Indlela yokunikela ingqalelo ngakumbi kubantwana?
Ngokuqhelekileyo umfazi uthi usebenza, uyasusa, uye waya kuthengwa, akanalo ixesha lokunika ingqalelo umntwana. Kwaye ke, umdala kwaye unokuzinyamekela. Le ngxaki ebalulekileyo, ukuba angakwazi ukuzibandakanya ngento ethile. Kuphela kungekudala kusengaphambili kuyaziwa, kunokuba kuya kusebenza kunye nokuba kuyinto enhle kuwe.
Abazali abakucingi ukuba abantwana kufuneka bahlawule ngakumbi. Umntwana uya kukhula ngokuzimeleyo, kodwa ngoxanduva lokunxibelelana naye, xa ekhula, kuya kuba neengxaki ezithile. Uya kuba yimfihlo kwaye ahlawulelwe.
Xa usubuya emsebenzini, ngoko kufuneka uhlawule ngakumbi ingqalelo kubantwana kunye nomsebenzi wakho womzali ukuphakamisa umntwana wakho umntu ontle. Awukwazi ukuvumela "isitalato" ukukhulisa umntwana. Kodwa ungayiphatha njani yonke into kwaye unike abantwana bakho ixesha kunye neengqalelo?
Zama ukubandakanya abantwana kwimicimbi yasekhaya. Ufuna ukupheka isobho. Bandakanya umntwana ukuba ahlambulule amazambane, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, uthembisa ukudlala nomdlalo owuthandayo. Ngale ndlela unako "ukubulala 2 onogwaja". Ixesha lesidlo liya kupheka ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uza kuchitha ixesha kunye nomntwana, ekuphekeni, uthetha naye, umfundise ukwenza into engeyona nje inomdla kuye, kunye nokudlala umdlalo onomdla, unako ukuphumla emva komsebenzi. Awukwazi kuphela ukudlala imidlalo yezingane, fundisa ukudlala umntwana kumdlalo oya kuba mnandi kuwe.
Xa uya esitolo, xelela umntwana ukuba ufuna uncedo lwakhe kwaye uthathe nawe. Ukongeza, ngaphambili uqala ukutsala umntwana ukuba athenge, ngokukhawuleza uza kwenza uluvo lokuba luyimfuneko kwaye lunomdla. Kulo venkile, mthengele i-trifle-umatshini wokubhala, unomtsalane-ummangaliso okanye ijusi, ngoko-ke ekutyelele esitolo, umntwana uya kuba nememori enhle.
Ukususela esemncinane, fundisa umntwana ukuba aphumle kunye nosapho. Yaye nangona wena kunye nomyeni wakho bengenayo imfuno efana nayo, kufuneka baqulunqwe umntwana. Umama, ekhumbula ubuntwaneni bakhe, egcwele izikhumbuzo ezimnandi kunye neentloba, angakhohlisa indoda yakhe ukuba ithathe intombi yakhe yokuloba.
Intombi isetyenziselwa ukutshatyalaliswa kwabazali bayo, bayichitha yonke intlanzi yokuloba kunye kunye, bayancedana ukuba bathabathe, bathathe iigesi, bakhanyise umlilo baze badle i-shish kebab. Kwintsapho enjalo akuyi kuba nombuzo wendawo yokudoba okanye ukufumana. Njengomthetho, abafundi ofunda nabo bakhetha i-disco, nangona i-nightclub yama-14 ubudala ihamba ebusuku. Yaye intombi yam inomdla wokuba nabazali bayo, kwaye bazama ukumnceda ngakumbi. Ebudeni bemini, intombi iyanxibelelana noontanga, kwaye ngohlwaya abazali bathatha iibhayisikili baze baqhube yonke intsapho. Ukuhamba ngaloo ndlela kusihlwa kuyiluncedo kumzimba obuthakathaka, obuncedo kumalungu kunye nezihlunu, ngaphandle koko, bazisa ngakumbi intsapho.
Ukuba ezi zihambo ziqala ukususela ebuntwaneni, umntwana akayi kubona njengobundlobongela obomntu. Indlela abantwana abakhula ngayo kuxhomekeke kubazali, kungekhona kubahlobo, izitalato kunye nezikolo. Ukuba abazali bathatha iimpahla zabo kwimisebenzi yabo, ke abantwana baya kukhula.
Kodwa ukuba abazali bachitha ixesha elininzi kunye nabantwana babo, batyala imali yabo ekukhuliseni uthando nomphefumlo wabo, ngoko abantwana baya kukhula ngabantu abahloniphekileyo nabafundi. Kodwa ukuba intsapho ihlala isela, ixabana, ingxabano, umntwana uyakhula "njengokhula" kwaye akukho mbuzo wokuba uphuhliswe. Emva kwakho konke, abantwana baxhamla ngokwabo, njengeeponji, konke abakubonayo. Kwaye ukuba babona okulungileyo, bafumana "okulungileyo" kuphela. Kukho ukungabikho, kodwa bengatshatanga. Thanda abantwana kwaye musa ukulibala ukuthetha nabo, banike ixesha lakho.