Uthintana nantoni na oko kubalulekile kumama nomntwana?
Ngenxa yobubele besikhumba, usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa luqala ukufumana nokucwangcisa ulwazi oluvela kwihlabathi langaphandle: into elungileyo nento engalungile; iyamnandi - ayiyithandeki, njl njl. Inyane liyabona, liva, kodwa kwiinyanga zokuqala uqala ukuqonda ihlabathi kuphela ngeendlela zokuthinta kunye neengqondo zesikhumba. Nangona esemncinci kakhulu, uqala ukuqonda izinto okanye abantu abanobungane kuye, kwaye ezingekho.
Sekude kube yinyaniso: xa ubambezela umntwana, umanga, umsibe, uyitye, ungakhathazeki, uyakhala. Ngokuphambene noko, ikhula ngokukhawuleza kwaye iya kuba yinto ethobela ngakumbi.
Khumbula ukuba umntwana uvela kwindawo ekhuselekileyo nekhuselekileyo yomama wengqumbo kwilizwe elingaqhelekanga nelingaziwa kwaye lifuna i-caresses. Umama kule meko, yedwa onokumncedisa umntwana ukuba afunde ukulungelelanisa ngokufanelekileyo kuyo. Ukuba awufuni ukuba umntwana wakho akhule aze avaliwe okanye ahlasele, zama ukumnyathela kwisifuba ngokuphindaphindiweyo, uthathe ngokubamba, ukubetha nokumanga. Uqhagamshelwano olunentsebenziswano luqinisekiso se-psyche enempilo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, abaninzi oomama baye baqaphela ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ukunyuka komntwana kunzima kwaye kunokungahambi kakuhle, kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuba uthinte, njengoko behamba ngokukhawuleza baze batheleleke, izihlunu ziphumle.
Indlela yokuphuhlisa ukuthetha ngokubambisana nomntwana kumzali?
Ukususela kwiinyanga zokuqala emva kokuzalwa umntwana ulele kakhulu, zama ukusebenzisa yonke iminithi yokuvuka kwakhe. Yenza i-tapping gentle and stroking massage: ayiyi kukhulula kuphela i-hypertonia ye-muscle, kodwa iya kuyenza itye.
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa:
- AmaMoms kufuneka ahlale ecinezela umntwana entliziyweni yakhe. Esi sandi siqhelekile kuye esibelethweni kwaye sibonisa ukhuseleko, ukufudumala.
- Gxininisa iintende zezandla, ulandele ngomunwe wakho. I-Curl kwaye ungagodli umnwe ngamnye. Ungesabi ukukrazula izithende, uzixoxe.
- Ngexesha lokuhlamba, kucetyiswa ukuba uhlambe umntwana wakho rhoqo kwizandla zakho. Ukunyakaza kwama-massage nako kwamkeleka.
- Ukugxila ezandleni zezandla enye yindlela efanelekileyo kakhulu yokuzinqabisa nokunceda umntu alele. Ukunyakaza kwakho akufanele kubukhali okanye kuhlukeneyo, zama ukugubha ngesantya esifanayo. Kulungile ukuba i-lullaby ihamba kunye ne-lullaby ezolile. Kwakhona uzinakekele ukushisa kwangaphakathi okunethezeka.
Ukwazi ukuba unxibelelwano olunjani kunye nendlela yokuyisebenzisa ekunxibelelaneni akuyi kukuvumela kuphela ukuhlakulela ingqondo yengqondo yomntwana, kodwa kwakhona, njengomzali, ukwazi zonke iimvuyo zokubonakalisa uthando lwakho.