwana bathanda abo bavumela yonke into baze bayifake) kunye nalowo unako ukubeka into efanelekileyo kuyo.
Yithi "hayi" kumxhesho ophantsi komama
Abasetyhini abaninzi banomdla kakhulu ngabantwana babo kwaye bahlala bebaxolisa, bethetha ukuba akanabawo, kwaye kunzima ukuba aphile. Esi sikhundla siphosakele ngokupheleleyo. Ukungabikho kobazali akusilo siphene. Cinga ngokwakho, bangaphi abantwana abakhula kunye nooyise-utywala, ootata, abakhange bamkhathalele, ootata-abahluleli. Umntwana wakho, ngokuchaseneyo, wayenenhlanhla. Akukho mntu uyamthonya kakubi. Kwaye akayi kuba necala, kwaye akayi kuvakalelwa ngaloo ndlela ukuba awuyikuyijoba. Ngapha koko, kufuneka uziphatha ngendlela enokuqonda ngayo ukususela kumncinane: Ndingumntu kule ntsapho, kwaye ndijongene nam umama, kungekhona yena kum. Oku akuthethi ukuba akudingeki ukuba uncede unyana wakho, kodwa unonophelo oluninzi aluvunyelwanga. Ukuba kukho into engayisebenzeli yona, ukuba ingabonakaliyo kwaye ayiphutha, oku akunjalo ngenxa yokuba akanalo uyise. Kufuneka nje wenze imizamo emininzi kwimfundo noqeqesho kunye neyona nto ibalulekileyo, ngaphantsi kokuzithoba. Ukuba umntwana akanakuva kwaye uzive uxolo kuye, kungenxa yokuba ushiywe ngaphandle koyise, ngoko akayi kuze acinge ngolu hlobo. Kwaye ukuba umntu uthi akanalo utata, akayi kuba nombono wokukhubeka. Emva koko, unomama omhle, utatomkhulu, umalume, akayi kuqonda ukuba kutheni uPapa engapheliyo kwaye loo ntlungu engabikho mntu onjalo ebomini bakhe.
Ukwenza umhlengikazi
Ukukhulisa inkwenkwana, kufuneka uhlale ukhumbule ukuba impawu zakhe zimele zomelele kunokuba intombazana kwaye akakwazi ukukhala ngaphezu kwanoma yini na ukuya kunina. Ewe, oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana kufuneka ahlale ehlala njengejoni elincinci lehlabathi, ongenandaba. Kodwa ukuba umntwana usoloko ekhala, akwazi ukunikela utshintsho kwaye ugijime kuwe ukuba akhonkceze konke, kwaye kufuneka ufune ngokukhawuleza ukutshintsha imodeli yemfundo. Chaza umntwana ukuba uyinkwenkwe, uyindoda, ngoko akafanele akhale xa abanye abafana bamcaphukisa. Ngokuchaseneyo, kufuneka unike utshintsho, kwaye ungalindi de ukuba umama afike aze avelise. Kumele ulungele ukuba unyana aphulwe kwaye aphulwe. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba ubuhlungu kangakanani kuye, akudingeki ukhale kwaye ubulawe. Ukuba le nto ayidlulanga imida kwaye inkwenkwe ayibethwanga, unokumdumisa ngokukhusela umbono wakhe. Kuphela kuyimfuneko ukubukela ngoko ukuba unyana wayekulwela ubulungisa, kwaye akayi kuthuka abanye. Nangona kunjalo, nayiphi na inkwenkwe kufuneka iguqe ngamadolo, ilwe namanye amadoda kwaye idlale kwimfazwe. Ukuba uthabathe kuye, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukhula njengesihluthulelo, esingayi kukwazi ukuzimela aze ahlambe iinyembezi zakhe ngothando.
Fundisa umsebenzi wakho
Unyana kufuneka akwazi ukwenza umsebenzi wakhe wesilisa. Ngokuqinisekileyo, naye, kufuneka aqheleke ekuncedeni ngemisebenzi yasendlini, kodwa kunjalo, into eyona nto kukuba unokukwenza oko abesifazana akufanele benze. Ngoko ke, ukuba kukho into edinga ukulungiswa endlwini, ihlala iquka umntwana kulo msebenzi. Ukuba wena uyazi kakhulu, umfundise, uchaze, uthi uyindoda, kwaye amadoda ahlala esinceda abafazi. Ukuba awukwazi ukwenza into ethile, cela izihlobo zakho nabahlobo bendoda ngoncedo, ukuze umntwana abe nabo. Kwaye ke, kufuneka bafundise umntwana ukuba luncedo, kwaye xa ebuza ukuba kutheni, kufuneka uchaze ukuba bonke abafana abahlakaniphile kunye nabangane kufuneka bakwazi ukunceda amantombazana, ngakumbi umama wabo.
Musa ukuguquka ngokwendlela efanelekileyo yowesifazane
Ibhinqa eliye lachitha isigxina sokuphila kwakhe likhulisa umntwana, lihlala lifuna ukuhlala lilungele phambili kwihlabathi. Ngoko ke, abafazi baqala ukuthelekisa kunye nabanye oomama kuqala, kunye neentombi zamantombazana, kwaye banomtsalane ukuba umama uyona mhle. Ngoko akukho nto inokuyenza, kungenjalo, ekugqibeleni, inkunzi iya kuba yindodana ka-mama, engazange athathe idibini yena, kuba akukho mntu unokuthelekisa nomama wakhe ofanelekileyo. Ngoko ke, soloko uzama ukuphatha ngokufanelekileyo indawo yakho ebomini bonyana. Ukuba uyakuthanda kwaye uyakuhlonipha, uncedisa kunye neengxakini, akudingeki ukuba umphoqe ukuba anike ixesha lakhe. Xa amantombazana eqala ukubonakala ebomini benkwenkwe, musa ukujongana ngamnye nomnye. Nangona ubona ukuba akukho nto ishushu, ungayifaki i-sazu ukunyanzela unyana wayo ngemfundiso yokuziphatha kunye nemiyalelo yokulala ayinxibelelisi. Okokuqala, awukwazi lo mntu ngendlela ayenzayo, kwaye okwesibini, kufuneka afunde kwiimpazamo zakhe ngokwakhe. Unako ukukhupha into ethile, ukubeka ingozi ngamagosa ayo, kodwa ungaze ubonise ukungathandi kwakho. Ukuba urebenka unobulumko kwaye unengqondo umama, uya kuhlala ebheka umfazi ofanayo. Kodwa wena, njengomama, awusoze waneliseka ngokupheleleyo nabani na, ke uthobe kwizinto ezinjalo kwaye uzilungiselele ukuba umntwana wakho kufuneka abe ngumntu onelungelo kwaye akanalo ilungelo lokwenza izigqibo kuye.
Ewe, okugqibela - soloko usichukumisa umntwana ukuba 'antshitshise' izifundo. Makhe enze ibhola yebhola (basketball, ibhola yombhoxo), hamba ukuhamba, kwaye unomdla wokudubula. Nangona ezi ntlobo zezemidlalo zibuhlungu, usenokuvumela ukuba unyana wakho abe namandla kwaye ahambe. Khumbula ukuba awukwazi ukuwugcina ngokusisigxina kwihlabathi elincinci elidalwe nguwe, okanye uya kusinda apho, okanye ubomi buya kumnyanzela ukuba ashiye, kwaye ke, xa ejongene nehlabathi lenene, yena, ngaphandle kokuba ngumntu wangempela, uya kuba lixhoba.