Ngaba umntwana kufuneka akholelwe kwimimangaliso?

Omnye abazali ekukhulumeni kwabantwana ngemimilingo, amathoyizi aphilileyo, umlingo. Abanye, ngokuchaseneyo, bahlala bekhunjuzwa ukuba imimangaliso ayikho kwaye akufanele ukholelwe kwiindumiso. Kodwa indlela yokwenza okulungileyo? Ngaba kufanelekile xa useneminyaka yobuntwana ukufundisa umntu ukuba imimangaliso ikhona okanye ngaba kufuneka ilungele ngokukhawuleza ubomi boqobo, ukuze uphephe ukudideka?


Isidingo sokucinga

Abantwana kufuneka bacinge. Ngombulelo kwiingcamango, umntwana uhlakulela ukucinga nokuqeqesha i-brain tudole, ejongene nobuchule. Ukuba oku kungenzeki, loo mntu akhula ngokwaneleyo, akakwazi ukudala into entsha. Oku kusebenza kokubhaliweyo kokubhala, kunye nobuchwepheshe, isayensi. Ukuba umntwana ebuntwaneni bakhe wayengacingi, akanakuhamba ngaphaya koko awaziyo, kwinto asetyenziswa ngayo. Yingakho imingcele ibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana. Kwaye ngaphandle kokholo kwimimangaliso, akunakukwazi ukucinga. Xa ecinga into ethile, kufuneka aqinisekise. Ukuba akayi kukholwa, ke umdla kwimfesane kumntwana uya kulahla. Yingakho abantwana befuna ukukholelwa kwimimangaliso.

Ngaphantsi kweemeko unako umntwana omncinci angakhathazeka ngenxa yokuba amathoyizi akhe angaphila ubomi bawo, ukuba ngoNyaka omtsha, iSanta Claus uza kuzisa izipho. Xa ibhungu lidlala, limela indlela iibheyi zakhe eziphila ngayo, isebenza. Akacingi ngokwenza zonke izenzo esikhundleni sabo. Kunoko, umntwana uyakholelwa ukuba inceda, kuba umlingo awukwazi ukubonwa ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kwimeko xa abazali bengavumelani ngokupheleleyo nabantwana ukuba imimangaliso ikhona, abantwana banokulahlekelwa ngumdla kwimidlalo. Emva kwayo yonke into, kumathoyizi umntwana wabona abahlobo bakhe, kwaye njengoko kunjalo, abahlobo abakho, ngoko akafuni ukuchitha ixesha elinye kubo. Iimvakalelo kunye nemimangaliso kuyimfuneko kwi-intanethi, ngokuvisisana nophuhliso lomntwana.

Abanye abazali bakholelwa ngokuphosakeleyo ukuba abantwana kufuneka bazinyamekele izinto ezenzekayo ebomini, ukuze emva koko badideke. Kodwa ukuba ususa kumntwana inkolelo yemimangaliso, ngoko kunye needemon uya kuthatha kuye kunye nomdla kwizinto ezininzi. Ngokomzekelo, umntwana omncinci uhlala efunda iifriythi. Ufika kwihlabathi labo lemilingo kwaye unomdla. Vitoga intsana sele ifuna ukufunda ukufunda, ukuba kwihlabathi lezimanga ngaphandle kwabazali. Ukuba umntwana akakholelwa kummangaliso, ngoko akayi kubona intsingiselo yokufunda. Aba bantu abadala bafunda ukuze banandiphe i-syllable enhle, bahlalutye isitayela esitsha, vula, bahlekise njalo njalo. Abantwana bafunda kuphela kwihlabathi lomlingo, ukuze bafumane ukuba yintoni enye imimangaliso eyenzekayo. Ukuba le mimangaliso ingabakhathaleli, abantwana abazithathi zaknigi kunye neekhathuni, kodwa ezi ntlobo zobugcisa zinceda abantwana ukuba bahlakulele ngokucacileyo, bafundise iimpawu ezisisiseko njalonjalo. Ukuba umntwana akafuni ukubukela iikhathuni, kuba yonke into ayinyani kwaye ngenxa yesizathu esifanayo ayifuni ukuyifunda le ncwadi, kuvela ukuba uyayenqaba yonke iifom zezemfundo esemncinane. Inyaniso yokuba abazali bayomfundisa ukuba abale kwaye abhale akuzange kube yinto ebambelela ekuphuhliseni jikelele ukuba abantwana bafumana ngokuzimeleyo, bewela kwimimandla yemilingo.

Ngenxa yokukholelwa kumlingo, umntwana uyaba nolwazi olubanzi, uzama ngokuzimeleyo ukuze wandise i-horizons yayo, ukuze athole lo mlingo ebomini. Abanye baze bekhulile kwimininzi yomphefumlo bakholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba umlingo ukhona. Kule nto akukho ntoyikekayo kwaye iyatshitshisa, ngokuchaseneyo, ngokubulela kokholo kummangaliso, umntu unethemba elikhulu kwizinto ezenzekayo kwaye akaze alahle, kuba uyazi: ekugqibeleni yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle.

Ungubani, ihlabathi elingenasimangaliso kubantwana?

Abazali abanqwenela kakhulu ukuba abantwana babo bakhule kwihlabathi lenene abazange bacinge ukuba inkohlakalo kakhulu kumntwana omncinci. Kukho izinto ezininzi kuyo, apho i-psyche ephosakeleyo yengqondo yomntwana ongasesekuqaleni iyakhathazeka. Kwaye ukuba kukho into enyantsekayo, yabona umsebenzisi okholelwa kwimimangaliso, ngoko uya kukwazi ukunikela ngenye indlela ebalulekileyo yokuphuhliswa kweemeko, eziza kuchaza ukuba eqinisweni, akuzona zonke izinto ezibuhlungu njengoko kubonakala ngathi. Kodwa kubantwana abangakholelwa kwimimangaliso, enye indlela ayisekho.

Abanye abazali ngesizathu esithile bakholelwa ukuba ukukholelwa kumlingo njengomntwana, umntu uhlala ngonaphakade kwihlabathi elikhohlisayo kwaye akayi kukwazi ukuwamkela into eyiyo. Enyanisweni, ngemfundo efanelekileyo, ukufumana ulwazi oluthe xaxa, umntu ngokwakhe uqala ukuqonda ukuba akukho hlabathi elimangalisayo, ihlabathi elikhawulezayo. Kodwa ekukhuleni, ushiya emphefumlweni wakhe inxalenye encinci yethemba lemimangaliso, eyamnceda ukuba aqonde into enenjongo ngakumbi kunabo bahlala ngokuzikhethela. Ngoko ke, akukho ntoyikekayo kwaye iyatshitshisa into yokuba umntwana ukholelwa kwi-vdodo. Ngokuchaseneyo, le ntembelo ikhusela abantwana kwiinkxalabo ezininzi. Xa behlala kwihlabathi lemilingo, zonke iziganeko ezimbi zibonakala zibuhlungu kangaka, oko kuthetha ukuba kuba lula ukuba umntwana aphile.

Kwimbali kunye neenganekwane, kuthiwa umntu kufuneka abe nesibindi, onamandla kwaye onobuqili, kwaye ahlale elungile kubantu abalungileyo. Ngoko ukusondela kwihlabathi lemilingo, abantwana, ngokuchaseneyo, bafunde imithetho nemilinganiselo enokukunceda ngonaphakade. Kodwa ukuba oko akukwenzeka, umntwana unokuthi aphethwe yinyani, akhule evalwe, akafuni ukusondela kubantu, ngonya. Abanye abantu bakuthola kunzima ukukholelwa, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ukuziphatha okunjalo kuba ngumphumo wokungabikho komlingo ebuntwaneni bomntu onjalo. Ekuqaleni sifaka into eyinyani, kunzima nakakhulu ukuba siyiqonde. Ihlabathi lethu likhulu kakhulu kunokuba sithanda. Yingakho kungacetyiswa ukuba abantwana babhekane neenjongo zobomi ngokukhawuleza. Ukufikelela kwiminyaka ethile, kufuneka nje babone okwenene kunye nomlingo. Ngokufanayo, kulula kakhulu kubantwana abancinci ukuchazela into ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga umlingo.

Impembelelo yemfundo yemilingo

Ukuba umntwana ukholelwa kwimimangaliso nemilingo, kulula ukukhuphula. Umzekelo, abantwana abanako ukuthobela abazali, kuba bayazi ukuba baya kuxolela, nokuba bahamba. Kodwa umntwana uya kucinga ngokuziphatha kwakhe xa bemxelela ukuba uSanta Claus akazenzi izipho kubafundi ababi. Abantwana abanakho ukungaqiniseki ngamathoyizi abo, baqhekeza kwaye bawalahle, kodwa ukuziphatha kwabo kutshintsha ngokupheleleyo, xa abazali bethetha ukuba iibheyi ziphila kwaye zibuhlungu xa ziphathwa ngale ndlela.Khumbula, abantwana abancinci abanalo ngcamango ngamathuba emali, ubunzima kunye njalo, kodwa sele sele bekwazi ukuziva uxolo ngokuphila. Yingakho, kwiminyaka yokuqala, kufuneka usebenzise imilingo, ukuze unqume umntwana ukuba enze into embi.

Ngoko ke, ukuba usayiphendula umbuzo: kulungile ukuba umntwana akholelwe kwimimangaliso, ngoko kufuneka utsho "ewe" nzima, kuba abantwana kufuneka bahlale becinga ukuphuhlisa baze bakwazi ukucinga ngaphandle kwebhokisi.